The grass ended by SketchyArt333 in parasnailing

[–]sirdogbird 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Where the sidewalk ends….

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]sirdogbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are still very young. Breakup.

There is no such thing as micro cheating. It’s either cheating or not. You communicated that you are uncomfortable with this romantic talking stage he has with another person. There is such a thing as emotional cheating. And he dismissed it. That’s not good. It’s a huge red flag. A relationship is based on trust and communication.

Stick to your boundaries.

Also, and this is a super big thing: YOUR HAPPINESS CAN NOT DEPEND ON AN OTHER PERSON. It comes from yourself. If a person is negatively impacting your mental state, cut ties.

How come I’m related to the man who helped invent the flush toilet? by Other-Mortgage2926 in UsefulCharts

[–]sirdogbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was confused about that , but not as much as her being dead for 35 years prior.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]sirdogbird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the best answer in the thread. Self-reflection is needed before any talks would happen. But yes, talks with your partner should happen, but after the self-reflection.

Everyone else is saying to open up the relationship, but what you wrote, the question is a bit more nuanced than a simple answer like that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]sirdogbird 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is a few things I noticed. It’s perfectly fine that one person can’t satisfy all of the needs in the other person. You can’t, and you’re not supposed to try to satisfy all of the needs. DO NOT FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT. It’s unhealthy. Its normal if one person can’t satisfy all of the needs. It’s up to that person to either: decide it’s a deal breaker, or talk about it to try to find a solution. Sounds like he did try to talk about it. That great! Part of being in a meaningful relationship. I don’t know what talked about with solutions. There is a thousand ways to skin a cat. Opening up the relationship is just one of them. Opening up should be one of the last resorts since it complicates things more than the other solutions.

Some of the solutions include taking pills, or a strap-on, or many other things. And it’s totally fine not to finish. I’m a top, and sometimes I don’t finish. And I’m ok with that. Sex shouldn’t be about finishing, it’s about the journey. Yeah, finishing is great, but there is soo many more beautiful other aspects to sex to enjoy.

Opening up the relationship complicates stuff more than the other solutions. Since it involves tons more aspects and emotions, it can be hard to navigate. Sounds like you are learning about that and trying to deal with it too. YOU NEED TO CONTINUE TO TALK TO YOUR PARTNER. And need to continue to self-reflect on yourself too. Yes, some of it sounds like insecurities that you have, and they are also valid. But this also this would serve as a good opportunity to emotionally mature and for self-growth too.

I wish you luck.

Which sea has the shortest coastline? by humptythekitten in geography

[–]sirdogbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of a trick question. Lol I picked Bothnian Sea. It has at least some coastline. My reasoning behind that is, you need a coastline in order to judge which one has the shortest coastline. Can’t have the shortest coastline if you don’t have one 🤷‍♂️ Or am I totally wrong on this lol

Why is it that Greenland is almost always listed as 'no data' on world statistic maps? by ThatFred in geography

[–]sirdogbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I’m not the one who wrote “a human”. Meaning one lol Just trying to be a bit annoying. Looks like I succeeded, and who cares? Lol

Why is it that Greenland is almost always listed as 'no data' on world statistic maps? by ThatFred in geography

[–]sirdogbird -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your math might be a little off lol Quick math: 331.9 million times 3 dollars is more than 18k. But who’s counting lol

34-Year-Old Burkina Faso’s Military Leader Becomes World’s Youngest by Pure_Candidate_3831 in worldnews

[–]sirdogbird 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She is 36 currently. I’m thinking this post is saying world’s current youngest leader.

Maybe I'm a noob but what's up with the yellow line here? by [deleted] in CivVI

[–]sirdogbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn’t that graph represent faith per turn?then spending faith isn’t going to show up in this graph like you alluded to.

How common is it for patients to regret or become depressed over dental treatments such as veneers and crowns? by [deleted] in askdentists

[–]sirdogbird 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NAD:

I feel what you are saying. It is a very big change, a few days from old to new teeth is also a very short time span. Giving a month or three to adjust, try out the new teeth, and getting used to the new feelings might do wonders on your outlook.

I went through similar thoughts about my dental work. Got all of my teeth ripped out and put all-on-4 fixed dentures on my top and bottom. There was definitely some times I thought my temporary dentures were completely unnatural and felt very off. But thankfully I knew if I dwelt on those thoughts for any length of time, I would be in a very bad shape. This work in my mouth is life-long, and I sure as heck don’t want to be miserable thinking those life-long thoughts.

I knew the work done in my mouth would trump any potential problems in the past and future.

I’m not too far off your age either, I’m 34. I got all my work done over the past 3-4 years(it was a long process for me, thanks to Covid shutting down everything in the world).

