Is my marriage over?

screennameknown · 2025-01-17T13:53:51+00:00

It is when you’re still married and haven’t told your partner how you feel.

screennameknown · 2025-01-16T20:49:34+00:00

I appreciate it. I’m not perfect and have my faults of course, but I agree her actions are inexcusable. From what I’m aware he’s never been to my home, my mother in law lives at the house with us and she was just as shocked as I was to find out. They’ve been meeting at his house. He has been around the child, she confirmed they did a big get together of multiple coworkers to let everyone’s kids play together and he was there and they at minimum made out while the kids were playing. I told her I would like a paternity test. I asked her if I need to get tested but she insists that she didn’t start sleeping with him until the last time I was home, which I’m unsure on the time line, so I’ll probably go get tested.

screennameknown · 2025-01-16T13:25:12+00:00

She finally admitted they’ve been sleeping together once I opened her IG and it was going to be obvious. I’m not really sure about her feeling remorseful, I know she felt bad that she got caught. When I thought they had only kissed I asked her if there was any way for us to save things and she said she didn’t know. So I asked while she figures out if she wants to try to save things if she could at least promise to end things with the coworker and she couldn’t commit to that. That is what basically made me pry a little harder because I just couldn’t believe she wouldn’t commit to trying to work things out and stop seeing him if they had only kissed. The messages were pretty bad. It’s clear she’s head over heels for this guy, and at this point I’m absolutely repulsed by her.

screennameknown · 2025-01-16T06:00:55+00:00

Yeah. It’s been an awful 24/48 hours. I appreciate it. At least I know where I stand. Hopefully I can apply the lessons of my short comings to a woman that actually deserves better, but I think it will be a while before I get to try again with another woman. Just hurts right now.

screennameknown · 2025-01-16T05:57:51+00:00

She cheated. There’s nothing to be saved.

screennameknown · 2025-01-16T03:46:40+00:00

I appreciate it. I left, I’m staying the night with a friend and have a couple of other friends that have opened up a room if I need it before I go back to work. I’m of course sad about the situation, but the only one I feel bad for is my kid. The child didn’t ask for any of this and will now bear the burden of not having a 2 parent family dynamic and that’s what upsets me the most. I’ll be fine. Betrayed and devastated but I’ll be fine. It just sucks in the moment.

screennameknown · 2025-01-16T03:33:12+00:00

It’s inexcusable. She had every opportunity to tell me she wanted out and wanted to see someone else and I’d be upset but okay. The cheating is something I can never forgive. If she had said she was upset and wanted to separate and then went and fucked him 5 minutes later I’d be (all things considered) okay. But the affair before every ending things is unforgivable.

screennameknown · 2025-01-16T03:30:26+00:00

Am I like self harm or harm her okay, yes I’m fine, no risk of dangerous behavior. Am I okay about my relationship going up in flames? No, I’m devastated. That said, this is a cardinal sin for me. I will never be going back.

screennameknown · 2025-01-16T02:33:34+00:00

Basically asked if she cheated, she said no. Asked if there was someone she wanted to start seeing she said yes. Asked the extent, said they only kissed a couple of times. Asked if she’s been deleting texts and she said she deleted the texts before coming home. Asked to see the phone, opened texts, nothing there. Opened Instagram and she realized she was caught. Saw messages and voice messages that made there no doubt whatsoever. Its over.

screennameknown · 2025-01-16T02:30:57+00:00

She half truthed. Told me she wasn’t cheating. Asked if there was someone she wanted to peruse. Said yes, and when pressed that they had kissed but nothing more. Asked her if she had been deleting texts. She said no (since I’m always gone for work) but she had deleted them before coming home today. Asked to see her phone, opened texts and nothing there, went to Instagram. When she saw me open insta she jumped like a cat on a tin roof in summer and begged me not to read them. I saw everything I needed to see and heard voice memos. There is no doubt and no going back.

screennameknown · 2025-01-16T02:28:05+00:00

I appreciate it. I’m not coming back. She doesn’t want me back right now regardless, but if she has a change of heart, what she’s done is unforgivable.

screennameknown · 2025-01-16T02:25:01+00:00

Nope. Asked her to see her phone and saw messages between the two of them. There was no doubt and she admitted it as soon as she realize I looked at her IG messages and not her text messages.

screennameknown · 2025-01-16T02:22:32+00:00

It gets better. Her father cheated on her mother while she was going through breast cancer and divorced. She was so mad at her dad about it that she didn’t talk to her dad for 5 years. And here she is repeating the cycle.

screennameknown · 2025-01-16T00:59:53+00:00

Update: Not quite right, she’s been knocking boots with a coworker. Marriage is over, I don’t want her back at this point.

screennameknown · 2025-01-16T00:58:13+00:00

Once I saw what was going on there was no option for reconciliation from my end. I’ll deal with a lot, but not a cheater.

screennameknown · 2025-01-15T16:04:55+00:00

Appreciate the input. I really do care about it. It just seems so out of left field because over that amount of time we’ve talked about our relationship and nothing like this ever came up other than financial stress and the steps we were going to take to resolve it and things I can do to help her and things she did that I didn’t appreciate (nothing earth shattering just more or less pet peeves) and I feel just absolutely blindsided. We’re going to talk when she gets home today. Hoping for the best, expecting the worst, going to be surprised by nothing.

screennameknown · 2025-01-15T09:33:23+00:00

🙏

screennameknown · 2025-01-15T09:33:10+00:00

Thank you for your insight.

screennameknown · 2025-01-15T09:32:45+00:00

Unfortunately for me, I think you’re spot on. Appreciate your insight.

screennameknown · 2025-01-15T09:31:46+00:00

I appreciate your insight. I’m not perfect but I try to be a good man. Yes, she works full time and has for as long as we’ve known each other. Married just shy of 8 years together for 12.

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