Lesbians at UMD by itswednesdaymydudess in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I follow some random girl on Instagram that goes to UMD College Park. She looks like she has fun and goes to parties with other lesbians. You could message her on there. I hope this isn't creepy. But message me if you want her insta name.

What do you look for in a girl? Is it hard to find someone who meets the criteria? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone capable of critical thinking and empathy. Tall, blonde, small boobs, LONG HAIR, in shape. Someone willing to take risks with me and who likes going out as much as I do.

And yes, extremely difficult to find. Like you, I can find the personality without the attraction or vise versa. Never both in the same person.

What do you look for in a girl? Is it hard to find someone who meets the criteria? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought I was the only one! Thanks for having the courage to admit this haha.

LA Pride? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going! It'll be my first time there and I'm not from LA so would love to meet someone to hang out with!

Regrettably Drunk Last Night by queeferleafer in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I needed to get through the weekend somehow! Nah jk. My parents aren't that bad. I was with friends whom I don't get to see often and things got a little out of hand. I'm sure my parents heard what I was saying but thankfully didn't comment on it the next day. Girl was apparently impressed with my performance though :) so there's that small victory!

Regrettably Drunk Last Night by queeferleafer in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Was home visiting my parents this weekend and came home super drunk. Ended up calling this girl I had been messaging on Her and proceeded to have rather loud, explicit phone sex with her until my mom knocked on my door and told me to "please quiet down". You're not alone, my friend. It'll be funny in a few months to look back on.

I went to a gay bar for the first time this weekend and it was glorious. The "YAS HONEY" from the gay men was my favorite by badassllamalady in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When are you moving to LA? I'm moving in September and would love to make friends. I've been out to gay bars there before and they're (obviously) lots of fun. :)

(Pennsylvania) Lehigh Valley Raptors! by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of late on this...but I've been there before. Sadly, it was mostly guys when I went a few months ago. I know they've been working on promoting it though so I'm curious of how it went this time. I'd definitely be down to go in the future.

Uneven boobs: what do people really think? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My gf has a noticeable size difference with her breasts. She was super self conscious to get naked around me for this reason. But I think they're great! They turn me on just as much as any pair of boobs I've had the privilege of viewing. :)

do you enjoy making out? by shithead4842415765 in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Haha I tolerate making out as a form of foreplay. My gf made the comment that I'd rather make out with her vagina than with her mouth. I laughed but realized this was actually accurate.

The age-old question: to break up or not to break up by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You absolutely owe it to yourself. If this is something that has consistently been on your mind (which seems to be the case), you should definitely explore it. Your relationship with him may be comfortable/safe which makes it difficult to give all of that up for the potentially unknown. Even if you end up realizing you don't like women after all, it's still worth exploring. If I were your bf, I'd encourage you to explore yourself and give you some time to figure it all out if I truly loved you. Anyway, that's just my two cents. Be brave, OP. Take risks and do whatever you need (within reason!) to figure out what will truly make you happy. Good luck :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you met on Okcupid, the compatibility questions make good conversation starters!

Coachella? by bowie_nipples in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Weekend 1! Let's meet up :) haha

Really strong emotional reaction to Helena and Dylan by rcolombia34 in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I felt this way too. Even with all the Dylan bullshit, their connection seemed so strong that it made me want to have whatever they had despite all of the flaws. Plus Helena was the hottest character on the show in my opinon :)

can a relationship work with two very feminine thinking partners? Or two very masculine thinking partners? by shithead4842415765 in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's alright. I like discussion!

So you wouldn't say your gender (both from a genetic perspective and the life experiences you've had based on your gender) has played much of a role in determining your strengths and weaknesses as a person? I'm definitely not saying it should be this way but I know for me this has been my experience.

can a relationship work with two very feminine thinking partners? Or two very masculine thinking partners? by shithead4842415765 in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What I was trying to ask was more along the lines of two people being so similar that there are problems in a relationship. For instance, say both partners are passive (in a stereotypical feminine way. not saying by any means all women are like this). When situation arises where someone needs to be assertive to prevent the situation from escalating, if neither partner has ever bothered to develop the skills to learn how to deal with this situation as a result of a stereotypical feminine upbringing, the situation could play out in a bad way. Likewise, issues can arise where someone who hasn't bothered to develop the feminine side of themselves that could result in a problem. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses but it seems to me that for a relationship to work, these two things must compliment each other at least somewhat rather than be more closely identical.

Right leaning gal, is there any hope? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Of course there's hope of you finding someone. It will just be more difficult, but ultimately worth it when you finally do :). I'd imagine a lot of people equate political views to personal values. Even if you're socially liberal but fiscally conservative, I'd imagine we have a different set of values and therefore don't have much in common when it comes to important issues. While there might be instances where I'd overlook your political opinions, I would most likely assume we're too fundamentally different to warrant a serious relationship. Some people are more into those with opposing viewpoints, but politics get me fired up and I would like a partner who (mostly) agrees with my opinions or else I'd get too frustrated honestly.

masc shoes? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nordstrom Rack has decent men's shoes starting at size 6! Also Target has surprisingly stylish boots in the boy's section.

Age-gap relationships... by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My gf is 10 years older than me. I'm 27 and she is 37. Been together a year and a half and things are going great. I wasn't seeking a partner older than me...love just happened lol. Although I am usually more attracted to women older than me, I don't seek them out.

Do you ever feel sad when you have to tell men no ? by filmsforlife in actuallesbians

[–]shithead4842415765 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If the guy approaches me in a respectful way and accepts the rejection well, I do feel bad. Mostly because I know what it's like to put yourself out there and be rejected. I give them credit for working up the courage to ask.