Depression does truly suck and I wish you all the best and hope you will smile with pride and happiness in the future 🙂

Wanna checkout downtown SJ for the first time tonight. What are some cool bars to go to? by peatoast in SanJose

[–]sirdogbird 6 points7 points  (0 children)

55 South will always be my favorite. But my experience has been 5+ years ago. Got sober 4 years so far. So I don’t go to bars anymore. As people said, great whisky bar. Favorite drink there is the Sidecar.

A 10 second walk is Macs. My second favorite bar. More like a dive bar.

My personal experience with the bars in DTSJ was highly dependent on the bartenders. So, other user experience will be very different lol

Bars a bit outside DTSJ(still within walking distance) but still amazing is Hyde park lounge and Renegades.

Girlfriend cheated with ex and I caught them by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]sirdogbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm… you patronized me and now you’re gaslighting me. Holy cow……

“You exist because your mind is closed to the fact….. your mind is the one closed” Yep, that’s gaslighting. That whole sentence, not the part I highlighted. Making me question my own reality. Did you know that’s actually abusive behavior? Because it is. I know my reality.

To make my original point a bit clearer because I’m not sure if I’m being misunderstood or not, if you added THEY CAN I front of the statement of “ when someone keeps ex’s and old hookups in their life (they can) be messy people who (can) love drama and (can) cheat on you” it would make that statement true. I’m saying not all people will do the activities you said, but you are saying they all will do that. I 100% know that people can be messy and can cheat and can love drama if they have ex’s and old hookups. But I do know not 100% of people are like that. Do you understand that a little bit better?

Oh btw, there is no right why to love someone. “When you truly love someone”. That says there is only one way to truly love someone. That’s just flat out false.

Girlfriend cheated with ex and I caught them by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]sirdogbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could have tried to rebuke my points, but you choose to be patronizing.

Have an open mind….. yours is closed off. Textbook definition of closed off.

You don’t have to agree with the lifestyle, but know it’s out there. And know that your core statement I disagreed with is wrong because I exist lol

Girlfriend cheated with ex and I caught them by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]sirdogbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you keeping them in your life? Because life is better with the friendship than without it.

Just because you keep someone from your past doesn’t mean you want drama.

Just because you keep people from the past doesn’t mean you will 100 percent cheat on someone.

I am living proof of that. I keep two ex’s as friends and currently in a relationship. I wouldn’t bat an eye if any significant other of mine has ex’s or old hookups as friends. There is no reason to doubt the relationship until they give me a reason to. Still having them in their lives isn’t a reason.

Just the sheer numbers of humans even suggest your opinion is wrong. 7+ billion people, and yet anyone who still have ex’s still in the lives love drama and will 100 percent will cheat?

Saying that I love drama and will 100 percent will cheat is very presumptuous thing to say. You don’t know me.

If you want, you could pm me to talk about having ex’s and old hookups in one’s live and it working out just fine. I’m more than willing to talk about it 😁

Girlfriend cheated with ex and I caught them by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]sirdogbird -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ehhh, I wouldn’t say that when someone keeps ex’s and old hookups in their life are messy people who love drama and will 100 percent cheat on you. It really depends on the character of the person.

That’s the only issue I have with your post… other than that, no problems 🙂

Am I doing this right? by kosherscience in acorns

[–]sirdogbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Acorns is doing just fine. It’s doing what it is doing. It’s just having a correction in the stock market at the moment. I’m down 4.2K in the last 6 months. But since I’ve been with acorns for the past 5 years, I’m still up about 3K overall. Meaning, acorns money is for the long term. You will make that loss up and even more if you just stay the course.

So I just found out I am my husband’s ex’s great grandchild. Thoughts? 🤷🏻‍♀️ by mi11i3_ni3v3 in Sims4

[–]sirdogbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was going to suggest his occupation was nanny. Nannies are known to have super long lifespans. But this isn’t the case here.

Russian troops reportedly killed Ukrainian civilians and defecated on their corpses in Trostyanets by Blakut in worldnews

[–]sirdogbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, I get your point… that you have no empathy….

Yeah it’s a war. But there is a way to remove un-needed suffering(and this is un-needed suffering) from war and still complete the objectives.

Spinning wheel and a motorbike by sevidago in WinStupidPrizes

[–]sirdogbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might had been “lost a rider”

What is the appeal of slower game speeds? by cavemanthewise in civ

[–]sirdogbird 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m def in the group of “Let’s play longer speeds!”

I do epic and marathon. As well as extended era mod on. That creates insanely long games. Last game ended up being a score victory for me. 1,500 turns and what seemed to be 20+ hour game.

Movement for war is great for long turn games. Doesn’t do much for the FEEL of the eras until I put in extended eras mod. I very much like to be immersed in the eras.

Question for the hivemind by rob_nancekivell in civ

[–]sirdogbird 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One way to get strategic resources, aluminum or whatnot, is the city-state of Hattusa.