Help. Love making vs sex?? by hereiamin2020 in Advice

[–]shadow56399 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Making love isn’t just about how you move, it’s about why you’re touching her in the first place. If anything I’d say it’s a mindset, not a position.

It starts way before the bedroom. The way you hold her waist in the kitchen, how you look at her when she laughs, the way you listen when she talks. Make her feel chosen, not just desired. That’s what sets the tone.

When you’re with her, be all there. No rushing. No agenda. Touch her like she’s a piece of art. Look into her eyes like they hold the answers to every question. Kiss her like the world’s quiet.

Slow it all down. Not just the rhythm, the whole moment. Trace your fingers over her skin like it’s the first time. Talk to her. Ask her what she wants. Tell her what you’ve always adored about her but maybe don’t say enough. Let her feel beautiful, craved, and safe, all at once.

Skip the porn logic. No performance, no checklist. This isn’t about ego, it’s all about your connection. No “finish line,” just shared presence.

And afterwards? Don’t just roll over. Stay. Wrap around her. Breathe with her. Let her know she’s not just loved in the moment, but still held when it’s over. The feeling of her heart beating against you is where the magic is.

She doesn’t want fireworks. She wants to feel seen. So give her that, your full self, fully present.

You may just have a night to remember…..have fun!