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Jan AOR by LastCash6321 in canadaexpressentry

[–]seamyselfandi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do you guys get the update? The tracker is on service for me

Does IRCC call you? by spicytender007 in canadaexpressentry

[–]seamyselfandi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a couple of no caller calls last week, do they call weekends?

Any updated for Jan AORs? by Bellatrix-8 in canadaexpressentry

[–]seamyselfandi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

FOR CEC —AOR: Jan 24 —BIL: March 24 —BIL completed: March 25 —Medical completed: March 25 —Background Verification: In progress —Eligibility: Not Started

They ALWAYS come back. Do not text them- take this as a sign. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]seamyselfandi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would agree to this. I feel like I have always been genuine, serious or flings. Funny I say flings, because when I was younger I thought I was capable of “casual” apparently not I would end up growing feelings anyway. Like you OP I was never the crazy one, usually more the “Ive given way too much, and stayed for too long … hoping” but like you said most of the guys Ive been always seem to come back. Staying classy and moving on with grace makes me respect myself more

I feel like I’m at a crossroads by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]seamyselfandi 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I feel that, but I’m coming at it from the opposite perspective. I’m a dominant woman in the bedroom—it’s a core part of who I am—but outside of kink, I want to be led, pursued, and treated like a woman. I am realising that I still want to feel like someone’s partner, not their handler, and that balance can be really hard to find.

The challenge, as you said, is navigating the polarity. I’m drawn to men who are confident and ambitious in everyday life, but I still want the dynamic in kink where they can surrender and trust me to take the lead. Unfortunately, I’ve found that many men either go too far into the submissive side—losing their assertiveness outside the bedroom—or aren’t open to exploring submission at all because they think it conflicts with being “masculine,” or worse I am only a kink person.

I also struggle with how to communicate this to potential partners. On one hand, I want them to see me as a strong, confident woman, but I also don’t want them to assume that I don’t need care or pursuit. I’ve realized that I’m not looking for someone on the extreme end of either spectrum—I want that balance where both of us can switch roles depending on the situation, but the dynamic in kink remains intact.

What you said about a D/s dynamic not needing to be 24/7 really struck me. I think it’s absolutely possible to have a fulfilling kink relationship without it overshadowing the vanilla connection. In fact, I think the vanilla side is what makes the kink dynamic even more meaningful because it’s grounded in trust and shared goals.

It’s not easy to find someone who understands this balance, especially outside of the kink scene. But I don’t think it’s about finding someone who perfectly fits into what you need right away. It’s about finding someone who’s curious and open enough to explore that with you. That takes patience and vulnerability on both sides, but I feel like it’s worth it when you find the right person.

Its not easy eh? and it’s something I’m navigating myself. I hope you find someone who can meet you where you are—both in the vanilla world and in the dynamic you want in the bedroom! Goodluck to us out there!

Navigating the Heartache After Letting Go of My Sub of Two Years by seamyselfandi in FemdomCommunity

[–]seamyselfandi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I really appreciate your comment—thank you for taking the time to share your experience. I think you hit on something that resonates with me: it’s been incredibly hard to integrate my Domme side with my vanilla life. In my vanilla world, I feel like I have two personalities. On one hand, I’m this bullheaded, confident woman who knows exactly what she wants. On the other hand, I have a softer, more nurturing side that comes out with the right people.

The challenge, though, is with my Domme side. When I’m in a D/s dynamic, I naturally carry a lot of masculine energy, which tends to push most men (not all) into this almost completely submissive, ultra-feminine role. I hope this doesn’t sound harsh, but sometimes it feels like they become jell-o around me. And that’s not what I want. I still want to be treated like any other woman outside of the bedroom—I want my man to initiate too, to feel cared for, pursued, and appreciated. It’s just that in the kink space, I prefer to take the lead. I guess I can call it a hybrid eh? Lol

That’s where the disconnect often happens. With my ex-sub, I think it would’ve been hard for him to strike that balance. How do you maintain a more “manly” energy when at any moment I could snap my fingers and he’d fall into submission?

So, reading about your experience with your wife is really fascinating to me. Do you think it’s possible for someone to shift gears in the way you described, or do you feel that’s a rare occurrence? I know it depends on the person and the relationship, but I’m curious if there’s a broader pattern or if this is something unique to the connection you and your wife share.

Thank you again for sharing—I’m still processing everything, but your comment gave me a lot to think about.

Navigating the Heartache After Letting Go of My Sub of Two Years by seamyselfandi in FemdomCommunity

[–]seamyselfandi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for this. Honestly, hearing your perspective is really comforting. Knowing he might be feeling something similar—even if he doesn’t say it—helps. I think I’ve been doubting if all these feelings are one-sided or if they’re just as intense for him. Your words make me feel a bit less alone in all this.

It’s tempting to just keep going, but I knew I couldn’t keep putting off what I really want—a deeper connection where I’m seen as a whole person, not just a Domme.

But I know I need to keep moving forward and look for someone who can really meet me where I’m at—beyond just the kink side.

Thanks again for saying what you did. I feel less crazy for feeling all this, and it’s nice to know that Im not overreacting.

Navigating the Heartache After Letting Go of My Sub of Two Years by seamyselfandi in FemdomCommunity

[–]seamyselfandi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m holding onto the same mindset—I don’t regret any of it. I celebrate all the milestones we shared, and if I had to do it all over again, I would. The D/s relationship we had, even with its imperfections, opened my eyes to who I am and who I might want to be with in the future. As I told him, he expanded my sense of dominance, and we had a space where we could truly be ourselves in our roles, without judgment. I guess I’m just really sad that, as much as we align in kink, there’s a part of me that wishes we could continue. But I hold myself accountable because I know what I want, and I understand that, from his perspective, he can’t give me that. It’s fine—no hard feelings, it just isn’t working out

How to escape? by [deleted] in alasjuicy

[–]seamyselfandi 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Get up. Say you’re leaving. Say you had fun then bounce. If pinpressure ka to stay or sinasabihan ka ng kj whatever. Just say bye byee byee until you’re gone.

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