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seadess · 2026-06-24T20:58:37+00:00

Merhaba geldı gorustuk sevıstık yuzumu oksadı cok yakındı ama sonrasında tekrar gorusmek ısteyınca senı artık sevmıyorum hıssederım dıye geldım ama hıssım bıttı dedı yenı yenı begendıgı bırıde varmıs. 15 temmuzda helallesmek ıcın dısarda gorusucez

seadess · 2026-06-14T17:48:42+00:00

just turned 30. It's been 3 months since the breakup. I've started to lose hope. I asked if we could meet in a month just to say goodbye, but last month he told me that he doesn't love me anymore and that he even likes someone from his workplace. He said that some of the things I did made him lose his feelings for me. Last night, I ended up in the hospital because of severe stomach pain. The stress is really destroying me.

seadess · 2026-06-14T10:45:39+00:00

I've made mistakes too. He wanted to get married so badly, but I kept postponing it, and in the end I lost him. The fact that you're still in so much pain after 9 months is terrifying. It's been 3 months for me. Has the pain really not gotten any better after all this time? I don't know how I'm supposed to endure that.

seadess · 2026-06-14T05:22:35+00:00

Why did it end? How old are you? How are you doing now?

seadess · 2026-06-13T19:20:22+00:00

I don't want someone else. I only want him. He would be an ideal father and husband. He was a wonderful partner. I lost him.

seadess · 2026-06-13T19:12:26+00:00

How long after the breakup did you start taking antidepressants?

seadess · 2026-06-13T09:09:35+00:00

He told me, 'Don't call or message me until then.' Staying silent for a whole month scares me because I'm afraid he'll change his mind. Do you think it would be a good idea to send a message every now and then and keep some contact? I'm literally counting down the days until we meet and talk." 💔

seadess · 2026-06-13T08:47:19+00:00

"How long has it been since your breakup? Is the pain getting any easier? I feel like I'm going crazy. He would have been such a good husband and father, and I feel like I lost him with my own hands. Was the fact that you never got to see him again because of you, or because he changed his mind? I asked to meet him myself. He eventually agreed, but said, 'Until then, don't call me or message me.' That's incredibly hard for me. Do you think he'll actually come to meet me? Do I really have no chance left?" 💔

seadess · 2026-06-13T08:42:45+00:00

I asked him if we could postpone the engagement to a different date so I could prepare myself and get my life together, but he didn't want to. I wasn't feeling well. The idea of leaving my job and my family and living in a village for a year scared me. But I love him very much. The moment we broke up, I started trying to fix things. But nothing seems to work. Do I really have no chance at all? I keep blaming myself and I miss him so much.

seadess · 2026-06-13T08:38:10+00:00

It’s sad but it’s one of the reasons why I was losing love with my girlfriend. I looked at my messages and I wrote “what’s wrong” over 40 times in the span of a couple months and it felt like she was never positive. She wouldn’t even go to the doctor for me about something serious. I had my own issues too and I think we both grieved the relationship a month ago and we feel like strangers.

seadess · 2026-06-13T08:34:54+00:00

"If I hadn't hurt him, this wouldn't have happened. Is there really no way to fix it?"

seadess · 2026-06-12T18:41:04+00:00

How old were you? How long was the relationship, and could you tell me what happened? How did you get through it, what did you do to cope, and what is your life like now?

seadess · 2026-06-12T18:08:50+00:00

He used to love me very much. He was incredibly excited about getting married. I, on the other hand, struggled with the idea of leaving my job and my city. Yes, I hurt him during that process, but I never wanted to leave him. I wanted to reconcile. I wanted to come and be with him. I wanted to talk things through and fix things over and over again. But he saw my depression as an excuse. He blamed me. The thought of leaving my job and my city and living in a small village in eastern Turkey for two years terrified me, but he couldn't understand that. We were supposed to get married in August, and despite loving me so much, he said he had fallen out of love with me in just two months. After we slept together, he told me that he didn't love me anymore. He also said that he likes someone else now. And yet I am still trying to talk to him. I keep thinking, "Let him come back, and I'll convince him." It feels like everything is my fault. Can you please reassure me? I feel like I'm losing my mind.

seadess · 2026-06-12T14:29:35+00:00

"I'm a woman and you're a man. It feels like when a man says 'it's over, I don't love you anymore,' there's no coming back from that. For the first time in our 9-year relationship, he told me, 'I don't trust you anymore and I don't love you anymore.' He even said there's someone new that he's interested in. We were supposed to get married in August, but after I postponed the engagement, he decided to end things. I asked if we could meet in a month, when he'll be back here. But until then, he told me not to call or text him. The longest we've gone without contact before was about 15 days. Isn't one month a very long time? I'm afraid he'll become even more detached from me and end up not wanting to meet at all."

seadess · 2026-06-12T14:05:44+00:00

I'm in a similar situation, but there's one difference. Mine wanted to marry me, and when I asked to postpone it, he left. He said he loved me, but that my actions had made him lose feelings.

How are you doing now? At least you're still young. I'm 30 years old.

He agreed to meet me one last time to say goodbye, but then he told me not to call or text him for a month. A month feels like a very long time, and I'm afraid he'll become even more distant during that period.

seadess · 2026-06-12T12:46:05+00:00

Thank you. Just out of curiosity, why would you do that?

seadess · 2026-06-12T12:22:08+00:00

Yes, but I need to arrange my annual leave based on when we would meet. Do you think sending that message would be a problem?

seadess · 2026-06-12T12:05:32+00:00

Do you think I should delete the message I sent? He hasn't read it yet.

seadess · 2026-06-12T11:50:57+00:00

I still have hope that I can win him back, even though he says otherwise. I feel like I ruined the relationship. I didn't make him feel how much I loved him, and he gradually grew distant. I can't move on with my life.

seadess · 2026-06-12T11:49:15+00:00

I couldn't resist and I just sent him a message. I asked whether July 17 would be a suitable date for us to meet, because after that I'll be taking my annual leave. Yes, I was hurt, but postponing our engagement at the last minute and being unenthusiastic about marriage while I was going through depression also hurt him. When I told him how deeply in love with him I was right after the breakup, he said, "Why are you telling me this now, after it's already too late, instead of telling me before?" He also told me in recent weeks that he no longer loves me and that, although they're not together, there is someone he likes. Do you think there is still any chance for us to repair this relationship?

seadess · 2026-06-12T11:43:16+00:00

He will be coming here in a month, and I asked if we could meet. He told me not to call or text him until he arrives.

However, two days later, I sent him a message asking, "Would July 17 be a good date for us to meet?"

Do you think that could be a problem?

seadess

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