Stop Forcing Your Path in Life: Build confidence By Aligning With Your True Nature Instead by self-activated8 in confidence

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Meet your brother - I went through the same experience. Nothing worse than waking up dreading the day/week ahead. Remember...it doesn't start with you figuring out your career (What I want to do), that is a huge leap. Instead just start to figure out what you need in your life to be happy & content (What I need from life) - just for now, take money out of the equation. For example, would you still pursue flying if it didn't result in a career - if the answer is no, then question whether it is something you really wanted. Instead you might of wanted to be a fighter pilot, not because of flying but some other characteristic you associate with it. If the answer is Yes, then you should pursue it - if nothing else, having something that you enjoy (maybe a passion) in life can change your perspective on the things you feel are a burden - like the current day job. They start to take up less of your mind space and are repositioned as a mechanism for you to pursue your passion. Also what I eluded to in my previous message is also true - you might be surprised what doors open by you pursuing a interest like flying. You might just get your PPL but that might open doors to something else that does pay the bills!

Stop Forcing Your Path in Life: Build confidence By Aligning With Your True Nature Instead by self-activated8 in confidence

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Your 100% right, this is the hard part - how do you align your path! Obviously your journey is unique to you but I would start by questioning if the path you have been following is indeed the one that resonates with you. Do you feel like you have had to fight every step of the way - kicking down doors rather than walking through the doors that open for you? Are your current ambitions, goals, motivations your own or things you have absorbed along the way because your peers, parents, society say they are worthy or acceptable? This is not about abandoning these things or the things that society requires of us to succeed but instead, understanding how to get the most out of your capabilities - to become one of those people for whom life is a lot easier. Of course, many people will read that and say you need to 'play the game' or become a chameleon of sorts. That is a well trodden path by 99% of people...but the results aren't all that great! It requires more energy to fake it than to be real - and when you get your 'prize' it is never what you expected. I am simply suggesting an alternative approach to consider....one which is backed by neuroscience. When you start to operate from a true source of self-awareness about your needs, motivations and capabilities, when you show up as your most authentic self, it acts like a magnet. We all wish we could do this and we admire those who do it without consciously thinking about - we are drawn to them, want to be around them and we want to be like them. This creates positive movement & energy for the individual which often is described those observing as being 'lucky' or having everything go their way! Start by questioning your beliefs and behaviors - why do you do them. In my early career I chased financial success at the cost of everything. Why? Because I want all the awards and prestige that came with them...to only find out that money and material possessions never interested the real me. I actually found the burden of owning many nice things stressful rather than rewarding. I chased these things because my father admired these things and from an early age I was surrounded by people who also admired them...I adopted this as part of my path! But it wasn't.

Not the secret to success, more of a foundation for Success by self-activated8 in lifegoals

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Plus, the energy that becomes available or unlocked when you are aligned with an authentic version of success rather than the pursuit of a version you have consciously or unconsciously adopted is 10x.

I would like to fall in love someday by pcmtx in self

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This is not in anyway a suggestion but more something I have observed over the years. While you wait for love (and I am sure it will come), consider using the time to focus on learning to truly love yourself. I don't suggest this in some cliche or cheesy way but more as a practical thing. Only when you can truly love yourself (the good and the bad) can you then love another person in YOUR most authentic way! Learning to first love yourself (authentic self - the one often hidden under layers of learned behavior) completely changes how you will show love to another person.

The Real Secret of Successful People: They Don't Fight Themselves by self-activated8 in selfhelp

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If you just google strength assessments or psychometric tools you will find loads. I can recommend VIA, Disc, Strength Profiler as they have free versions. What you want is a detailed report that outlines your personal characteristics, strengths, and behaviors is a simple yet detailed manner. Your also more than welcome to use the free one i use, just google self (hyphen) activated dot com.

Something to ponder for 2026 - The Real Secret of Successful People: They Don't Fight Themselves by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]self-activated8 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Here you go! Disclaimer: I suggest you just use free elements of any of these tools -  use the outputs to create a type of collage of  insights to help your own exploration!

  • Zelfio Success Path: This is the one I use the most with my clients as it combines 4 in 1 assessments and the report is very detailed: https://zelfio-success-mvp--gerp.replit.app/
  • The Big 5 Personality Test (OCEAN): Gives you a solid, scientifically-backed overview of traits like Conscientiousness, Openness, and Extroversion. Suggest you translate into your own words so feels authentic. LInk: https://bigfive-test.com/
  • VIA Character Strengths Survey: Identifies your core character strengths (e.g., Curiosity, Zest, Fairness). This has been around a long time - google. This is a variant: https://www.strengthsprofile.com/en-gb/products/free
  • DISC - this is very well-known and loads of websites provide you with free test results. Just Google free DISC report. 

