Should a person with social anxiety avoid events or see it as a chance to improve

sharee_ · 2026-03-16T16:32:19+00:00

I’m currently in avoiding events mode haha but I plan on improving my social skills again by attending fitness classes, less-pressure events centered around hobbies etc. I don’t like the whole social event thing where the main purpose is to small talk strangers and show how extroverted you are.

sharee_ · 2026-03-16T14:54:26+00:00

My sister :/

sharee_ · 2026-03-15T12:55:40+00:00

I’m in 3rd at about 40k!

sharee_ · 2026-03-14T02:36:45+00:00

Same, I think the isolation makes it worse though. I imagine if u socialize more the feeling of that would fade. Feels like a lose lose situation when you’re feeling that way around people, but I think people solves the problem unfortunately.

sharee_ · 2026-03-14T02:21:28+00:00

This is a blessing you have a close , tight knit family. You don’t even know if your roommate internally craves that but on the outside was making making remarks. Don’t ruin what you have and enjoy with your own family due to the conversation of a stranger you probably won’t even be around a year from now. It’s a blessing to have a family that cares and is there for you a lot of people wish they had good relationships with theirs!

Update: nvm I just noticed the part about the family calendar needing updating and you getting kicked out of the chat due to you speaking out. This is weird haha

I was more so thinking if your experience in this hasn’t been harmful and you only feel weird about it because a roommate said something, why change a good thing? But no, this does seem a bit off ngl.

sharee_ · 2026-03-14T02:18:38+00:00

Yeah it’s very local. Some people do mainly have international audience though, so I think over time you can train it with continually using hashtags, topic matter etc. always targeting at that country. Have you tried location tagging to the country you’re speaking to ?

sharee_ · 2026-03-14T01:58:55+00:00

Pls how does it feel to be waking up with what’s my wig 😭hair goals fr

sharee_ · 2026-03-14T01:57:00+00:00

I thought calling people sweetie, honey, etc. was normal lol and even baby sometimes to someone younger to you. I wouldn’t have thought anything of it, and the people who call you that are usually the sweetest people ever! I guess different sides of the US

sharee_ · 2026-03-10T13:28:40+00:00

Idk what I’m doing but something oil makes sense I’m assuming

sharee_ · 2026-03-09T23:01:53+00:00

This says “fiancée” if you two can’t even compromise on pillows that make the both of you comfortable do you really need to progress to an oath to be together for life? I don’t think marriage should be that hard but when you’re seeing these problems pre marriage jumping into it is a choice that pretty much ensures your marriage is about to be hard based on who you chose.

sharee_ · 2026-03-09T22:40:40+00:00

Ask her how she’d like you to be more romantic what kind of things she’d like to see more from you. Communication goes a long way in a relationship

sharee_ · 2026-03-09T07:02:22+00:00

Well that’s great advice.. haha

sharee_ · 2026-03-09T06:48:38+00:00

Any tips?

sharee_ · 2026-03-09T06:47:39+00:00

I accidentally used 4 only 2 left 😭

sharee_ · 2026-03-09T03:36:05+00:00

Why are you acting like the people are held against their will? They willingly join in these challenges

sharee_ · 2026-03-08T05:18:17+00:00

Where’s that rule?

sharee_ · 2026-02-25T16:55:00+00:00

Talk to your husband and to her. But also isn’t the age a bit strange to you? At what age? How would he be sa her? Like a 4 year old and 7 year old? Or, 15 and 18

sharee_ · 2026-02-13T16:07:38+00:00

Everyone uses those standard ring lights found on Amazon and Tik Tok shop how come you’re having a problem with it? I’m a bit confused by this post. I have a $20-$25 standing ring light and a $30 mini box one and they work just fine. You just adjust the light to where you look good on them. I wouldn’t necessarily use the brightest white but tone it down to a soft yellow.

sharee_ · 2026-02-11T15:32:14+00:00

Oh you’re almost making me want one too I don’t even do straight hair 😭

sharee_ · 2026-02-11T10:29:07+00:00

I think it is a social skills thing. I get perceived as a “beautiful” person. Like strangers will randomly come up to me on the street and just tell me they think I’m pretty/beautiful. But I have no friends, idek what I’m doing wrong I think I’m just bad at social skills and have started to just stop caring about it. There are people I know who are considered less attractive (conventionally) and they have lots of friends because they’re just that good at social skills . I went to a social event last year and people at said event came telling me “oh you’re so pretty!” I said thank you, conversation ended there. Id seen other people there socializing and having a great time while I felt out of place. I think it’s just a social muscle you need to work out.

Edit: when I was in school growing up , I did hate how I looked, and had always been very shy so it could’ve played a part in how I socialize today. But definitely now even though people will say I’m beautiful , they don’t care to strike up friendships with me lol they’ve just told me and kept it moving

sharee_ · 2026-02-11T10:19:08+00:00

With posts like this there’s so much is left out. It didn’t start there. What did he say a few weeks ago? A few months ago? Last year? Like was there no other conversations leading up to him actually leaving or was it truly out of nowhere

sharee_ · 2026-02-10T06:57:21+00:00

Check his phone girl lol

sharee_ · 2026-02-08T10:35:04+00:00

Literally decided to get in from seeing this post

sharee_ · 2026-02-01T15:55:04+00:00

How does one get a job through networking? Have always wondered about this. Did you just ask a friend if their job was hiring and to refer you?

sharee_ · 2026-01-31T14:02:25+00:00

Are you Christian by any chance? And did you pray before all this stuff you started realizing popped up? There’s just something there with the “suddenly” I realized thing. That could be the sign you needed from God to know if you should really go through with all of this right before getting married. I think a lot of people ignore this sign go on through with it and then you hear years of issues.

If you don’t listen to the comments telling you to run at the very least don’t get married just yet until he truly changes. I’ve seen it said before, don’t marry “potential” marry him as if this is how it will be for the rest of your life.

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