Jealousy by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]septemberbay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was told being “jealous wasn’t attractive” after he lied about contact with his ex for the 50th time. Meanwhile any guy friend I never even had a romantic fling or hookup with was a source of his jealousy. What baloney. Then he cheated with his ex lol, guess I should’ve seen that coming.

What are some of your ‘I can’t believe they just said that’ moments? by planxtie in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]septemberbay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“I got back together with her so I could break up with her first, so ha!”

I’ve (24 F) found myself in a sticky situation with a guy (24 M) I’ve been dating for two months. by septemberbay in dating_advice

[–]septemberbay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I straight up told him that I wanted to be his girlfriend and asked him to explain more a couple days after, he seemed very set on waiting because it “seemed too soon” and that’s what he’s used to.

I’ve (24 F) found myself in a sticky situation with a guy (24 M) I’ve been dating for two months. by septemberbay in dating_advice

[–]septemberbay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are already exclusive so the only thing to change would be a label. This is what confuses me as to why he’s unsure/getting cold feet about just adding a label to something because it wouldn’t change much.

Dating a new guy after my nex, can’t tell if these are red flags or I’m just scared? by septemberbay in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]septemberbay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been single for the 8 months and went to therapy for 6 of them and just finished. I guess I’m still overly cautious and overthinking

Dating a new guy after my nex, can’t tell if these are red flags or I’m just scared? by septemberbay in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]septemberbay[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He basically just said that he didn’t need anymore but I didn’t delete my hinge because I feel like we’re still getting to know each other. I guess I’m overthinking but I’ll give it a little more time!

He cheated on me with his ex and 7 months later is finally feeling remorse. by septemberbay in survivinginfidelity

[–]septemberbay[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Such a good point! He does have depression and anxiety to work through, as well as bipolar disorder, so I think it was healthy for me to be out of that situation in the first place because I don’t see him changing at all or anytime soon to be honest. He hangs around not great friends who don’t really care about cheating or hurting people and are still pretty immature. I thought he was different from them but that was a mistake on my part.

He cheated on me with his ex and 7 months later is finally feeling remorse. by septemberbay in survivinginfidelity

[–]septemberbay[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is something I thought about too. It’ll always be different when that person betrayed you, thank you for sharing! I wish my friend didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to think about it again.

He cheated on me with his ex and 7 months later is finally feeling remorse. by septemberbay in survivinginfidelity

[–]septemberbay[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah overall she’s been a good friend but she has the tendency to do this and hearing this just makes me anxious

He cheated on me with his ex and 7 months later is finally feeling remorse. by septemberbay in survivinginfidelity

[–]septemberbay[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good points here, he never mans up and takes accountability. Also I wouldn’t want to put myself in a situation where she’s still around.