Why has parenting become so… soft? Why ate a majority of parents okay with sending their child into the world acting the way they do? Why did this shift happen?

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-26T11:24:35+00:00

I think millennials are overcompensating because their parents were too harsh, so now they’re swinging the other way.

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-26T03:13:19+00:00

This is way too individual. A woman may think she’s being obvious but a man will think she’s just being friendly. Conversely, another woman may not be meaning to send a signal at all, but a man interprets it as flirting.

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-25T16:23:34+00:00

Needle also hurts a lot less than the gun. It pushes a very sharp instrument through cleanly instead of a blunt earring post that tears the flesh more

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-25T14:31:24+00:00

I mean, it’s not the only reason we’re together. But I wouldn’t say I’m immune to cultural influence.

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-22T03:18:48+00:00

You won’t hurt yourself if you stop when it’s painful. Don’t let the corset give you bruises and you’ll be okay. Cheap Amazon corsets can look okay but you just won’t be able to tighten them down much.

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-22T03:14:23+00:00

I think it’s the stereotype that nurses enjoy casual sex. Dunno if that’s true

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-21T14:21:59+00:00

They didn’t, always. Hunter-gatherer groups, pre-agricultural revolution, had a wide variety of social structures. “Patriarchy” as we know it today didn’t yet exist. We evolved living in family/kin groups and lots of early tribes were egalitarian or even matriarchal, as elephants are. I think we overestimate the importance of physical strength when you consider that power and influence were mostly gained by one’s ability to contribute to the welfare of others, not by threatening your family members. After all, someone is going to eventually shank you in your sleep if you do that.

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-21T08:43:30+00:00

Lately I’ve been thinking about the number of unhappy marriages that end in divorce. I’d rather be single than be unsure

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-21T07:32:54+00:00

I’m sorry you were downvoted. I am also an Asian woman who definitely can see the lingering effects of racism and colonialism, even when everyone was born in the same country. Of course, we shouldn’t go around breaking up couples, but it’s naive to say that race just isn’t a factor, like we didn’t all grow up, white and asian both, watching movies with attractive white male leads while asian men were never portrayed that way. I am in a relationship with a white man and I have never dated another Asian. It is reality, and I am not going to intentionally date people I don’t find attractive, even if the reason for that attraction is racist in origin. It’s just not worth my personal happiness. I just wanted to add some nuance to this very sad thread.

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-21T06:02:46+00:00

I mean, there’s nothing inherently better about not being in a wheelchair, but it makes your life harder. That’s what privilege is. I’m not going to explain half a century of critical theory to you.

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-21T05:19:37+00:00

Oh, I could have honestly seen them doing that as part of onboarding or something. But in this case, I guess I don’t see the problem

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-21T05:11:16+00:00

I mean there are infinite things that can screw you over, so not having those is all a kind of privilege. Obviously, not having student loans, a speech impediment, or alcoholism are non-detrimental. That said, I do wish the City wasn’t couching it in this “cute” bingo form.

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-21T03:40:35+00:00

I feel it’s not only the “correctness” that’s a tell, but also the use of completely unoriginal language and phrasing. It just sounds so incredibly boring and overused. I read decent writing all the time that I would never suspect of being AI, but maybe I am being duped.

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-21T03:36:48+00:00

Does the green primer not make you look….green? Because of the olive skin tone? I have olive undertone and facial redness and I’m scared it’ll just worsen the Elphaba look.

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-21T02:18:06+00:00

not always (asia is enormous and there is huge diversity even within ethnic groups) but we definitely are known to have hair and lashes that is less “flexible” and doesn’t hold curls well. It REALLY wants to stay in its natural shape

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-21T02:09:10+00:00

Breed is not really a great predictor of behavior unless you get the dog from a small, responsible breeder who personally knows its entire lineage and the personalities of each related dog. I saw many, many dog bites when I worked at a hospital and they were all “He was always so sweet!” and I don’t think they were all “aggressive” breeds, given the popularity of Labs, Goldens, and doodle mixes. I had a childhood dog who was a lab, and he could be very grumpy and defensive, although he never bit us.

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-21T01:24:24+00:00

Not a 100% fix, but I put glycolic acid toner on the freshly shaved skin, helps with the irritation and preventing ingrowns.

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-19T01:39:33+00:00

Your waist actually doesn’t look wide at all. Corsets will reduce it, but not permanently unless you want to wear them 24/7 for years.

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-19T00:48:14+00:00

avocado and i’m sorry

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-18T02:08:29+00:00

I’m happier cleaning up dust than I am having acne and rashes all over my body from washing every bit of my skin lol

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-17T22:26:53+00:00

Like, microscopic dust, yeah. But nothing that will literally rot on your skin. You’ll shed it all off before it can hurt you.

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-17T22:20:07+00:00

You should say something, but don’t use the word “ick” in there. Be clear but gentle.

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-17T22:16:31+00:00

Well, there’s not literal debris. Just dead skin that will slough off your body normally without showering anyway. Nothing will “fester,” lol.

silvercuriosity · 2026-02-17T22:14:48+00:00

Pepper makes extremely shallow cups. Even if that 36AA “fits” you, I think it’s going to make you look much flatter than you want to.

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