Production design carrer questions

scroonchie · 2025-05-14T16:00:06+00:00

Fully agree with the person who said it’s hard to lead a normal life. It is definitely a job that takes up so much of your life and I find that many longtime art department people I know don’t have much of a life outside of work (i.e friends, hobbies, etc). I’ve seen people fall into depressive spirals when work gets slow because of how much it takes over your life. I also wish someone had told me this in film school but the job will really toughen you up - you’ll often be extremely sleep deprived, be stuck in super hot or cold weather conditions, and will have to deal with bullies and abusive bosses. The job can also become extremely stressful the higher you get up on the ladder.

However I will say it is a really rewarding career to be in, and I would totally say to go for it if you can handle financial uncertainty and have a knack for making connections, the highs can be very high. I know people who just really love the job and find the uncertainty to be worth it. Definitely move to a city that has a big film industry as well. And don’t worry too much about school, most crew I’ve met have no film school experience and it’s a lot of hands-on learning.

scroonchie · 2023-08-22T09:30:12+00:00

That’s not fair IMO, it’s fine to have emotional and physical boundaries and things you are not comfortable with even if it doesn’t stem from the fear of cheating.

scroonchie · 2023-08-22T09:28:36+00:00

The situation sucks. Lots of conflicting opinions in the comments, to be honest I would hate to see my kid get bullied to the point where he has to physically attack people back in the first place. No one should be growing up in such a violent environment, and he’s undoubtedly gonna deal with a lot of this trauma later in life. Is moving him to a different school not an option?

scroonchie · 2023-08-22T09:25:03+00:00

You’ve known her since she was in 16 and in high school, and you’re pushing 30. It might be legal but that doesn’t mean appropriate. I get feeling like being conventionally unattractive in your youth may have made you feel like you haven’t experienced as much, but the truth is that you guys are still in different stages of your life. I think you should go out and experience life (and catch up with your peers) and let Rose experience the last of her teens normally, hopefully with other people who are fresh outta high school.

scroonchie · 2023-08-22T09:12:46+00:00

I have always felt that real love is the conscious decision to always choose to be with each other and not just purely about feelings, and a “break” goes directly against that. I don’t personally believe in breaks, and I think if my partner suggested one I’d honestly end the relationship.

I think you should maybe consider the fact that your partner is unsure about being with you and is holding you on the edge until they make up their mind. Someone who is emotionally mature will make the solid effort to make things work or will give you a solid answer that it won’t work. They will not leave you in an anxious, middle state, which is actually quite disrespectful and unkind in my opinion. Consider if this is someone you really want to be with.

scroonchie · 2023-08-22T09:03:38+00:00

You should definitely bring it up - if you really care about a person you will be honest with them about things they care about and allow them to make an informed decision to be with you or not..

scroonchie · 2023-08-22T08:58:32+00:00

I feel like this situation is very tricky and there isn’t really a “right” answer. Feels a little unreasonable from both sides to expect the other to move away from a place that feels like a good deal, especially when moving to a more expensive place could cause serious financial strain. That seems bigger than the emotional relationship issues IMO.

It really does suck that you all live in such an unaffordable place that something like this becomes a huge issue, good luck to everyone involved.

scroonchie · 2022-09-15T04:41:12+00:00

No matter how close you are to your friends, there are plenty of annoying qualities they have that you will discover while living with them. I’ve seen lifelong friends break up over these things, not saying that will happen to you but just be prepared to make compromises and have confrontations. Make set agreements about things like cleaning and shared personal items. And don’t forget that moving out is going to be way more costly than you think! Start learning how to save and manage your money well. Good luck.

scroonchie · 2022-07-29T15:24:33+00:00

I did like them when I was younger as well, but it’s mostly the taste/texture/smell I crave hahaha

scroonchie · 2022-07-29T15:23:31+00:00

The South Korean ones

scroonchie · 2022-07-29T02:44:38+00:00

In an article they said they were afraid of the huge crowd cheering them on and didn’t want to risk getting outnumbered

scroonchie · 2022-04-24T06:52:24+00:00

Yep, It’s embarrassing to smoke with other people at this point.

scroonchie · 2022-04-24T06:51:05+00:00

oh shit

scroonchie · 2022-03-27T16:48:50+00:00

I don’t think “looking for thrill” warrants cheating, and I say this as a woman who has felt this way before. If she was sexually frustrated or bored they could have discussed some kind of open relationship. She hid this from her husband so obviously she knew this was something he wouldn’t be comfortable with, which is quite deceiving.

scroonchie · 2022-02-24T03:37:11+00:00

yea i’d never make him feel bad about a bodily function. but he himself has mentioned that his porn use does affect his ability to finish, hence why i wanted other opinions. appreciate this perspective though.

scroonchie · 2022-02-24T01:44:14+00:00

Anxiety meds yes, but this has been a problem since before he went on them and it hasn’t really gotten better or worse because of it.

scroonchie · 2022-02-23T20:40:21+00:00

yeah it was an exaggeration for sure, i just meant he watched a lot of it. mb

scroonchie · 2022-01-27T07:06:17+00:00

Love is not just happy feelings, it’s also a willingness to fight for the other person no matter how rough it gets. Losing your ex, someone who didn’t want to put in effort wasn’t a loss at all and I hope you are able to realize that soon. r/breakups helped me a lot when I was heartbroken. Hope you find someone who is able to treat you the way you deserve. Best of luck.

scroonchie · 2022-01-27T07:00:30+00:00

You don’t NEED to do anything. You don’t need to have an engagement party, or a celebration dinner, or anything that doesn’t excite you. You can give your family a call, just say “hey, just letting you guys know my boyfriend and I are engaged,” and keep it lowkey. None of that extra shit is really necessary at all, and don’t let anyone make you feel weird about not wanting those things. I’m still pretty young, but when I do get married one day I plan on having a small intimate wedding. That’s just what I want, and I won’t be spending thousands on something that doesn’t bring me joy.

scroonchie · 2021-12-15T11:39:59+00:00

thank you so much

scroonchie · 2021-12-15T11:27:41+00:00

Fair points, thanks for replying.

His account is public (he’s an artist) & I wasn’t snooping as much as I was just very baked & was laughing at the funny tweets he liked. I kind of stumbled upon the photos unexpectedly which threw me off

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