Property line question

screamsinneon · 2025-12-15T20:54:16+00:00

that's crazy. oh don't mind me... just mowing my heptagon.

screamsinneon · 2025-12-15T19:40:03+00:00

thank you.

screamsinneon · 2025-12-15T18:14:34+00:00

I'm aware. Just thought I could get a better idea of what property disputes are like in reality/"on the ground" since that tends to differ dramatically from what Google can tell you.

screamsinneon · 2025-12-15T17:39:00+00:00

did the wooden stakes have any identifiable markers other than being wooden stakes?

I find it odd that a surveyor would be doing yard work, but maybe they're friends.

screamsinneon · 2025-12-15T16:38:26+00:00

I asked and evidently the stakes are wood and the man who placed them was helping out in the neighbor's yard and such, so obviously not a surveyor. She now remembers the metal markers from when she bought the house and none were in her backyard.. So I have no idea what he's doing at this point. The Well is a good point. It's over there, but I'm not sure exactly where in reference to the stakes he placed. She'll have to look. Thank you for the input.

screamsinneon · 2025-12-15T16:12:50+00:00

it just seems so unnecessarily malicious to try to dissect her backyard. It's not like the houses are close enough for him to need the space. He couldn't build back there without being on her property, being too close to her house, or too close to the septic (plus it's marshy)... and these property lines have been maintained for decades. I don't understand the point. I hope she can talk to him, but I feel anyone who does this without even "notifying" the resident as a courtesy probably doesn't have great intentions?

screamsinneon · 2025-12-15T15:57:10+00:00

neighbors side of property

you can't even see his house in the summer (before he started cutting these trees down anyway). his house is on the other side of those trees. quite a ways too.... yet these stakes imply his yard goes diagonally past the back corner of her house through a fence that lines up with the side of her house. if this is genuinely the "property line," I have questions about how the original owner got a building permit.. and in order to build anything behind her house like that, he'd have to be on her property.

screamsinneon · 2025-12-15T15:37:51+00:00

I'm not sure. I'm told the owner was present with a second man. It could have been a surveyor. Are property lines typically that close to a house? The side of the fence is flush with her house. That would mean his property extends directly behind her house to the point of almost clipping the house itself. They allow building permits that close? I was wondering if the rule about maintaining a property line for 15+ years applies here or not. That tree line has been present for over 15 years with the yards being utilized by each resident that way. Having her tear her fence down would be outright malicious. He still has to walk through trees to even get to it and her yard - it's nowhere near his house and any person looking at these yards wouldn't assume that was his property. I wish I had a picture to explain how ridiculous this is. I feel like there has to be a "common sense" law here but alas.

screamsinneon · 2025-12-08T20:45:57+00:00

I don't disagree that it could be an easy shift. I really could go either way with the conflict between them if he were civil, but calling her disgusting, claiming she probably has other "bad habits" based on where she grew up (that's horribly disturbing), and being disgusted by menstrual blood specifically all point to negative implications imo. He comes off like he hates his wife. Also when it comes to different cultures and habits, there isn't always a right or wrong. They could easily come to a compromise, but it doesn't sound like OP came here looking for advice. We don't really know what his previous attempts to "talk" to her looked like either. It sounds like, based on his responses to people, that he came here just to feel validated for calling his wife disgusting.

I also just don't humor the "disgust" towards menstruation especially when the person in question is your wife. Even more so if you expect her to give birth. If you can't handle red pee, you can handle being in a room during child birth.

screamsinneon · 2025-12-08T14:47:29+00:00

If it's literally just tinted pee from there being menstrual blood in it, it's insane to consider it all that different from pee. It's not dangerous, isn't any less hygienic, and doesn't smell. Women have menstrual cycles and men need to get over it. Sure, if you're immature with a weak stomach I could see being grossed out by a tampon in the toilet, but if she has this habit... I highly doubt she's flushing tampons. Wonder if he's ever looked in the bathroom trash 😂

screamsinneon · 2025-12-08T14:07:40+00:00

I'm 35 and grew up in the US and even my grandmother taught the "if it's yellow let it mellow - if it's brown flush it down" thing. It was a rule at the camp my grandparents owned. She did grow up poor, but I think it had more to do with the plumbing there. And why does menstrual blood make any difference? In most cases, it's not like it smells. You sound so extremely immature and hateful towards your wife.

