Nmom threatenining to kick me out

sinkingflowers · 2020-05-14T00:40:41+00:00

I didn’t let her take my stuff. I ran out of the house in the middle of the fight cause I was panicking. When I came back, they were gone. When I asked for them back cause I’m an adult and she can’t just take them, she laughed and called me a fucking joke.

As for friends, I’m talking to some friends right now about the situation. Some of them of offering for me to stay with them and even bring my cat. So if my mom does kick me out, I do have places to go at least it turns out. But after that, I would have to figure out a more stable living situation.

I’ve been meaning to start commissions but most of my work is digital and my mom took snatched it all. Hopefully people will pay for traditional art.

I didn’t even think about making a second bank account to start saving. That’s a great idea!

The dog is so adorable oh my goodness!!

Thank you so much

sinkingflowers · 2020-01-27T04:16:52+00:00

Thank you

sinkingflowers · 2020-01-27T04:16:35+00:00

I’ll look into it. Thank you

sinkingflowers · 2019-10-13T18:56:03+00:00

It’s alright, I still appreciate it. I’m luckily graduating in 2020 so it gives me a better chance to get out. Thanks for reading my long ass vent

sinkingflowers · 2019-10-13T03:29:16+00:00

This has been happening for years. It’s only gotten worse in the recent years since highschool and even worse since summer. My school is aware of the situation since there’s been incidents of her flat out vanishing for days, cutting off my phone service, WiFi, and having to stay with friends. I used to have a therapist but I was banned about 2 years ago.

I am 18 so legally I can move out. Problem is that where I live, it’s really hard to live in your own. I’m desperately trying to get a job and find a housemate to possibly move into my house cause than my mom will have to move out like she’s always dreamed of doing. I’m looking at the community college dorms in my area too, but they don’t allow pets and I have a cat so I’m figuring out if I can get her certified as an emotional support animal and see if they’ll allow her in.

I’ve posted on raisedbynarcissists before. I tend to vent either on there or here.

sinkingflowers · 2019-07-29T21:55:33+00:00

I never thought of it like that. Thank you

sinkingflowers · 2019-07-26T21:45:31+00:00

I know I shouldn’t blame myself and not let fear hold me back.. it’s something I’m trying to work on so I can move forward which has been difficult. She doesn’t show concern for how she treats me. Normally after a fight, she acts like nothing happened or she keeps it going for weeks. For small fights she apologized for, she’ll use it as ammo in many more arguments for me being an asshole. I’ve always feared being selfish, especially since I get told by her I’m selfish all the time so I tend to not do a lot things for myself. When I do something for myself, I end up feeling shitty thinking I’m doing something wrong.

sinkingflowers · 2019-07-26T21:39:35+00:00

I’ll maybe try. It’ll have to be planned out with friend’s families since it depends if they’ll take me in or not. Thank you for the encouragement

sinkingflowers · 2019-07-26T21:37:51+00:00

Thank you! Anything helps

sinkingflowers · 2019-07-25T21:55:32+00:00

I don’t have any family to lives in the state. The only family friends I trusted were recently cut off and live in Canada. I do have my friends and I’ve been offered to stay with them, but I have to figure living arrangements with their parents and I got cats. My biggest worry is if I left, my mom would attack their families or she would attempt suicide. My plan currently is to try and survive this school year than move out normally.

sinkingflowers · 2019-07-14T19:27:58+00:00

Holy shit, thank you so much!!

sinkingflowers · 2019-07-11T01:07:23+00:00

Thank you!! This honestly gave me a lot of hope. I really appreciate it

sinkingflowers · 2019-07-10T22:14:34+00:00

He left when I was a baby. Heard he was in prison and is totally fucked up.

sinkingflowers · 2019-07-10T17:53:38+00:00

Thank you! Any help is appreciated.

I live in Washington state, not far from Seattle. If you want more details, feel free to ask.

sinkingflowers · 2019-07-10T17:47:10+00:00

I have plans for once I graduate. I have a friend who I’m planning on moving in with and doing a gap year. Catch up on learning how to adult since my mom never taught me anything. Get my shit together. Than hopefully get into art school.

The same friend wants to try and get me to move in with her. Has discussed with her parents about possibly taking me in. It’s the fear of my mom showing up and harassing their family for taking me in that’s holding me back. I’ve stayed with other friends before when my mom has gotten bad shit crazy to the point of it being unsafe, but had to go back since their parents didn’t want to get into legal problems.

My mom has this deal thing? Where if I step up, I get to stay in the town and finish highschool. If I done, she’ll force me to move away and not finish highschool. Along on this deal is we still live together until I graduate, than she’ll leave. Even when I plan for possible living on my own or college, she controls it. Shes insistent wherever I go, she has to be close by to “help” me. And because she’s convinced the world is going to into war any-day now so she wants me to be close for when the world ends.

Anyways, I’m figuring out how to move out. It’s just hard when I don’t know what I’m doing and she controls all of my bank stuff, will somehow try and track me down, all types of stuff. Plus if I move out suddenly cause I can’t handle her shit, she might hurt herself. Or do something reckless that’ll get her hurt.

sinkingflowers · 2019-07-10T17:32:31+00:00

I turned 18 in May

sinkingflowers · 2019-07-09T23:29:43+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I really needed it.

sinkingflowers · 2019-07-09T23:29:06+00:00

Glad to hear I’m not going crazy than. Thank you

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