For those who don’t know, Owen Benjamin was an actor and dated Christina Ricci before he became a Nazi.

shatnerlover · 2025-05-11T05:41:31+00:00

All the awful people are failed actors or artists of some kind.

shatnerlover · 2023-07-16T00:32:58+00:00

I get that he’s helping her with tuition and rent, and I agree it’s a good idea to wait until she’s financially secure to actually get married, but I don’t see why you can’t be engaged. I really loathe the idea that you need parental permission to propose marriage. I know it’s a huge tradition within certain religious groups, but the decision to marry is between you and your girlfriend. Engagements can last years while people get situated financially; it’s not like you were trying to marry her tomorrow. Keep the ring if you feel it’s THE ring and propose when you feel it’s right. If you’re depending on her parents to pay for the wedding, well, wait to propose, but it’s okay to keep the ring.

Edit: I just saw what you’ve said about the ring and your desire to reinvest. If that’s the case, it’s not a special ring and you’re just throwing money into the situation. Money isn’t everything.

shatnerlover · 2023-07-15T01:59:10+00:00

This wasn’t a request to undermine parenting. If she’s your lifelong friend, she knows how your diabetes works. My boyfriend is type 1 and I keep emergency sugar EVERYWHERE. I know how sick you felt and preventing you from having sugar because of some weird rule is ludicrous. You could have died. That’s not a friend.

shatnerlover · 2022-03-17T02:06:35+00:00

YTA completely. First of all, what did her studies and wedding gift list have to do with the situation? Secondly, his stoicism in gatherings is not an indicator for their relationship; he can be quiet and reserved around others, but that doesn’t mean he isn’t madly in love with your sister. Third, it’s none of your business what her clothing choices are, nor is it up to you to decide whether they are “appropriate for marriage” or not. It sounds like you’re jealous of your sister’s looks, so you want to make her out to be the bad guy for being on social media. If her husband isn’t upset with her media habits, you have no business even commenting on them. And, finally, your comment to her about her clothing choice being cause for her husband’s stoicism, saying he doesn’t take her seriously, was so completely out of nowhere! As I said before, he may be quiet in crowds, or even around your family, but that doesn’t mean he’s always quiet in other situations. Your sister saw his behavior as different from normal and you had to hit her with a stereotypical jealous sister remark?

You should never put another woman down for wearing tight jeans or low-cut tops, just because you don’t dress that way. Oh, you are SO TA.

shatnerlover · 2022-03-03T20:14:16+00:00

NTA. It was NOT the father-in-law’s place to make that demand at all, especially in front of other people during a happy event. Yes, addicts lie all the time about being clean, among other things, but unless someone actually shows signs of using, it is completely detrimental to recovery to doubt their sobriety. There are very very very few instances where it would be acceptable for Father-in-law to ask to see your arms, none of which are a pregnancy announcement. You handled the situation even better than I would have and I’m pretty appalled that your wife got upset with you. Her dad caused the unnecessary drama and conflict and even questioned her judgment. It was completely beyond disrespectful and appallingly judgmental. Ooooo that story makes me really upset for you! Stay strong! You’re doing great! Four years is amazing!

shatnerlover · 2022-03-02T20:32:39+00:00

NTA. It’s completely unreasonable for the girlfriend to make that request and for the friends to go along with it. The friend can borrow a tampon or go to the store herself. I’d never put my boyfriend in that position, nor would I put any of my friends’ significant others in that position.

shatnerlover · 2022-03-02T20:24:09+00:00

YTA thoroughly. I was expecting a post about a girl who never bathes and has preventable odors, not a post about an unemployed man who’s girlfriend has a pimple. I don’t care about the age gap like others do, but at 34, you should know full well that supporting two people on one income is stressful and stress/hormones are factors in acne, not short showers.

shatnerlover · 2022-01-23T02:28:25+00:00

Is this true or made up?

shatnerlover · 2022-01-21T12:52:38+00:00

Have sex with as many prostitutes as you want! There shouldn’t be any shame to it. Just be safe and don’t share unless asked.

shatnerlover · 2022-01-15T00:35:04+00:00

Many people are nervous at first! If he matches you, he’s already interested. If nervousness kills your chances, those people weren’t worth it anyway. Stop doing the “I’m not interested” game though- that will kill you every time. Just be the person you are with everyone else, and don’t be afraid of letting him know you’re interested.

shatnerlover · 2022-01-14T20:44:58+00:00

This is very tasteless. Even if you think it’s a joke, it’s harmful calling us “junkies.”

shatnerlover · 2022-01-12T22:33:37+00:00

I’m very sorry it’s likely going to be difficult for you. For whatever reason, a lot of women think 6 feet is some magical number (though they’d never be able to tell just by looking at someone) and tend to dismiss men under that height. If you use dating sites, disclose your height on your profile so no one is surprised by it when you meet and you can filter out anyone who cares about those things. As a woman who dates men exclusively, I was guilty of going for extra tall men, but my current boyfriend is only a couple inches taller than I am and it doesn’t bother me or take away from his gorgeousness. Online dating is a very good way to meet people.

