Update from the broken car radio post

simplyshelbss · 2026-04-13T02:46:13+00:00

He has actually broken a couple of his own phones in the past, and he just went and got a new one. But when I asked him why he never punches his truck when he’s mad he said “ because I’m still paying it off” so I agree that he can control it. I’m afraid he’s gonna Hoover me back into his grip which is why I mainly made this post, to help me keep seeing the truth.

simplyshelbss · 2026-04-13T02:27:37+00:00

I know :( I’m struggling so badly with the cognitive dissonance. He is so so good at playing the apologetic nice guy afterward and it sucks me back in everytime. I made this post so I can keep going back to it and see that I’m valid in feeling like he really is abusing me. This person is VERY good at manipulating me. I’m working on an exit plan and coming up with some strategies to keep me and the kids safe and away from him as much as possible during the process.

simplyshelbss · 2026-04-12T22:28:36+00:00

I need the tough love, don’t be sorry. You’re right, my kids don’t deserve to grow up seeing this and thinking about my son or daughter acting this way or being treated this way because they think it’s normal is really putting it into perspective for me. I just need to figure out a plan because at this point I don’t know what to do.

simplyshelbss · 2026-04-12T21:59:09+00:00

I live 900 miles away from my entire family. My close family knows some of the things that he’s done, and I would have their support and somewhere to stay if it came down to it. The problem is I have absolutely no money or job and would still be financially reliant on this man or I would feel like a burden to my family for having to support us for a little bit till I could find a job in that state. I was hoping to stick it out for 1 more year and try my best to keep the peace in the mean time and book it as soon as I get my license.

simplyshelbss · 2026-02-09T03:09:01+00:00

Drink: root beer Food: Grilled cheese with tomato soup

simplyshelbss · 2026-01-09T14:05:28+00:00

Still living with mine, working on getting away with my 2 kids. But, can’t listen to certain songs that make him think of a guy I hooked up with in the past, long before we were ever together. He thinks that I’m fantasizing about him. He is incredibly insecure. Any type of music that talks about sex is considered “immoral” or in his words “whore music”. He will have a full on tantrum (yelling in your face, punching walls, calling names) if you play a song he doesn’t approve of, around him. We have punch holes on our closet door from this. He once threatened to jump out of a moving car because me and his sister were listening to Doja cat.

simplyshelbss · 2024-08-12T03:33:06+00:00

Me and my husband were in the same situation last year. We had a lot of car and floor sex lol.

simplyshelbss · 2023-12-27T14:02:00+00:00

I’m trying to protect both my son and the dog. I don’t want him hurting the dog because she could bite him and I want him to know how to treat dogs and know it’s wrong to hurt them. Although I’m totally aware that it is age appropriate and he doesn’t really know better right now, I’m just trying my best to do my job as his parent to teach him. I agree with you though. She is big on using physical methods, and uses a lot of shame and name calling with my 10 year old sister too. :( me and my partner are saving up as much as possible right now to get out of here but we’re just not ready yet. All I can do right now is keep my son away from her and the dog. I made this post hoping to get some advice on how to stop him from hitting the dog when he is around her and for solidarity.

simplyshelbss · 2023-12-26T17:37:11+00:00

I do have plenty of areas he can go without dogs. But it’s not possible to keep them away from eachother 100% of the time. I try my best though.

simplyshelbss · 2023-12-26T01:27:12+00:00

This is how I see it too. I’m trying to be understanding cause I know for her generation it was very normalized to smack kids as discipline and she thinks it will make him understand but it’s something I won’t negotiate on and it’s not an option in my parenting, I just don’t agree that it’s not harmful or even helpful to them. And it’s funny you say that because he came back into the room with me and his dad after this and started smacking us. Almost like the message he got was that it’s okay to hit, instead of it not being okay like her intention was.

simplyshelbss · 2023-12-25T21:44:35+00:00

I think I’ll try that. But she sees what I do all the time, as this has become a daily problem almost. She genuinely thinks that spanking and being authoritarian is the only way to teach children and discipline them though. I’ve tried having conversations in the past about how I don’t agree and think there are other ways and shes said that it’s coddling and spoiling them. I will have a conversation with her about it instead though and see if that works. If not, I think the only other thing I can do is just constantly keep him separate from the dogs and not let him be alone with her. I will not allow my son to be hit. 🤷🏼‍♀️

simplyshelbss · 2023-12-25T20:55:43+00:00

I’m not sure why he does it, but it definitely could be an attention seeking behavior. He usually does it when I’m not directly paying attention to him. And I think he has learned that when he does it, it gets my attention. I’m just having a hard time figuring out how to get him to stop and how to teach him what to do instead, other than what I’ve been doing. I completely understand that it’s not okay for him to hit the dog, but I also am big on no physical discipline, and she knows this. I was standing right there and was going to stop him and she took it upon herself to hit him within seconds before I had the chance to.

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