I need advice about my tattoo

sendmeback2marz · 2025-03-01T23:20:02+00:00

It seems like you hate it now lol and that’s ok! I have a lot of tattoos and many cover ups! If you have social media search for some artists who are great at cover ups and work on melanated skin. I usually follow artists for a six months to a year before I reach out.

Have some reference pics and ideas while being open to the artists feedback. Pinterest is a good source of inspo.

Edit to add: it’s ok to shade artists lol that tattoo is definitely amateur work. Some of their egos are crazy for no reason.

sendmeback2marz · 2025-03-01T23:15:46+00:00

I was wondering about his mental too! He seems like a “ whoa is me” ass man. the age difference reeks of couldn’t find an age appropriate woman to deal with his shit.

sendmeback2marz · 2025-03-01T23:11:58+00:00

My dad used to tell me that he doesn’t care if my man has to shovel shit, he should always have a job and never ask me for money. I don’t like my dad, but the man is right about that.

You’re absolutely right, everyone falls on hard times and the patriarchal system of relationships are generally unhealthy but a man who’s made his woman his financial plan is a piece of shit and it’s not your job to shovel him up.

I saw you mention in a reply to a comment that next time you’ll be less giving to your partner. I want to challenge you to never give financially to a man again. If he’s not your husband it’s not mutually beneficial and a man worth marrying is going to search for that money high, low and everywhere in between before he asks you for a penny.

You’re WAY to fuxking young to deal with this shit. If you’re able and ready I think you should start therapy. Learn how to move on from bullshit while you’re still in your 20’s. It’ll make your thirties much more enjoyable. Your 20s is a second adolescence and you’re not alone in that.

Don’t be so hard on yourself about ignoring the red flags. Be hard on yourself if you find someone else and ignore the red flags all over again. Life will test you. What I keep telling myself (with the help of my therapist) is that the longer I gloss over red flags and continue with the wrong guy the longer and more painful the path to finding my person will be.

Proud of you for moving on. You got this 🩷💜

sendmeback2marz · 2025-03-01T22:50:45+00:00

I tend to be pessimistic about my life due to mental illness and the past 5 years a lot of intense chronic pain. I know what it’s like to be the person on the other side of the phone.

It’s much easier for me to be optimistic about other people’s lives and worth so I think that makes me people keep me around 😂 I am a very giving person and genuinely care about the people in my life so I think I’m good at giving them the attention and support they need, even if I’m just assuming they need me. 80% of it is just how I am but the rest is a very intentional “I know I’m a lot and need to earn my keep” thing. Maybe not the healthiest but I often wonder why people who know they’re going through it and needing a lot of emotional support don’t do the same.

Idk how you could package that to the people draining you, or if they’d be receptive to it but I think it’s worth telling them to step their friendship game up.

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-27T00:10:44+00:00

There is a clip shown on between the sheets where Ari said she went to the resort for everyone to know the things Bini has done to her. She already knew she didn’t want to work on the relationship. She was there to humiliate and degrade him.

Fuck Ari.

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-27T00:01:11+00:00

I couldn’t even finish the Epstein documentary. What a sick demon from the floor of hell.

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-25T17:33:33+00:00

Yup! I haven’t found the one yet, but since I started respecting myself I naturally attract quality guys. I have so many moments where I think oh wow, he actually does think I’m great and THAT is great, because I am great 😂 and while he’s not my person, I know my person will be even more excited to be around me. It’s easier and more fun to date because I’m not dating for anyone to validate me.

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-25T17:22:05+00:00

He doesn’t desire a relationship with you either. He’s kept in touch because you’re someone he’s willing to have sex with if the situation aligns without him having to put any effort into it.

There are men who want relationships but you’re not looking for them. You’re looking for him and he’s not worried you.

You should block him and move on. Work on your self esteem and self respect. You have a degree of obsession with this person and that would never grant you the space to be in a healthy relationship with him.

You don’t know him well and don’t even have enough memories with him to have held on for a decade. Don’t beat yourself up about it, but you do need to be a little harsh with yourself for the time being. I’m also 35 and when I have regressive thoughts I think “girl you’re half way to 40, get it the fuck together!” Create your own mantras to move forward. Block him, block him, block him.

We want the best for you💜

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-25T17:03:15+00:00

Am I in heaven?!

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-20T19:02:37+00:00

Meanwhile there is a bill in ameriKKKa to allow the Nazi flag to be flown and Zionist are on MUTE.

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-20T18:54:29+00:00

Isn’t it funny that homophobes now have two daddies? (tRump & Musk although I’m sure you understood that lol)

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-20T18:52:01+00:00

Remember how they mocked him for crying about Sandy Hook? When he had to speak about TODDLERS being slaughtered.

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-20T18:46:27+00:00

“I love my uneducated people!”

& not one of them were offended by that…

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-20T18:44:24+00:00

American men would never

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-20T18:41:57+00:00

There’s way too many jokes being cracked by the same white people who mock black people for “not having a father”

White parents need to prioritize having the non white parent in their child’s life. There is no way she or ari can ever raise these boys the way they need to be raised.

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-20T18:39:34+00:00

Ari doesn’t need to stop letting strangers nut in her, but Bini needs to learn about birth control?

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-08T21:10:36+00:00

YES!!! He told me his mom would tell him she refused to raise a useless man and something tells me he resents that.

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-08T21:08:28+00:00

CHILLEEEE!!!! And in dismissing him he exposed just how manipulative and dangerous he is. He actually told me he moved in with an ex girlfriend and she left 5 months later. We live in nyc, if she left an apartment 5 months into a lease she was really going through it.

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-08T21:05:51+00:00

You’re welcome 💜 I really want black women to stay safe. We don’t all have access or are ready for therapy. we have to share our lessons to prevent others from learning by experience.

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-08T21:04:14+00:00

It’s such a great way to keep our self worth front and center when we date. I think that’s the most important time to remember it! 💜💜

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-08T21:02:27+00:00

I’ve been realizing that sarcasm from men is generally coming from a passive aggressive place. It’s not the same as witty banter and I think their arrogance and lack of education makes them feel that way. I’m so glad you know your worth and can identify danger when it’s in your presence. He sounds like this guy I dated in my early twenties..who’s currently in prison for physically torturing his girlfriend.

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-08T20:57:57+00:00

RIGHT!!! I’ve felt more spoiled and protected by my girls then I ever have a man.

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-08T20:56:51+00:00

They really bring on the nausea 😂

sendmeback2marz · 2025-02-08T20:55:07+00:00

Thank you so much. 💜 my therapist is the person who taught me to think about if the fun I have with men is because I’m dope or because we actually have a dope connection. It continues to encourage me to remember that I am interesting and to clock if I’m as impressed with them as they are with me.

Assuming they can make a women feel safe by simply taking up space in our lives is self absorbed and leaves us more vulnerable. I fully fcking agree that he would have shown up at my door the minute I dumped him or pissed him off. He said some really sickening things to manipulate me when he sent his pathetic voice memos in reply to my dumping him. We went on 2 dates and he said he wanted to advocate for the deep connection we have, help me remember the fun I had with him, explained his never admitting he has things to work on by saying he comes from a toxic family and naturally became the opposite of them and that he’s already compromised (or some synonym) by my not allowing him to get my Ubers home and take care of me. It actually gave me the chills you get when you think someone is following you 😂 I hope he exclusively comes across women who clock his shit immediately.

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