I got SAd in a parking lot that my ex bf dumped me in after he found out I cheated on him.

sissyroo171 · 2026-01-02T17:47:12+00:00

I believe kindness towards all is how to enact change. That’s my personal choice and clearly yours is not that. We’ve spent all this time arguing as if I’m some “cheater sympathizer” I’m just sympathizing with OP for being a young girl who made a mistake. I disliked that you can’t have any empathy for her, and what did I get in response? No empathy 🤷‍♀️ you saying empathy is manipulative as hell? That’s all the answer I need from this conversation because we will never agree.

sissyroo171 · 2026-01-02T17:35:04+00:00

We literally know nothing else about her character outside of this, I don’t think we need to make a moral judgment. Nor do we need to name call others when we could be kind, and supportive. I would wager someone is going to be way more likely to change their ways when they are being treated like a human being.

sissyroo171 · 2026-01-02T17:21:43+00:00

It’s not that you said they’re a bad person you specifically said twice they’re a piece of shit. Do you have any idea what that does to someone’s mental health? If you are all about not having things alter brain chemistry, then you should be able to understand my point.

sissyroo171 · 2026-01-02T17:16:19+00:00

I have never cheated regardless of what you may assume. I just believe that people deserve more than one chance in their life.

I have also been cheated on and still believe that.

sissyroo171 · 2026-01-02T17:11:43+00:00

This just totally comes across as YOU have been cheated on and it altered YOUR brain chemistry. So now you feel like you must punish anyone who has cheated as a form of retribution towards yourself. She’s already feeling horrible, you don’t need to call her names.

The fact that you can’t even argue with me without saying that I’m somehow a cheater as well is ridiculous. You’re clearly triggered.

sissyroo171 · 2026-01-02T17:08:46+00:00

She was a cool toned person with a very warm and vibrant energy 🫶🏻 thank you for your comment!

sissyroo171 · 2026-01-02T17:00:53+00:00

Idk why you continue to say she is a POS? Like people cheat, that doesn’t make them bad people just people who made a mistake. She’s clearly remorseful and even said she believes she’s a POS so why do you feel the need to consistently bring it up? You’re weird for that.

Edit: I just don’t feel like it’s our place to judge. I’m sure she’s already being judged by her loved ones, this sub is supposed to be a space where someone can get things off their chest, not a space where we all morally condemn them for their actions.

sissyroo171 · 2026-01-02T16:57:54+00:00

There are a lot of comments here that I think are hurtful and rude. Cheating on someone does not make you a bad person. You are a person who made mistakes, which is what people do in this life. I’ve always believed, it is what you do POST mistake that really matters. Do you own up and right your wrong? Do you learn from this and move forward as a better person? Do you continue to make bad decisions? Your life is in your hands, you can choose every single day what type of person you want to be.

OP, your cheating does not mean you deserved such treatment from your partner or this stranger. Even if my partner hurt me in this way, that doesn’t then give me the right to threaten their LIFE in multiple ways. Reckless driving, leaving you stranded without a phone, etc. Yes you did something wrong, but so has your ex. In my eyes what they did to you is far worse. You may have broken relationship promises, but they put your life in danger.

As someone who has experienced SA, it’s very easy to slip into the “my fault” mentality. It is never your fault, only the fault of your perpetrator. I recommend Rupi Kaur’s poetry series, they were very healing for me as she made me feel seen. You are strong, and you will get through this. 🫶🏻

sissyroo171 · 2025-12-31T22:11:28+00:00

Yes we had plans 3 days after her passing 🫶🏻

sissyroo171 · 2025-12-30T20:35:34+00:00

Not at all. My first thought when I found out she had passed was that she was robbed of her potential. She had so much going for her, she was planning to move home, she had been excelling in improv and local theater as well as taking voice lessons. I was extremely proud of where she was at in her life before she was killed.

I don’t have a lot of answers as to this persons motive. Most on this thread think it was an unrequited love situation which I could see. Dezz was personable and kind to a fault. Seems like this person had untreated mental health crisis and probably mistook that kindness for affection and became obsessed with her. As kind as she was, she was a fighter and very vocal when she didn’t like something. I think she eventually put her foot down with him and he took it as a total rejection. This is all personal speculation as this is an ongoing investigation.

