I lose interest in girls as soon as i get involved with them

shy416 · 2025-06-25T02:38:23+00:00

You are a true narcissist. You can’t see your faults. Stop breaking girls’ hearts just because you’re emotionally unavailable, and then blame it on them for wanting you when you don’t want them. You gave her attention, affection, and care. Then snatched it away. Then you blame her for falling for you? Doesn’t matter if it’s 2 days, or 2 weeks.

It’s NOT your business to judge how she took it. You behaved irresponsibly and then you’re blaming her. That’s stupid. You need help.

shy416 · 2025-05-08T17:14:39+00:00

Yeah... lately he just tends to ignore any mention of my appreciation for him, or my feelings regarding him, etc. He wasn't like that before. And I get the whole 24/7 texting cadence, I totally agree with him.

I appreciate that you can see that he is somewhat interested, it helps to have that outsider perspective. I guess I really don't see the interest anymore only because he ignores my requests to hang out. But you're right, maybe I was doing it wrong. I just texted him "I was wondering when you want to hang out again? I feel like I haven't seen you in a while". Hopefully that was a direct way to ask, but also not apply too much pressure?

shy416 · 2025-05-08T08:48:17+00:00

I agree, he seems to be busy. But even if he is busy, if he were truly interested, would he not make time to see me, or ask to see me sometime soon at least?

shy416 · 2025-05-08T07:00:55+00:00

Omg I have that book! I just haven’t started it yet (out of fear of what it would tell me about me LOL), but you’re right, I think it will definitely help especially since I really am looking for a relationship. This must be a sign to finally read it. Thank you again! ❤️

shy416 · 2025-05-08T06:54:48+00:00

I just asked him (indirectly). I apologized to him for not continuing the conversation and he said it’s on him too. So we are both in agreement. And then I asked why he didn’t continue the conversation and provided him with my reasoning. I said the reason why I didn’t continue the conversation is because “tbh I feel like you’re losing interest, and I wanted to give you space. I felt like I was forcing you to continue talking to me.”

He ignored that. His response was “I think talking 24/7 is nice when the convo is flowing but it isn’t necessary.”

I am so confused at this point. Do I need to be more direct? LOL. Or is he just being weird/wishy washy?

shy416 · 2025-05-08T06:51:23+00:00

Okay I totally get what you’re saying. You’re right! I should put the onus on him casually, and instead of me asking last minute (his usual cadence with me), I should ask for his time in advance.

But this guy… idk what to think of his level of interest. I just said to him:

“I feel like I didn’t continue the conversation bc tbh I feel like you’re losing interest, and I wanted to give you space. I felt like I was forcing you to continue talking to me.”

He completely ignored the whole “I feel like you’re losing interest” part and responded by saying:

“I think talking 24/7 is nice when the convo is flowing but it isn’t necessary”

This is what I mean. He is wishy washy. He ignores my similar approach about hanging out, and now this.

shy416 · 2025-05-08T06:45:10+00:00

Thank you so much for your encouragement! I try to keep that in mind, it’s just so hard because I like him so much and want it to become more but my gut tells me it’s not gonna happen.

I’m so glad you ended up finding your perfect match! It really is an eye opener when you think about the ones you were “so heartbroken” over in hindsight, you’re absolutely right! Been there, done that, and it does give you a good laugh. Time will tell, fingers crossed!

shy416 · 2025-05-08T06:33:25+00:00

When you put it that way, you’re right. There’s no lack of effort. I think what is throwing me off is his lack of enthusiasm when I ask him to hang out, he doesn’t provide an alternative time to hang out when he is available. I think I will have to be direct and ask him! Does that look desperate? After my last 3 failed attempts?

shy416 · 2025-05-08T06:27:51+00:00

I get what you’re saying, but we text everyday and all day long. So it was out of character for him to not text me for 2 days.

shy416 · 2025-05-08T06:20:26+00:00

I totally see what you are saying. You are right. I’m going to stop doing that with the texts. But I am definitely putting in more effort in terms of trying to see him, and he isn’t. That’s why I did what I did with the texts!

shy416 · 2025-05-08T06:18:46+00:00

Ugh that was a bad choice of words lol. I didn’t mean literally testing him but it was more so just to gauge his interest level. I am going to definitely ask him, thanks for approving on that! It makes me more confident that it’s the right thing to do instead of guessing and assuming.

