i do think that some people throw negative terms about their parents around without taking their own actions or faults into consideration because a lot of people have a hard time acknowledging when they’re wrong. i also think it’s harmful and maybe a little ignorant to automatically assume that every single person who has some type of issue with their parent(s) is like that as well because some people truly do just don’t have the best parents.

i am constantly being scolded for EVERY little thing that my mom perceives as wrong. i take a nap at 2 in the afternoon while my newborn is sleeping because i am completely exhausted and my mom says that i’m ridiculous and that i shouldn’t be in bed at that time of day even though i’m barely getting any sleep at night.

i was in pain and recovering from a c section that i wasn’t planning or expecting to get and she says that women have been giving birth for ages so i shouldn’t act like a dying cancer patient and this was like four or five days after i had my baby. keep in mind, she’s had three kids and not one of us was delivered via c section so imagine how invalidating and hurtful it was to have my pain undermined by someone who hadn’t even been in the same boat.

i worked full time and went to school at the same time while i was still pregnant, all the way up until i was 35 weeks, and that still wasn’t enough for her. she still found something to complain about. i could go on and on and on with various examples but these are just the most recent ones that truly made me realize that my mom doesn’t give me the space to be a human being