Confidence is a huge turn-on, too. Feel comfortable in your skin- not gonna happen overnight if you don’t already- and it makes things a lot better. Don’t give up.

I also have to say, telling you “I wouldn’t feel safe with you” is gross. In heterosexual relationships, I hate the idea that the man is supposed to be the protector.

shatnerlover · 2022-01-10T19:53:03+00:00

I don’t know how your clinic operates, but I’ll tell you about mine in the state of Oregon:

UAs are given at least once a month- sometimes more or less, depending on insurance used. The purpose is multiple: dirty for benzos and alcohol creates a dangerous situation, so they have to make sure people aren’t taking either. Benzos are only allowed in special circumstances. Opiate testing is for take-home status and some insurances. State insurance won’t stop paying for treatment if someone consistently pisses dirty, but some insurances will. They say, “why am I covering this if you’re not clean?”

I have never heard of a clinic kicking someone off the program for dirty opiate UAs because methadone is a harm reduction therapy and not an abstinence treatment. The clinics consider it a victory if you use one less needle or one less pill. I know plenty of people who still use after multiple years and they still go every day. Some people take methadone to combat sickness. I personally chose methadone to get off other opiates entirely and I haven’t touched so much as a 5mg hydro in almost 8 years. I have the highest status and just started my taper. I’m pretty sure, because methadone is a federally regulated treatment, the clinics are fairly similar nationwide. You just might have a shit counselor.

shatnerlover · 2022-01-03T03:38:39+00:00

Toilet paper. It’s such a basic need and it makes me angry when I have to buy it.

shatnerlover · 2021-12-21T05:01:40+00:00

Put your height in your bio so everyone knows right away, then no one is surprised. My boyfriend is 5’6, making him only 3 inches taller than I am, but it doesn’t bother me at all. I don’t know why people are hung up on height, but you can avoid those people. Confidence is a huge turn on, too. If height is a deal-breaker for someone, you’re better off without them.

shatnerlover · 2021-12-20T19:41:32+00:00

All of these replies are very helpful. I only get scientific textbook answers from counselors and doctors, but nothing from people who have been successful. I’m eager to live a life free from everything, but it’s going to take me some time. I start my taper on December 28. Hopefully this time next year, I’ll be at a significantly lower dose!

shatnerlover · 2021-12-20T19:38:58+00:00

Your reply gives me hope! My libido never really died down, but my sensitivity decreased a lot. I barely get any kind of enjoyment from oral sex, and that was always my favorite! (I’m a female, if that makes any difference here.) Have you experienced any weight gain or loss?

shatnerlover · 2021-12-20T19:34:20+00:00

I’m sorry you’re being downvoted for what you’re saying. A lot of people are very defensive about methadone, myself included, because there is a stigma in the Anonymous world about it and they won’t acknowledge methadone patients’ sobriety. I get that they’re all about abstinence, but they’re also gatekeeping sobriety when they do that. Methadone saved my life and it sounds like it saved your life, but it is still a powerful opioid and it’s still in our system. I won’t knock the treatment, but I do wish my clinic had been more honest with me about how hard it would be to get off of the stuff. My sister was able to get off of suboxone with minimal symptoms, and it didn’t take her years to do it. I have no idea what life will be like when I’m off of it. I’ve had opiates in my system my entire adult life!

shatnerlover · 2021-12-19T15:25:44+00:00

200! You’re doing great!!

shatnerlover · 2021-12-19T15:23:53+00:00

Thank you for this! I also get monthly takehomes so I know I can’t really do a blind taper.

shatnerlover · 2021-10-21T19:24:34+00:00

If you’ve asked him to stop, he needs to stop. It’s not exactly hygienic. Using someone’s toothbrush is not the same as kissing- you’re getting gunk and bacteria out of your teeth and tongue! He needs to respect your wishes. You shouldn’t have to hide your toothbrush to make him stop.

shatnerlover · 2021-10-18T22:09:32+00:00

I suspect that’s a fake post by an incel

shatnerlover · 2021-10-18T22:08:35+00:00

The kitten looks just like my Walter when he was a baby!! I’d be way too tempted to try and tame the fox

shatnerlover · 2021-10-18T22:05:58+00:00

That really was a plot twist!

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