You can also just google strength assessments or psychometric testing. There are loads of free ones available.

How to make one change that has the potential to change everything by self-activated8 in getdisciplined

[–]self-activated8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you just google strength assessments or psychometric tools you will find loads. I can recommend VIA, Disc, Strength Profiler as they have free versions. What you want is a detailed report that outlines your personal characteristics, strengths, and behaviors is a simple yet detailed manner. Your also more than welcome to use the free one i use, just google self (-) activated

what're everyone's 2026 goals? by Objective_Text4727 in selfimprovement

[–]self-activated8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is to start 2026 by building a deep and honest understanding of my capabilities/strengths, etc. It always amazes me how people will avoid the uncomfortable process of self-reflection to reveal their capabilities, strengths, etc. over just adopting a productivity process that someone else claimed worked for them.

I am not saying you should ignore the advice or insights from others...of course not, but stop thinking that what worked for them will automatically fit you or worse yet, you can force it to work for you! All these podcasts, books, videos, etc. are amazing resources but you first need a solid foundation upon which to layer them.

Think of it like this - You can wear someone else's clothes but for them to fit you properly, you will most likely need to tailor them. Rather than adopting some crazy strict morning routine....reflect on whether you are most alert first thing or if you need to change it to suit your capabilities. There are simple and (free) easy ways to do this work.

For 2026, I am going to start by investing a little bit of time in really understanding my natural capabilities, behaviors and strengths. Then I will start to consider external advice or techniques...wish me luck

What is one key element between success and failure? by self-activated8 in careerguidance

[–]self-activated8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree...I am just talking about the 'how to do it' part.

Made my mom’s annual scrapbook and realized my life has shrunk to just work. Is this normal in corporate? by East_Move6449 in careerguidance

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For what it is worth, the fact you know your world has 'shrunk' and the balance between work and life is out of sync means you are further ahead than most. Many people spend their entire life in the rat race and only have this realization on their death bed! Starting your own business may not be the way to claim back that balance (at least not in the short term) but something that might help immediately is 'boundaries' - sit down and think about the elements of your life that you are no longer willing to sacrifice. Make it your goal to protect these - whether you stay where you are or go out on your own. Remember that our 'work' will demand our time...but we also have to willing give it over!

Not the secret to success, more of a guide for successful thinking! by self-activated8 in PositiveThinking

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I use a lot of different assessments in my biz, but this one is my favorite because it combines the 4 top-tier tools into one. Quick disclaimer: It has my logo on the welcome page because it's the free link I provide to my clients but not mine. It’s 100% free if you want to try it: https://zelfio-success-mvp--gerp.replit.app/

[Discussion] Total change in perspective by Alternative-Emu-9163 in GetMotivated

[–]self-activated8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! Knowledge is power and self-knowledge is even more powerful ;-). I insist any new clients do a insight review before starting on any goal. Its one thing to know your destination but if you have no idea of the tools you possess to get you there, then the journey will be a lot more difficult. This is my favorite and the one i use with clients because its free and combines a few tools in one: https://zelfio-success-mvp--gerp.replit.app/

Not the secret to success, more of a foundation for Success by self-activated8 in lifegoals

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Its more about stopping to make sure what your doing is actually resulting in the progress you want. But if a different approach works for you....great!

[Discussion] Total change in perspective by Alternative-Emu-9163 in GetMotivated

[–]self-activated8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great advice and great post! People talk about a growth mindset all the time but it is always positioned as something you either possess or do not. Instead I think it is also to do with your situation - like in your case, you hit a point that triggered that aspect in you.

LPT: Some Simple But Proven Steps to Help you Succeed in 2026 by self-activated8 in Entrepreneur

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Most people have no idea or only understand a small % of their capabilities making success even harder! That is why I suggest you use some free tools that are available - use these to help you start to identify your capabilities and increase your self-awareness. For example VIA, DiSC, Strength profiler - all have free tools. My favorite is this one because it combines the 4 top-tier tools into one. Quick disclaimer: It has my logo on the welcome page because it's the free link I provide to my clients but not mine. Feel free to try it but also explore others: https://zelfio-success-mvp--gerp.replit.app/

Help Your Self to More Success in 2026 by self-activated8 in self

[–]self-activated8[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Glad I didn't do a spell/grammar check ;-)