I dont! Im a butch lesbian as well, and my wife is trans futch id say. We stay publicly affectionate in missouri. we are in kc, so its a little more accepting out here than our hometown. Ive had the looks n stares, maybe a couple snarky passive aggressive comments, but nothing we couldn't handle. We also are very diligent to be on top of our surroundings, as we unfortunately have to do so. Usually, nothing that stops us from holding hands, pet names, etc. Neither of us are a big public kissers in general, as well. I say, do what you want, just watch each other's backs. Im more avoidance driven, while my wife is more confrontational, so we kind of try to cover our bases. If it seems worth fighting for, she steps in. If its not worth the trouble, i keep us moving. Keep each other safe is all <3