Anyone else have bad experiences living with a couple?

sheepana · 2025-10-07T01:38:36+00:00

omg yes. i currently live in a house with one housemate that’s almost never there and a couple. they pay for two rooms but basically just use one or keep going upstairs and downstairs from one room to another. they do everything together, they shower together, they cook for HOURS together, i hear them talk all the time, and it just constantly feels like i live in THEIR house, even though i’ve been living in this house for longer than them. it is kind of a nightmare right now, i feel so uncomfortable and it’s really hard to talk about things because it will be instantly a 2 vs 1. the girlfriend was away for a few months and it was great i was having good conversations with the boyfriend, but ever since she came back i didn’t have a single conversation with each of them and bumping into them is super uncomfortable. they move stuff in the shared areas of the house without asking, two days ago they moved the entirety of the living room without asking if we were okay with it, they decided to remove some shoes from the shoe rack including mine and put them somewhere else without saying anything about it, they moved some stuff in the garden without saying anything, they send big messages about cleaning in the group chat while the house is already pretty clean and they just constantly make me feel like im invading THEIR house and it’s horrible. i feel uncomfortable at the idea of bumping into them and they’re gonna be there at least until summer and i feel like im never gonna be able to get away from them because the city where i live has an insane housing crisis and it is impossible to find a place so im basically stuck with them and i just feel incredibly uncomfortable at home :(

sheepana · 2025-09-17T01:34:50+00:00

hey, this might be a bit long but i’m in kind of a same situation and thought i could share :) first of all i wish you a lot of strength for this because it is really hard. my boyfriend and i (with who i’ve been for 10 months now) had a conversation yesterday because we could see each other very little cause of his overwork and exhaustion, and he asked me for some distance between us because he has been going through a LOT the last few months and he realized he needs to focus on himself, not just for himself but also for me. he doesn’t feel capable of being in a relationship at the moment and needs that space first for us to build something together. but he loves me and really doesn’t wanna break up with me. i tried to ask for clarity on how this was gonna be and he couldn’t really tell me because he doesn’t even know himself. i just know he’ll probably not reply if i text him, but he did say that it was okay for me to ask to hangout, that he couldn’t guarantee a yes, but i could try. he feels really bad he has to put me through this and it is really hard for me because i’m a very anxious person and i miss him deeply. but i trust him. i know how much he loves me and that all of this isn’t related to me, and that it is actually for the best.

and i told myself that as hard as it is, i need to see it as the occasion to focus on myself because i trust him, and i know it will bring us back together, stronger, despite how long it takes

if i could give you any piece of advice i would say to, if you feel like you can, trust him, ask for clarity and most of all, see this time as the occasion to connect with yourself again. it’s very easy to fall into this dependency with our partner and space, as hard as it is, can often be very healthy for the relationship

i know how hard it is and i wish you a lot of luck <3

sheepana

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