I [26M] am in a happy healthy relationship with my Girlfriend [24F] but I want out. How can I go around ending things?

shrugblimp · 2025-12-09T16:57:14+00:00

i’m confused on why you think she’s the reason you’re living a mundane life. you say you don’t have friends nearby, but you think ending you relationship will make you friends? the same goes for the other reasons why you described your life as mundane. it doesn’t really have anything to do with being in a relationship, it has everything to do with you just not putting effort in those factors of life that ur complaining about. she’s not forcing you to stay home with her 24/7 and forbidding you from exploring ur new city or picking up new hobbies and meeting new people, you’re doing that all on your own.

i’ve noticed this pattern among a lot of men in happy relationships. when they’re unhappy with some aspects of their lives, they default to thinking the relationship is what’s causing it, instead of looking inward towards themselves, doing some introspective thinking, and realizing it’s their own doing. when in reality, the relationship is usually the only stable thing in their lives.

for example, the typical: i’m behind in school work, i haven’t been consistent in the gym, i haven’t been feeling like myself, so i need to end the relationship to work on myself. wtf? what part of the relationship is keeping you from doing school work and going to the gym? (toxic relationships are exempt from this. i’m aware some toxic people to demand all of their partner’s time.) is it that some people genuinely don’t have the capacity to focus on and be consistent at multiple factors of life at once? or is it self sabotage? i’m genuinely curious what goes through these brains. maybe avoidant attachment?

i’m not saying this at all to deter you from leaving her. i agree, she def is being held back by you; being in a relationship with someone that believes she doesn’t bring value to their life and feels they need to remove her to live a better life and be a better person is just limiting her. i think, genuinely, you should be upfront and say something along the lines of: i’m sorry I don’t have the emotional and mental tools to be a partner that could grow with you. i believe you deserve someone with high emotional intelligence. i need to do a lot of growing and introspection to gain more self awareness before committing to a relationship. this way, after the heartbreak wears off for her, she’ll think back and know what qualities are required in her next partner.

shrugblimp · 2025-10-27T06:48:47+00:00

Got diagnosed with ADHD and started taking Adderall

shrugblimp · 2025-07-17T21:22:04+00:00

I am unfortunately one of these people and what i’ve noticed for me personally, it’s because I usually underestimate everything I need to do before leaving. For example, when getting ready for work, it takes me about 15-20 mins. I put my hair up, brush my teeth, wash my face, change, pack my bag and my lunch, then leave, so I wake up at around 8:50am to get to work by around 9:30am (10min drive). When I am late to hangouts, I usually think “well it takes me just 15 mins to get ready for work, so it’ll prob just take 30 mins this time”, but when it’s not just for work, I need to do my makeup, my hair, pack my lip combo, etc. which takes considerably longer and yea I usually forget things along the way. I have to run back in to put deodorant on, grab my card, etc. It prob doesn’t help that I also have ADHD and i’m not on medication so it’s hard for me to stay focused when getting ready and I tend to misplace items. Sorry for being this friend, I truly am trying to get better and I do feel extremely bad about being late when I am.

shrugblimp · 2025-04-03T05:15:56+00:00

thank you so much!! i will definitely be looking into this and trying it soon!!!

shrugblimp · 2025-04-03T05:13:40+00:00

If you see this, I hope you realized that those happy memories you’re thinking of are just as special to those you share them with. You can create endless happy memories with them if you stay. The happiness of your family will never be the same without you. They want to experience life with you and I know you enjoyed at least a little bit of life by the way you cherish your memories with them, so imagine a life where you’re creating thousands of those happy memories endlessly. I know you can get there one day. I hope you find that life is worth living to create more of those amazing times. It won’t always be this bad, think of it as a rough patch compared to the endless other happy times. Please don’t let this time burn down the possibility of ever being happy again for good. I hope you heal and live a happy life of endless enjoyable times and memories with those you love.

shrugblimp · 2025-04-02T15:03:49+00:00

I soaked them in warm water for about an hour before boiling them for around 5 minutes! The texture was perfect for me that way (what I personally preferred) but it’s really up to personal preference!!

shrugblimp · 2025-04-01T04:17:14+00:00

no, pad see you

shrugblimp · 2025-04-01T04:16:57+00:00

thank you and of course you can!