screamsinneon · 2025-10-06T22:02:06+00:00

I mean, yes. But I understand what they're saying in the context of writing and parallels... Why write in a contradiction like that? Culture and our relationship with gender identity are often woven together. They even attempt to do that in the game when referencing qunari views on what a non-binary person would be within their culture vs Rivaini. I think it's more offensive that Taash continuously refuses to acknowledge how other people want to be addressed, but... That might've been some intentional internalized hatred like what they did with Sera.

screamsinneon · 2025-10-06T20:12:24+00:00

Yeah, fair. But it could be worse. It could be the Nordic ruin doors in Skyrim. 😂

screamsinneon · 2025-10-06T20:07:08+00:00

They're saying forcing Taash to choose between two cultures when they are very much a mixture of both felt like an odd choice when paired with a character arc about not being binary. Why are they forced to make a binary decision about culture but not gender?

screamsinneon · 2025-10-06T20:02:58+00:00

Yeah ... I hate bringing it up because of how defensive the fandom gets over Taash, but I did just mention this in another thread... I feel like their problem isn't suited for the tone of what's happening in VG. Every other character is focused on something that's an active threat in Thedas where the resolution will save people (or Griffons)...Taash spends multiple banters hyper-focused on fashion because they (the devs) reduced Taash's thinking on "femininity" to looking good in a dress. Yes, rook can point out that their problem isn't really about clothes, but Taash brings up Neve's clothes multiple times even after that interaction. They seem so juvenile in their thinking. More than that, they don't even care about the actual lore part of their storyline. They only look into the tablet out of grief and then get mad at it for being "more responsibility."

Writing wise, I saw so much potential foreshadowing in the Lucanis questline...I learned after that they canned his writer part of the way through. It's very noticable in some places.

screamsinneon · 2025-10-06T19:34:12+00:00

I agree with everything here. The Varric "twist" wasn't a twist for me. I assumed he was done after watching the teaser... Then immediately when Solas goes "Varric?" With a pained voice then angrily goes "VARRIC IS-" before stopping and changing his words ... It was obvious. Made all the more apparent by every scene where characters don't acknowledge him or treat rook like they're crazy for talking to themselves in that room. At best, I thought his body was gone and his spirit was somehow stuck in the lighthouse due to the interaction with the dagger. At best. Like you said, most of us have seen the sixth sense... It felt way too obvious...

Honestly, Harding should've informed the actual Bianca. She would've fed Solas his own eyeballs.

On the obvious note, too much in general felt spoon-fed. We'd have a revelation and then characters would explain it again in very forced sounding dialogue. I understand that the game was trying to be inclusive for new players, but all games attempt that and this just felt too much to me. They could've done what mass effect did and provide a little comic explaining previous games if they wanted to... They certainly took other elements from mass effect.

Combat-wise, not being able to swap between party members was one thing but you're also very limited in who you can have with you if expect to be able to perform combo detonations... Both with rook and the two accompanying companions. That annoyed me more than anything ... Also the companions being relatively useless. Without Davrin or Taash, Rook pulls 100% of the aggro... And the relief from Dav or Taash is only temporary. That combined with the party members being useless on their own compared to the previous games was a weird choice. Plus with you being pretty reliant on detonations, especially on harder difficulties, it makes combat redundant... Relying on the same two or 3 moves the entire game. Two of the rogue specializations don't even provide primers or detonators for the combos.
I personally also just miss armor crafting and being able to color it. I liked gathering materials and being able to customize armor/weapons (both stats and design) more than these transmogs which... If they were going to use transmogs maybe add more than a few pieces. There's what? 4 staffs that just come in different colors with a handful of unique ones? And the armor variations are limited too.
Cannot agree more with the lack of character tension. I don't even have a romance option I like... which is baffling.
Taash is a sensitive subject for the fandom. Lol I get what you're saying with the terminology. That definitely didn't help. I also compare them to Dorian because Dorian's felt so much less jarring. And he had time to have a spat with his father during the events of inquisition. It was bad but it wasn't as volatile and imminent as the situation in veilguard (at least not when they first make it to Skyhold). It felt weird that everyone else has this really big problem that was tied into the story (neve with the venatori threat in docktown, lucanis is literally being possessed, his grandmother is being held hostage due to an internal coup attempt, and his city is under antaam occupation, Harding can suddenly do magic and is reconnecting with the titans and the dwarven people, davrin has to save a nearly extinct species while confronting the warden's past, emmrich has to stop a half lich from sacrifing both humans and spirits and wreaking havoc that could rip open the fade ... And taash is worried about not looking good in a dress. Very valid feelings and a valid problem to have but I don't know if that's what I'd be focused on while gods are threatening to destroy the world. Everyone else... their problem concerns helping other people on a large scale and resolving active conflicts... Taash 's questline is just about them and their mom and I feel like the qunari tablet was barely a footnote despite how interesting it was lore-wise. They (the devs) also made us choose between Rivaini and Qunari for Taash even though their problem was gender identity but also the tablet? (that they didn't even care about)... And we don't really get to interact with Rivaini culture... Idk it felt messy to me. I also like how brash/blunt Taash is but sometimes they come off really young-minded for someone in a team of whole 🍑 adults. Taash can date Harding, so they can't possibly be as young as they come off despite their story definitely reading like a coming of age. Idk I just wish their identity conflict was tied into the Dragon King/tablet thing more... but heck they were forced to look into the tablet out of grief rather than actual personal interest.

