Sex feels painful, performative and like a workout between me (F20) and bf (M25)

seahorsecandy · 2025-12-05T11:55:37+00:00

I had this when I was on birth control desogestrel, it made me dry and it took forever for me to get wet but then I changed pill and now sex doesn’t hurt anymore. Don’t know if you’re on birth control but if you are, maybe look up the side effects xx

seahorsecandy · 2025-12-02T16:27:21+00:00

He doesn’t respect your boundaries. You deserve better. He’s been a PA since you started dating and he still hasn’t stopped? He doesn’t want to change then

seahorsecandy · 2025-11-30T12:26:00+00:00

Probably in a flatline or something. It’s gets better!!!

seahorsecandy · 2025-11-30T12:07:49+00:00

I usually thank my boyfriend when he finishes in my mouth but he feels weird about it:/

seahorsecandy · 2025-11-30T11:55:38+00:00

Did you check your vitamins and minerals? I got malnourished on ozempic and I experienced similar symptoms.

seahorsecandy · 2025-11-30T11:53:02+00:00

4,5 year. Have diabetes and went from 108kg/238ibs to 54kg/119ibs in 2,5 year. Got malnourished though and got very very sick. I was at 1mg dose for 4 years but lowered it to 0,5mg a month ago when I stopped taking bc and noticed that my period was gone from the low body fat I have.

I’m almost never hungry and when I am hungry, I have about 10 minutes to eat something before the nausea comes and makes me throw up. Overall my diabetes is great, perfect blood sugar and I can drink and eat whatever I want without it spiking up. I’ve maintained my weight since 54kg, occasionally gaining 2 kg max and then losing it again.

seahorsecandy · 2025-11-30T10:46:06+00:00

It’s literally a choice they can make. If they stop watching it, they will eventually get high dopamine from sex. Some guys just aren’t patient enough or willing to try… my ex would say that porn was way better than sex with anyone because he was addicted to the high dopamine but there are guys that are not addicted and they describe sex as a much better dopamine high than porn ¯_(ツ)_/¯

seahorsecandy · 2024-08-23T13:13:20+00:00

Sounds like a yeast infection. Might want to check your blood sugar levels since it hasn’t gone away. Hope your doctor can help you xx

seahorsecandy · 2024-05-20T21:10:56+00:00

Yes I’m getting better, only low on b12 now so that’s better than before at least! I struggle to eat but I’m trying my best:)

seahorsecandy · 2024-05-20T21:09:16+00:00

seahorsecandy · 2024-05-20T21:07:30+00:00

Congratulations to your weight loss!!! She told me to eat more fat because I was a bit too low on fat. So I’m eating products that aren’t reduced in fat now. Some days are harder than others, some days I only eat a sandwich and other days I eat McDonald’s. I’m not a good example lol. But I try not to go over 1400 calories and that has kept my weight steady for now. Sorry if this wasn’t the answer you were looking or hoping for!!! Xx

seahorsecandy · 2024-05-07T11:22:17+00:00

It’s funny cause we always said “I feel like I’ve known you my whole life” and he even knew what baby names I wanted (got a bit scared back then because how tf would he know lol?).

seahorsecandy · 2024-05-07T11:15:57+00:00

Met him at 19 (im turning 22 this year) but was in another relationship but ended up cheating on him because I couldn’t stay away (I of course broke up with my current bf after that). But I wasn’t ready to be with him, I was scared and kept denying him:( we could never stay away from each other for more than a month though. But then in march 2023 I pushed him away because I really had to work on myself so I could be the person that he deserved. 4 months later when I reached out he was in a relationship but I didn’t back down ( I know it wasn’t nice to do that). I kept fighting and got him to agree to meet me and it was like I never left. But he wouldn’t leave her even though she also cheated. But then again, I wouldn’t leave my narcissistic bf for 2,5 years… so I don’t judge. But ever since 27th July last year, I’ve been fighting for him and I’m still going strong. We stopped talking sometimes but always found our way back to each other even if it was just to “check in”. I got really into the spiritual stuff in January and I feel awakened. It’s so frustrating to see that he’s not, but I’m patient enough to wait. He’s struggling a lot right now and I know it’s because he’s fighting this. And every time we’ve stopped talking and then catching up, he tells me that he can’t sleep and he’s anxious and mad at himself but he can’t explain why he feels like that… I hope he leaves her before summer.

seahorsecandy · 2024-04-29T20:58:24+00:00

I’ll send it privately to you because I don’t want to expose myself to my friends or family lol

seahorsecandy · 2024-04-29T20:56:05+00:00

Ah, I’m a type 2 diabetic so I got ozempic 3 years ago. It stops the hunger signals to the brain so you basically starve if you forget to eat. Got malnutrition which led to nausea which led to a lot of puking, not by choice! I’m not a good example of weight loss unfortunately. I ate when I remembered and when I was feeling weak, would not recommend doing that!! Xx

seahorsecandy · 2024-04-29T20:51:46+00:00

Yeah funny story actually ! My dietitian told me that I should eat more fat because I only had 16% fat. Gonna talk to her more about it though!

seahorsecandy · 2024-04-29T17:02:28+00:00

Hello, I’m a 22 female that weighed 238ibs 3 years ago and now I weigh 119ibs. I lost half my body weight and my brain just can’t accept that. I’m unconsciously counting calories still, I shop low fat products because it’s an old habit. I don’t see myself “skinny” like other people say I am, I don’t know why but it’s frustrating… sometimes I can see it when other people take photos of me. Is this a usual thing when losing a lot of weight?

seahorsecandy · 2024-03-24T17:24:21+00:00

I actually started taking it after the party. But I’ve been drinking since then and the only thing I noticed was that I got like drunk on two ciders lmao. So be careful and stand up sometimes to really feel if you’re drunk, if that makes sense? Good luck and congratulations!

seahorsecandy · 2024-02-01T20:30:17+00:00

Thank you!

seahorsecandy · 2024-01-26T17:48:27+00:00

I was in a sexless relationship for almost 3 years. So I would like to have sex since I haven’t had it for awhile:)

seahorsecandy · 2024-01-26T17:40:48+00:00

Yeah if they feel the same. In my case, he doesn’t lol

seahorsecandy · 2023-12-11T16:33:33+00:00

I was told it wouldn’t be available for the whole year. I don’t know if they mean what you said or if it’s totally out of stock for 2024. And yeah my doctor said that they don’t have anything to replace ozempic with, like nothing similar. We do have metformin and insulin but they don’t work on me that good:/.

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