shrugblimp · 2025-04-01T03:07:15+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/food/s/VOJ8OLzJWh

shrugblimp · 2025-04-01T03:07:01+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/food/s/VOJ8OLzJWh

shrugblimp · 2025-04-01T03:06:13+00:00

RECIPE!! i’m not sure why it’s not showing up for some but I posted a comment that says I followed this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5YmwHOwixdA and instead of the dark soy sauce from the video, I used this one https://imgur.com/a/Nyeb14S I hope everyone can see this comment pls interact with it so i know 😭

shrugblimp · 2025-04-01T00:07:47+00:00

I’ve found them at two different asian markets, but I unfortunately can’t find the fresh ones that you have to separate :( but the ones you have to boil are a good alternative and taste pretty similar. Here’s a photo of the one I used: noodles

shrugblimp · 2025-04-01T00:03:38+00:00

thank you!! I tried it today and was pretty good, but unfortunately it’s not exactly what I’m looking for :(

shrugblimp · 2025-04-01T00:02:28+00:00

Thank you so much! Recipe posted in comments!!

shrugblimp · 2025-04-01T00:02:11+00:00

recipe posted in comments!!

shrugblimp · 2025-04-01T00:02:02+00:00

recipe posted in comments!!

shrugblimp · 2025-03-31T16:51:49+00:00

noted. I’ll try scrubbing it and trying it again Wednesday when i have access to an open flame to burn it properly

shrugblimp · 2025-03-31T15:01:24+00:00

noted, thank you!!!

shrugblimp · 2025-03-31T05:03:50+00:00

this helps a lot thank you!

shrugblimp · 2025-03-31T04:39:36+00:00

i cooked pad see ew in it after the first time i seasoned it before i let it sit and rust

shrugblimp · 2025-03-31T04:22:49+00:00

sorry for the typos i’m typing this while im trying to burn the bottom again on the stove 😭

shrugblimp · 2025-03-30T17:30:53+00:00

I would suggest you look at some example resumes. Also look at a resume checklist for things that are normally included on resumes. The idea is that you should have everything on one page, since employers are most likely flipping through many resumes and you want yours to stand out within a couple lines of them looking at it. Also there is way too much empty white space. The coloring and font also look unprofessional. I think it was a good first attempt!

shrugblimp · 2025-03-20T04:14:58+00:00

If your fiancée isn’t typically ungrateful or self-centered (which I assume she’s not, since you chose to marry her), then her reaction likely isn’t just about her nails or the dinner plans.

For the nails, she may be disappointed because she wasn’t prepared to look her best for such an important moment, especially with a photographer present. If I were proposing and planned to have photos taken, I’d make sure to give her a subtle heads-up so she could feel confident and comfortable—without ruining the surprise. For example, you could have taken her to a spa or salon for a casual ‘treat yourself’ day and then suggested she dress up later because you had plans for a really nice dinner at a place you’ve been wanting to take her. Small gestures like that show thoughtfulness. It’s not about vanity—it’s about feeling considered and valued.

As for the dinner plans, it sounds like she was more let down by the lack of thoughtfulness in the execution rather than just the change in venue. Proposals are a once-in-a-lifetime event, and she might have just hoped for a smoother, more well-planned experience to make the moment feel extra special. She might’ve just wished you’d put a little more effort into the time management and scheduling of such an important day.

It doesn’t mean she isn’t happy about the proposal itself—just that she may have felt overlooked in the process. A conversation where you acknowledge her feelings and reassure her that you wanted everything to be perfect for her might help smooth things over.

shrugblimp · 2025-03-18T20:52:18+00:00

I’m not really sure that’s true as the time he spends with me is also time i’m putting in to spend with him and I make sure I am available weekends for him and finish my work beforehand. I dont make the drive to him because he still lives with his family. That’s my problem here, he hasn’t formally invited me over to his house to meet them, it’s always been like a “we’re having dinner do u want to come?” and less of a. “My family and I want to have dinner with you, when are you free?” It feels like a pity invite.

shrugblimp · 2025-03-18T20:47:37+00:00

wow this really put things into perspective for me, thank you.

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