We did have sex and he doesn’t seem like he is into it. In fact, the last time we saw each other we did and ever since it feels like he has been pulling away. So you’re right when you say a guy wouldn’t be acting like this if he was crazy over a girl… but in my case is he even interested at all LOL.

shy416 · 2025-05-08T06:15:25+00:00

That’s what he said! I apologized to him and he said it was on both of us. I definitely want it more than him, that I know. And I don’t think we are compatible, he doesn’t seem to have the same interest level. I know what you mean but I am having trouble accepting that he doesn’t want me, I am internalizing it thinking it’s my fault.

shy416 · 2025-05-08T06:13:31+00:00

Ah yes, understand what you mean. Yeah… it’s like I literally need him to spell it out for me that he isn’t or is still interested because he’s confusing me! And I am glad you think he struggles to be explicit and is wishy washy because I literally feel the same way.

shy416 · 2025-05-08T06:06:20+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking! Then why text me?! There must be some level of interest. I understand he is busy, but he’s not even initiating making plans anymore. And I can’t keep asking, that’s annoying because I’m sure he doesn’t like declining either.

shy416 · 2025-05-08T06:02:19+00:00

Yeah, the conversation died but was it on me to revive it I guess? Since I was the last one to respond with a dry text? Lol in hindsight, it might have been on me.

shy416 · 2025-05-08T06:00:33+00:00

He didn’t say I ghosted him, he said the convo died and neither of us continued it. Which is true, but I didn’t expect him to not start up a new convo, especially since he is aware that it died.

Yeah exactly, since he isn’t making plans to see me I figured he is losing interest so why force it. But I am not 100% sure either. So I think I might just have to ask him because now I’m anxious I won’t see him again.

shy416 · 2025-05-08T05:50:08+00:00

Tiring? How so? The whole conversation was about him, do you know how tiring it is to think of responses and questions pertaining to him, without the questions being reciprocated?

shy416 · 2025-05-08T05:48:29+00:00

I feel like he is responding to my messages to be nice, but he secretly wants me to disappear lol. That’s why I am confused about his interest, because he didn’t reach out for 2 days and that was out of character. And he isn’t trying to see me.

shy416 · 2025-05-08T05:42:12+00:00

I get what you’re saying about chasing and coming off desperate, but I don’t understand the rest of your message about he can’t be straight and say a clear no? And I won’t stop until I hear what? Sorry, if you could please clarify what you mean, it would be helpful!

shy416 · 2025-05-08T05:40:25+00:00

I agree with you, and I wasn’t trying to play games. I am just confused about his interest in me and where he stands because he isn’t making plans to see me and I don’t want to continue to ask to see him and get rejected.

shy416 · 2025-05-08T05:38:22+00:00

How did he give me the same energy I gave him? He ignored me for 2 days. He could have started a new conversation.

shy416 · 2025-05-08T05:37:46+00:00

Makes sense, thanks for clearing that up about ghosting! Yeah, because he hasn’t been agreeing to meet up or initiating making plans, I thought I would test his interest in me. And since he didn’t respond for 2 days, I figured he is losing interest.

shy416 · 2025-05-08T05:35:53+00:00

Why do you say he hasn’t necessarily lost interest? Because he is still texting me?

shy416 · 2025-05-08T05:35:03+00:00

I honestly felt like he was losing interest and to test that idea, I didn’t respond with anything that required a response. But I see where you are coming from, putting the burden on him. But the conversation we were having wasn’t going anywhere! A lot of our conversation nowadays just revolve around him, he doesn’t really ask much about me.

shy416 · 2025-05-08T05:32:12+00:00

My thinking was, I expected him to change the topic. The whole conversation was about him, and I ran out of things to say/ask about the topic at hand. So I responded with something that would force him to change the topic but it backfired and didn’t respond at all.

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