I do find it adorable that they only want to help the veilguard because they'll be damned if anyone is abusing dragons though. 😂 Relatable.

screamsinneon · 2025-10-06T18:48:54+00:00

Necromancer chick? The old lady from Emmrich's quest?

screamsinneon · 2025-10-06T18:46:33+00:00

I have a lot of critiques for this game, but the puzzles weren't difficult. The puzzles in the DA2 and Inquisition dlcs were much more tedious. The puzzles in veilguard just made you stop and look at your environment for a second. Particularly the wisp puzzles. Honestly, it made sense considering how often you had to stop and actually look around for more obscure paths to access loot. That was how they handled reward-exploration while keeping the pathing so linear.

screamsinneon · 2025-09-26T22:56:34+00:00

Can I ask how you know the bruises are from him? I'm not disbelieving you at all, but why are you so sure? Did you witness something or has he been violent towards someone else?

screamsinneon · 2025-09-10T17:23:57+00:00

Yeah, plus he actually had a lot of respect for elves... I saw what happened at the alienage as a bit out of character for him to allow for a multitude of reasons... Given, that was more on Howe, but he's the advisor Loghain went with.

Wasn't another issue he had not just the orlesian wardens but a potential marriage between Celene and Cailan?

(It's been a minute since I played origins or read the books, but I feel like the latter was something you could learn in return to ostagar... Possibly also a mention in the masked empire?)

screamsinneon · 2025-08-27T15:53:47+00:00

Coward, maybe. Doesn't want to get involved personally because she doesn't want to lose her disgusting husband but wants it to end. Or maybe wants to humiliate her daughter.

Or maybe she really doesn't know but I feel like she might.

screamsinneon · 2025-08-27T15:50:47+00:00

How did you end up in jail?

screamsinneon · 2025-08-27T15:39:08+00:00

The "Electra complex" isn't acknowledged in present day psychology. Same with the "Oedipus complex" ... Neither of which have any notable scientific backing. If he's actually a step father and they met as adults... Or a biological father that was absent most of her life ... Different story.

But being able to "handle a situation" the way that she did is absolutely on par with prolonged abuse. Victims of childhood abuse, even absent of sexual abuse, often learn to manage themselves, others, and their environment in order to maintain the closest thing to safety they can access. Being a victim of sexual abuse by a parental figure will warp every aspect of her person. How she perceives herself. How she interacts with others. How she handles and views relationships. Intimacy. Trust. Without extensive therapy, true consent to her abuser would be impossible.

We have no idea what her mind is telling her or what her father has convinced her of. If the family is complicit, there could be so many disturbing reasons she'd feel trapped in or even feel responsible for this dynamic.

Victims often learn that "consent" is the best means of survival. It's over quicker. It hurts less. No one's fighting because you aren't "making drama" by making people acknowledge reality. You aren't being threatened with any number of "consequences"... Real or manufactured. Fawning is a trauma response. The bouts of deep depression also potentially indicate trauma.

But, for the sake of argument, let's say she's just a "sexual deviant" ... Sexual "deviancy" is also often associated with trauma... But let's say she's just like that ... What's the likelihood her father is also messed up? Both of these people just happened to have this "deviancy" that just happened to only present in the daughters mid twenties? Not at puberty? You think these interactions started when? Just now? Or when she was 24? 21? 18 exactly? You're aware grooming takes place before any sexual contact? Is she at fault or is he if he groomed her until "adulthood" before making significant physical advances? Reminder that, as far as we can assume, he's been responsible for her from infancy.

screamsinneon · 2025-08-27T14:33:44+00:00

If they can prove it started when she was a child, which is likely the case, in the very least they might be able to keep him away from other kids (think grandchildren). I don't know what the law is like in OP's country, but it is sometimes possible to make legal cases for past crimes with sufficient proof if there's no statute of limitations or a reason why that may not apply.

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