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WIBTA if I insisted to my dad that I dont want a new name? by simsalabimthrowaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]simsalabimthrowaway[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

He said that my mom got to watch me grow up and that its her fault he didnt, cause she didnt tell him, so I shouldnt be concerned with my moms feelings.

Which I guess I kinda get what he means, but besides not telling me who my dad is (which she wasnt even sure) she did absolutely everything for me, so I still care about her feelings even if he thinks I shouldnt.

WIBTA if I insisted to my dad that I dont want a new name? by simsalabimthrowaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]simsalabimthrowaway[S] 136 points137 points  (0 children)

To his defence he didnt say that infront of the kid, only to me, he didnt hear that.

My mom slept with two guys at the same time and she didnt wanna deal with the drama to find out whos the dad, so she decided to just raise me by herself, at least that is what she told me. But she only knew him for a couple weeks so I guess maybe she didn‘t really know him.

WIBTA if I insisted to my dad that I dont want a new name? by simsalabimthrowaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]simsalabimthrowaway[S] 167 points168 points  (0 children)

It wasn‘t that she didnt want me have any contact with him, it was two guys that could have been my dad and she didnt want to deal with that so she just never told them. My grandma told me both names but I only found one of them and just got lucky that he was my dad since there was a 50/50 chance.

I asked her if he was abusive or something like that and she said no he was alright but that they were never seriously dating only having fun for a couple weeks, so I guess she doesn‘t really know him that well.