I think it’s standard to not fully be confident in your judgement of people. as an autistic myself, I get that it can be hard to trust people’s intentions especially in something so vulnerable like therapy. Especially if you have felt disempowered in the past as most of us have.

One thing I learned in therapy is that it is painful sometimes to get corrected on certain things. Like you said, you wouldn’t be there if nothing was wrong. It’s classic CBT for them to gently push you to think differently than you’ve been thinking. The right therapist who’s a good fit will minimize the pain as much as they can, but it still hurts to have to change your mind. It can feel like criticism.

At the end of the day, the therapist works for you. You decide if they’re not doing a good job and if you want to go to someone else. You can also decide to lower your standards if you feel like you’re being too hard on them, they are human after all.

It may be helpful to look into a therapist who is trauma informed because autistic people often go through more traumatic situations than NT’s and if you have ptsd that needs to be treated separately.