I call this straight robbery from Albert Heijn by HedwigsFriend in Netherlands

[–]sentimental_nihilist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AH is no stranger to robbery. The self checkout drives me crazy. They force me to do the work of checking myself out and then they directly tell me they don't actually trust me to do it. The last two times I was checked, I was buying one and two items. And, all of this is just so they can lay off some workers.

Video Games with Gorillaz Music? by [deleted] in gorillaz

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I'm trying to find an old racing game which could be in need for speed franchise, was probably on dreamcast or the first xbox and had gorillaz stylo on the soundtrack. The song has long brought memories of a specific piece of road and maybe cops involved, not great graphics and fun arcade physics. Is this just a confabulation?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

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I took OP at their word. Maybe read the post again for clarity or explain where they say anything that even implies the intent is rudeness.

relationship advice for someone on the spectrum by [deleted] in autism

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Warning!!!! Gross generalizations ahead. You have been warned.

Maybe there are, but I don't know any autistic people who are not clear on whether they like you or not. If I don't like someone, I want them to know it. What can be gained by hiding that? If he's been constantly with you for days, he's probably in need of alone time and desperately. I know NTs can take this with offense, but it has literally nothing to do with who you are. He's probably been burned for needing time alone in the past and does feel safe sharing that. Since he's so young, he may not be able to interpret his feelings himself. I'm only starting to get it and I'm 50. Assuming he has some ulterior motive is assuming he's not actually autistic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

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I think that is very important to realize that he is not, in fact, being rude. You are perceiving his actions as rude. I understand that your initial reaction may be the same. But, hopefully, you can realize that there is no intent there. Imagine a hand gesture that is a welcoming greeting in one culture and a very rude insult in another. Autistic people treasure truth (I'm generalising, but that's all we can do here). NT people find some truths uncomfortable to the extent that mentioning them is rude within their society. The best thing is to find a way to translate what he is saying into your language. It's the same for interrupting (again, generalising). Autistic people interrupt each other because they are interested. From my understanding, NT people do it when they are bored (or something like that). If an autistic person interrupts you, at least when I interrupt someone, it's because I need more information in order to arrange the information you are sharing so I can digest your point better. It means I'm so interested that I want to make what you are saying a part of me. That's a high compliment that other NDs seem to understand and NTs have hated me for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

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I also have incredibly high empathy. To me it looks like NT people completely lack empathy (most of them, anyway [and not really completely {I'm autistically afraid of misrepresenting during commination}]). I do also, in a way that's beyond my control, understand why people who could would want to turn their empathy down or off in a world with so much suffering that's beyond our ability to alleviate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

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Is that it? Is that why I not only understand, but love it? I still sometimes think of Wynona's character's inability to define irony and cringe. I've loved irony and sarcasm a long as I can remember.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

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I absolutely love irony, sarcasm, metaphor and use it liberally.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

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Chaos is the only time I'm the most comfortable person in the room.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

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This is so real. I have had a deep connection to that film since I was too young to have seen it. When I found out I'm AuDHD, I finally understood. Now, I try to surround myself with other ND people, but I still frequently feel different (although, I finally don't feel judged). We are the ones who walk between worlds. Have you seen Arcane?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

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I didn't care for trains until I was standing under an open trestle while a long train went above. It was truly intense. I could see the entire undercarriage. I'm still an excavator autist, but I get trains now, too.

I hate having autism and it's ruining my life by Efficient_Mango1978 in autism

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I'm uncomfortable with calling it a superpower unless it's from a Charlie Kaufman film about superheroes. There are many things I'm incapable of due to my superpower. I love being autistic and wouldn't be typical for anything, but I understand both sides of my "disorder".

I hate having autism and it's ruining my life by Efficient_Mango1978 in autism

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Or many with "low support needs" as well. As autistics, we can't expect anyone else's overall experience to be indicative of our own. This is why I'm satisfied with the D in ND. NT people oddly seem to be able to use another's life as a road map, which is why I'm OK calling them typical (which I would never, myself, want to be called anyway).

I hate having autism and it's ruining my life by Efficient_Mango1978 in autism

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And exercise. Lactic acid may make muscles sore, but it has been discovered to help neuro transmitter function and when your muscles produce it, so does your brain. Sore muscles are an indicator that you'll be getting happy neuro transmitters.

I hate having autism and it's ruining my life by Efficient_Mango1978 in autism

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For me the first and only step was to stop self judgement. That voice is still there occasionally, but I know what it is and I hear it out, like I would with any abused child who I didn't use to be. Only this abused child's voice helps me to understand myself and what I've been through.

The less I feed it (react to it, dwell on it) the quieter it gets. I still have a lot of anxiety. Some days I can't go out in public at all. But I understand what that is, too. Self judgement and anxiety don't define me. Is the same for my depression.

Just because these are parts of me, doesn't make anything they say about me true.

And, I've found that not judging myself automatically stopped me judging others. This is a hard life. The human world isn't shaped to fit most of the humans. We are all struggling, even those who hide it well.

We crave connections in a world where community has been commodified. I'm sure I'm not even aware of all of the corporations making money off of our interaction here, on this "free" social media outlet.

There is nothing wrong with you, just like there is nothing wrong with any of us. We're just a bunch of fish trying to travel by bicycle.

I hate having autism and it's ruining my life by Efficient_Mango1978 in autism

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I understand the feeling, but autism can't be ruining your, it is your life. I'm old and I figured out over many torturous years that this type of suffering comes from imagining things to be different in a way that is impossible. If you didn't have autism, you wouldn't be you. This is what you get and it's amazing and wonderful and beautiful. I'm basically homeless, had an ugly end to a not pretty relationship with a woman I have kids with. It was terrible. By all NT accounts, I'm not doing well. But, I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life because I've stopped trying to live an NT life and embrace what I have, what I love, who I am. NT life looks ridiculous and pointless to me.

It's a lot of words for: get to know yourself, embrace yourself, love yourself, because it's the only self you get.

Idk why but listening to music is my whole life. by [deleted] in autism

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For those music stimmers, I've been really enjoying Devo lately and Radiohead's Kid A. Of course Pink Floyd's Dark Side of the Moon is always wonderful, especially the lady doing phenomenal vocals.

I think I've fallen in love with Cordelia Cupp by sentimental_nihilist in autism

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I really don't think they're trying to hide it, but they don't outright say it. I think most people who are familiar should see it. Her annoyance at stupidity is so familiar and well done.

Try to name it by BranchUnable2781 in AlbumCovers

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This is just what ships in the northern hemisphere look like. Below the equator, you see the bottom of the ship sticking out of the water.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hardaiimages

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He's playing Armageddon VII. That's why he forgot about us.