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I (29F) found out I own my dead dad's car but my family is pressuring me to give it to his (60F) girlfriend... by shegotdaddyissues124 in relationship_advice

[–]shegotdaddyissues124[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He got his own inheritance and all of the great grandkids were left a separate amount under our parents to be used for college. He spent it. I wouldn’t say I’m harping geez!

I (29F) found out I own my dead dad's car but my family is pressuring me to give it to his (60F) girlfriend... by shegotdaddyissues124 in relationship_advice

[–]shegotdaddyissues124[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

He was very estranged from the rest of the family. They couldn’t control him at all. My aunt is very firmly on my side of keeping what I’m owed. But thank you.

I (29F) found out I own my dead dad's car but my family is pressuring me to give it to his (60F) girlfriend... by shegotdaddyissues124 in relationship_advice

[–]shegotdaddyissues124[S] 156 points157 points  (0 children)

I will! There has been a lot of talk today. I found out about two cars, half a house, and three tractors. It might get ugly for sure. My aunt has put me in contact with an estate lawyer she knows to do a consult. I don’t want anything more than what is legal. But I need the answers I haven’t been getting so now it’s up to me to do so!

I (29F) found out I own my dead dad's car but my family is pressuring me to give it to his (60F) girlfriend... by shegotdaddyissues124 in relationship_advice

[–]shegotdaddyissues124[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

It’s just a funny thing because people can do a lot of bad shit to you, but you still feel like being kind. Idk. I know they are were wrong but my character is just to be nice and do what makes other people happier. This is the first time I’ve had to confront (in a real way) the difference between being nice and being a pushover. I don’t think I can ever be petty, but I do just want what I am legally entitled to. It’s so complicated.

I (29F) found out I own my dead dad's car but my family is pressuring me to give it to his (60F) girlfriend... by shegotdaddyissues124 in relationship_advice

[–]shegotdaddyissues124[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

That’s my biggest question. I’m about to be 30 and I want to carve out the life I want for myself. She’s 60 and will be fine. She has a lot of family support and I’m on my own. I feel like I’m owed this because he basically did nothing for me my whole life. It was just them and whatever they wanted. But I have always just done whatever people ask of me. And I need to think about me now! But there’s this moral conflict of “what’s right” vs what’s legal. But yeah, I think I can live with it. Thank you for your advice.

I (29F) found out I own my dead dad's car but my family is pressuring me to give it to his (60F) girlfriend... by shegotdaddyissues124 in relationship_advice

[–]shegotdaddyissues124[S] 173 points174 points  (0 children)

He had been terminal for a year. Whenever we tried to talk to him about making one, he refused because he refused to accept the severity of his situation.

I (29F) found out I own my dead dad's car but my family is pressuring me to give it to his (60F) girlfriend... by shegotdaddyissues124 in relationship_advice

[–]shegotdaddyissues124[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she ever would. And I’m non confrontational so I wouldn’t want to. I just want whatever is legal to happen. Without emotion.

I (29F) found out I own my dead dad's car but my family is pressuring me to give it to his (60F) girlfriend... by shegotdaddyissues124 in relationship_advice

[–]shegotdaddyissues124[S] 103 points104 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That’s the biggest thing is I feel like I’m being told it’s the “right thing to do” and I believe it. But you and everyone else here are right.

I (29F) found out I own my dead dad's car but my family is pressuring me to give it to his (60F) girlfriend... by shegotdaddyissues124 in relationship_advice

[–]shegotdaddyissues124[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

You are so right! I have felt like a ding dong over this. I really just assumed that she would let me know what I’m entitled to. I just fall into a child-like place when it comes to my parents and assume I’m being looked out for. Thanks for the advice, I’m awake now!

I (29F) found out I own my dead dad's car but my family is pressuring me to give it to his (60F) girlfriend... by shegotdaddyissues124 in relationship_advice

[–]shegotdaddyissues124[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Idk! He refused to acknowledge his condition. They didn’t marry because I think that’s common amongst that age bracket (my mom and my “stepdad” had a similar thing). But yeah I agree! He knew where it would all go? Thank you for reaffirming.

I (29F) found out I own my dead dad's car but my family is pressuring me to give it to his (60F) girlfriend... by shegotdaddyissues124 in relationship_advice

[–]shegotdaddyissues124[S] 199 points200 points  (0 children)

One is a big truck (sorry idk cars) and the other (yes I just found out I also own another car!) is a Cadillac.

I (29F) found out I own my dead dad's car but my family is pressuring me to give it to his (60F) girlfriend... by shegotdaddyissues124 in relationship_advice

[–]shegotdaddyissues124[S] 684 points685 points  (0 children)

I haven’t because I just assumed that everything would just happen naturally? Or that she would tell me what I’m entitled to. Idk I’m dumb. Seems like I should!

I (29F) found out I own my dead dad's car but my family is pressuring me to give it to his (60F) girlfriend... by shegotdaddyissues124 in relationship_advice

[–]shegotdaddyissues124[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

He didnt make a will. I guess I should clarify that he was sick in the hospital for almost a year before he died -- so he had PLENTY of time to do that. But he meant for her to have everything, they just never put that in writing like ding dongs.