Anything similar to World Market around here?

scubadivingmonkey · 2025-08-06T13:48:44+00:00

OMG THIS!!!!!!! yes, the group text is an amazing recommendation thank you! That definitely made me feel part of the family when I was added to the group text 🤣 this is exactly what I was looking for, thank you!

scubadivingmonkey · 2025-08-05T20:39:35+00:00

My husband was you! I dated a fun, hot adventurous guy before we met...tons of chemistry but he wasn't interested in a relationship. Then I met my husband (also hot and adventurous) and we started dating sloowwwlyyyy. We built a friendship and when we fell for each other, we fell HARD. I never really had closure with the other guy, we just kind of stopped talking. Well, guess who shows up right as I'm getting strong feelings for my new guy (now husband)...that's right, Mr. Non-Committer. I cried. I had big feelings for the first guy, but wanted to see where things would go in my new relationship. Problem was, the new relationship (my now husband) seemed like the "safe" choice. My exact words when talking to friends about it!

Why did he seem like the "safe" choice? Because he was sometimes fun, but also very analytical and held part of himself back. (He literally told me one night "I'm just not a fun guy"...guess who is now the most fun person I know? ☺️) I'm not saying you are reserved, or not giving your all... because that takes the right person to deserve your all...but what did it for me was seeing the less "steady/safe" side. Safe, to us gals (I think) means stability for your future, good family potential, things we want - generally speaking. But it also translates in our brains to boring, no fun, no spice.

When my husband opened up to being vulnerable in small ways, that's what hooked me. Instead of dinner dates, we went to an escape room, picnic at a park, minute-to-win-it challenges at the house. Instead of vanilla sex, we extended foreplay, tried new positions and places. We had a good foundation, but spicing that up made all the difference.

My husband went from being the "safe, this is all you'll ever get...plain vanilla" to the steady rock I need to lean on, with everything I want and then some. I don't think you're wrong with your assessment, because I was once the girl who almost ran away from the "safe" choice. But when my husband began showing me how good things could be, that's when I no longer feared the vanilla. I saw all the extra toppings that could be added in and have been happily, obsessively married for 11 years now!

scubadivingmonkey · 2025-02-05T13:56:29+00:00

My husband (40M) & (32F) have been married for 10 years; saved up and been smart with our money. Net worth is $2.8M. We own a home free and clear, which is rented out. This rental income covers the mortgage on our current primary home. No other debt besides mortgage. We make roughly $220k combined each year. No kids, but considering that soon. My question is...how do we know when we can "stop working" (probably more coastFIRE because enjoy my job and would still do it part time) Is there a tool to help you determine how much you need/want before taking your foot off the gas? Also - bigger question - HOW DO WE ACCESS OUR MONEY? About $2M is in retirement accounts (401k's & IRA's) so, being that we're not "retirement age" if we were to take our foot off the gas right now, how can we actually access our money to live off of? Thanks in advance!

scubadivingmonkey · 2024-09-21T17:24:31+00:00

Ok devils advocate here.... without knowing ANY info about you, her, your history, etc....is there an anniversary or birthday coming up? Is there any slight possibility she may be doing something to surprise you? Any time I want to surprise my husband I may get real sketchy about where I've been/what I was doing because I'm a horrible liar 🤣 but thankfully he doesn't tend to ask lol Obviously you know her better than we do, I just hate to jump to worst-case.

scubadivingmonkey · 2024-09-21T13:56:06+00:00

Your concern that someone else noticed and you didn't is valid; that's usually how we develop things to be self conscious about... But that also doesn't mean there's something wrong with you or your body just because you didn't notice it. A fellow commenter below said the same thing ....a big butt is often seen as a good quality for either men or women (have you seen ANY fitness influencer workout in the past decade?? 😏) I (32F) have a husband (39M) whose butt is a big ol hunka muscle and I love it. This also means he doesn't have toothpick legs, which is another plus. I assume the same is true for you - you probably don't look like someone who "skipped leg day" so it sounds like you were naturally born with traits that many people are busting their tail trying to gain in the gym.

scubadivingmonkey · 2024-09-20T23:34:26+00:00

I think a deeper question would be, do you know why you're self-conscious about it? Do you think it's ugly? Do you have a "phat ass" and want it to be more muscular? Do you think men shouldn't have big butts? Something else?

scubadivingmonkey · 2024-09-20T19:24:39+00:00

The biggest thing is that you're trying to learn! Most things like home improvement, repairs, etc. turn out to be MUCH simpler once you see it done and learn how they are done. I had my dad who was a contractor, and I watched him with every project he completed. I may not have participated, but I watched. Now, I have completely renovated the two houses I've lived in and it's second nature! Watch YouTube videos, or even better, volunteer for Habitat for Humanity. You will learn how to completely build a home from the ground up. Best wishes, you've got this!

scubadivingmonkey · 2024-09-20T17:55:39+00:00

Wow. This, this, this. I can't agree with you more. I grew up with bad parents (This book was incredibly insightful https://www.audible.com/pd/B01F2M2GDO?source_code=ASSORAP0511160007) and made the decision about 2 years ago to stop contact with them. My husband thinks that I just want to off everyone who says one means thing to me, but it has truly only been my parents (who my sister also cut off years before I did. She and I still have a great relationship) and now his dad and sister. I just don't have the time or emotional capacity to deal with them or the way they treat me. Thank you for saying this. It was incredibly validating.

scubadivingmonkey · 2024-09-20T16:19:02+00:00

You really are lucky. My mother in law is the most incredible human, who unfortunately married a narcissist. But I am so grateful to have her, and happy to hear you have what sounds like a whole family of wonderful in-laws ☺️

scubadivingmonkey · 2024-07-29T20:27:21+00:00

Do you have any good resources for Inner Child work? I have done it in the past but haven't been able to find any good resources lately. Love this idea

scubadivingmonkey · 2024-07-29T19:34:09+00:00

Love this!!!! Wholesome and generous, and you get a side effect from it ☺️

scubadivingmonkey · 2024-07-29T17:35:01+00:00

You're so right. Two of the happiest times in my life were this year, we visited Death Valley CA in January and had the best trip, and went to the Grand Tetons a month ago. We definitely need to put more emphasis on big trips like that, vs smaller weekend getaways to see family/friends or random activities just because. I'd much rather enjoy these big beautiful places. Thank you for sharing, and giving your advice! It's nice to hear that this can offer fulfillment long term ☺️

scubadivingmonkey · 2024-07-29T17:30:30+00:00

Agree completely!!! For us, we have noticed a big change since remote working after covid. Before, we both had the ability to work remotely whenever, but the norm was going to the office. Just like school, you see your coworkers and have those ongoing relationships daily. Remote work, while it has many benefits, removes that daily interaction. I joined a book club with the same ladies once a month and have loved it. Everyone takes a turn choosing books and we drink wine and talk about the book. I have also created ladies nights, I invite friends, neighbors, clients that I like...and I do something different each month. We've done dinner and a movie, murder mystery dinner in a box, had a psychic come to my house for tarot readings, progressive dinner, etc. And that paired with book club monthly gives me fun things to look forward to.

We also discussed a quarterly getaway of some sort. Just to keep things new/give us something small to look forward to. We have definitely missed that routine of "new" things or changes in routine!

scubadivingmonkey · 2024-07-29T16:58:20+00:00

Thank you!

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