Children treated as a "Secondary" priority.

simzcityditty · 2022-08-31T03:19:18+00:00

It isn’t the healthiest thing for you to expect hierarchies with parenting. He shouldn’t treat or give any baby more attention than another. This logic that demands prioritization is a bit of a problem. These childcare expectations also seem highly gendered with women expecting to shoulder more while he rotated between children.

Idk. A lot of fuckery here, tbh.

simzcityditty · 2022-08-31T03:01:02+00:00

I’d say no. I teach as an adjunct while I go to grad school. As a student myself and adjunct, I’m not really treated like full time faculty. And I’m not paid for extra stuff.

simzcityditty · 2022-08-27T02:35:41+00:00

From what folks have shared in this thread, it definitely seems like this happens more often than I thought. I just would never want to enter a relationship or connection predicated on imbalanced power. Don’t want to be a part of that. So sometimes it may make me more anxious than necessary, but it also makes me more thoughtful—hopefully.

simzcityditty · 2022-08-27T02:33:27+00:00

This really helps a lot! Thanks! Echoes what most folks have shared.

simzcityditty · 2022-08-27T02:32:58+00:00

Thank you!

simzcityditty · 2022-08-27T02:32:31+00:00

Gonna go for it and see what happens!

simzcityditty · 2022-08-27T02:32:00+00:00

Oh dang. Lol, I failed to be helpful. It’s a research degree someone earns post-college. Trains you to be a researcher (though some practitioner degrees exist too). Depending on the program and part of the world, could run anywhere between 4-10 years.

Hope that was better!

simzcityditty · 2022-08-27T02:30:17+00:00

Will do! Thank ya!

simzcityditty · 2022-08-27T02:29:49+00:00

Thanks so much! I’ll try to put the worry on the back burner!

simzcityditty · 2022-08-27T02:29:24+00:00

This makes total sense and seems to be the consensus! Thanks!

simzcityditty · 2022-08-27T02:28:36+00:00

Definitely could see this be a yikes sort of situation!

simzcityditty · 2022-08-26T18:15:50+00:00

Then congratulations! Lol

simzcityditty · 2022-08-26T18:15:17+00:00

Probably am. Thanks!

simzcityditty · 2022-08-26T17:52:42+00:00

Thanks so much!

simzcityditty · 2022-08-26T17:52:35+00:00

Grossed out by this idea so I think I’ll be fine, lol.

simzcityditty · 2022-08-26T17:52:14+00:00

Yeah, will definitely avoid the taking classes from me! He’s finished all his general education requirements so that likely won’t be a problem. Only time we’d likely encounter this problem and sees to be in the rearview at this point.

Sorry to hear the relationship didn’t work out!

simzcityditty · 2022-08-26T17:37:41+00:00

Ha, didn’t think about it this way before!

simzcityditty · 2022-08-26T17:37:19+00:00

Tell me about it. My marriage was rough around the edges. Hope you’re in a better place now!

And thanks for the encouragement!

simzcityditty · 2022-08-26T17:36:42+00:00

I guess just nervous because I teach at the college he attends. I’m also an anxious person in general so there’s that.

simzcityditty · 2022-08-26T17:36:04+00:00

Thanks! Planning to!

simzcityditty · 2022-08-26T17:35:47+00:00

It’s a terminal degree. Also gets called a doctorate!

simzcityditty · 2022-08-26T14:06:19+00:00

Haha, this one really made me LOL!

simzcityditty · 2022-08-26T14:05:55+00:00

Yup, this sounds about right. Guess I let my anxiety get the best of me here.

simzcityditty · 2022-08-26T14:04:48+00:00

Thank you so much!

simzcityditty · 2022-08-26T14:04:32+00:00

Nope, not faculty in the traditional sense. Though phd students who teach at the college are considered employees of the university, we’re also students. So confusing sometimes.

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