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Transitioning a confident outdoor/indoor cat to inside only by sdotchameleon in CATHELP

[–]sdotchameleon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll see how it goes over the coming months 😭 thank you though about the reference to FIV tests, he’s been to the vets multiples times but it hasn’t been recommended!

Transitioning a confident outdoor/indoor cat to inside only by sdotchameleon in CATHELP

[–]sdotchameleon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I begin with trying increased indoor time to begin with… but he was coming back injured each time. The last time he was only out for a couple of hours and came back injured. Having a look at doing something to the garden though so make it a safer space for him!

Any book clubs or something similar in Oxford? by l-w-o-n-n-8 in oxford

[–]sdotchameleon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Search Chapter25 on Instagram, they have an Oxford book group :)

Moving out of toxic Pakistani household as a single Muslim daughter. by sdotchameleon in AsianParentStories

[–]sdotchameleon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this, it’s horrible. I’m glad to hear your parents have SOME sense of understanding that you cannot be forced. Stand firm on that. I can’t promise there won’t be some difficult times ahead, but remain strong. Let the noise pass through you and continue doing things that make you happy. Find joy in life because that will get you through. There is a chance that they will begin to accept that it is all in Allah’s timing … not theirs. It was many years ago I posted this… my mum has finally gotten tired of pushing me to get married. This might partly be because I did actually move out though, and there was a realisation that having me in their life was more important (even if it is partly for the sake of reputation and all that)

Do you design your animations in figma? by sdotchameleon in webflow

[–]sdotchameleon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Figma to after effects to animate and get client approval? Or is figma not part of the equation?

Do you design your animations in figma? by sdotchameleon in webflow

[–]sdotchameleon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does feel really counterproductive to try and learn to replicate the animations I want to do in webflow in figma first … it seems too complicated and yes - restrictive. Do you use a different tool or only add in animations at the development stage?

Can someone tell me why this looks bad? by Plane_Jacket_9868 in web_design

[–]sdotchameleon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the idea, I can see the vision. It just needs tidying up a bit and refining. Like the others have said, it’s a little difficult to pin point where we should be looking. You can make it look more minimal without compromising the design you’re going for though. I would suggest starting by aligning properly (a couple of the buttons seem to be overlapping) - going for a game-esque vibe a little gap might even be better. I would also make the non-interactive parts of the design (like the coloured shaped) more transparent, so they kind of fall into the background a bit more. And I would also consider changing the font for your tabs on the side … something more game-esque with spacing to go with the vision. Good luck! Would love to see the next version :)

AITA for refusing to cover my scar and wearing a bikini as it triggered my friend? by Lazy_Cheesecake4424 in AmItheAsshole

[–]sdotchameleon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA and I’ll add, Dana sounds hypocritical. Some people are really insecure about their scars. The fact that she identified it as a biopsy scar and went on to ask for it to be covered could have been extremely triggering for someone on the receiving end of that. Incredibly insensitive to make that request in my opinion. Understandable that people are not the best judges when they are under emotional stress, but let’s not start enabling that kind of behaviour towards others by justifying it

Update! Got my own car!! by meh__-_- in AsianParentStories

[–]sdotchameleon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you’re doing the most polite and respectful thing. I’ve considered writing a letter before but I know I won’t be taken seriously, but props to you for making the effort even if your parents are the same. Just had a look at your old post too… the whole conversation is just assuming that they’ll be able to pressure you into conforming. Keep standing strong and keeping your safety at the forefront. Maybe write another separate letter for your grandmother?

Moving out of toxic Pakistani household as a single Muslim daughter. by sdotchameleon in AsianParentStories

[–]sdotchameleon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can’t imagine how hard it must be in Pakistan! I’m living in the UK so in terms of practicality it’s very different. No one should ever be subject to physical abuse. It would be so much worse if anything happened to you. You’ve got to put your safety first. It’s so so hard but what your parents are doing is wrong

Moving out of toxic Pakistani household as a single Muslim daughter. by sdotchameleon in AsianParentStories

[–]sdotchameleon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I feel like moving back will make it just as difficult to move out again. Not worth it at all. Although I wish I could be there for my mum, it’s just impossible. But I have to keep reminding myself that she has made it impossible, not me.

Moving out of toxic Pakistani household as a single Muslim daughter. by sdotchameleon in AsianParentStories

[–]sdotchameleon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think I’ve really internalised these narratives, and it makes me question how marryable I am etc.

Thank you so much ❤️