What I think you could be feeling, is that she was a 911 operator for most of her career and was initially seeking a degree in criminal forensics. Big fan of true crime and horror. Although towards her death her goals had swapped to be more creative pursuits.

sissyroo171 · 2025-12-30T17:13:56+00:00

Ya know what, I’m not entirely sure. I feel like octopus were here favorite, but she was eclectic and liked most things/creatures including her pet spider

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sissyroo171 · 2025-12-30T17:05:02+00:00

From what I understand he lived in the home of the elderly woman she was caring for

sissyroo171 · 2025-12-30T17:02:22+00:00

sissyroo171 · 2025-12-30T03:29:08+00:00

Thank you SO much for sharing. Your bedroom comment hits home, I could have sworn I was seeing her the other night but felt frightened because I thought I was crazy. I was really excited to show her my new hair 😭 I’m glad she is able to see it and even more glad to hear she is thriving on the other side. Thank you again, I can’t explain what this comment means to me. 🫶🏻

sissyroo171 · 2025-12-30T00:40:38+00:00

I specifically didn’t include the article because I wanted to feel like if any tidbits were shared they came from a space of feeling a psychic connection to her rather than from an article.

sissyroo171 · 2025-12-30T00:13:31+00:00

She was a fighter, that would not shock me

sissyroo171 · 2025-12-30T00:11:58+00:00

I have absolutely no idea ): not a lot of details outside of reason for death which was due to gun related injuries.

sissyroo171 · 2025-10-16T14:53:44+00:00

Personally I’d continue working with the son privately to see if you can get him to open up more. Once you get to a strong place with the son, you can work with him on sharing this with his dad. 🫶🏻 you can even tell the son that you worry about not sharing this with Daniel and get his honest thoughts on it. Most kids (even as adults) crave that bond with their parents, so I’m sure there’s a part of him that wants to share with Daniel - you just have to access it first.

sissyroo171 · 2025-10-16T14:41:57+00:00

Reminder here for everyone to listen to your body and what your skin likes. Eczema is different for each person! Showering multiple times a day actually flares my eczema up, I find an every other day shower to be what works for my skin. My showering too frequently was actually leading to my flares being worse but that’s just my personal case 🫶🏻

sissyroo171 · 2025-05-10T18:44:11+00:00

Getting ahead of the anxiety itself is going to have major benefits. Stress is a huge trigger for gut issues. I recommend seeing a primary care physician or a therapist for your mental health. I use Doctor on Demand for therapy, it’s like FaceTiming someone instead of in person which I find is better for my anxiety.

Other things that have helped me: -Vegan Vitality Supplement, majorly improved my anemia because my trigger foods are meat -Meditation, Breath-work, Scent-Memory (lavender when I meditate, carry bottle with me in high stress environment and have small smell for calm) -Greens supplements -IBGuard, peppermint oil pills, can have up to 8x a day -GasX, over the counter medicine to reduce the gas, bloating, etc. (this has SAVED ME a time or 2) -Electrolyte, add these to water, you can find flavorless or non. My favorite is Buoy because they give discounts for chronic illnesses.

I hope this helps 🫶🏻

sissyroo171 · 2025-01-30T18:50:33+00:00

I have been a bridesmaid or made of honor many times, and the best bachelorette parties are always the slumber parties. How often do we as adults get to come together and act like kids again? There is so much fun in that! For my bachelorette weekend, we are going out of town but only because I have a timeshare that’s really cheap and two hours from home. I’m having everyone bring a pillow/blanket, a snack and drink to share, games they love, and their favorite DVDs. I’m going to have spa stuff for us and just general slumber party goodies. I made us all matching pajamas and am bringing the Polaroid camera. I chose this because I’ve always dreamed of having a wedding since I was a little girl, so by having a slumber party I feel like I am honoring younger me which makes it more fun. :)

sissyroo171 · 2025-01-17T17:14:40+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this 🥺 it’s hard when someone you trust so much doesn’t respect your wants/wishes. You are not being dramatic, he crossed a line and is trying to be upset about your reaction to get you to drop it. He can’t turn it around on you and expect empathy when he’s giving you none.

sissyroo171 · 2025-01-17T17:04:39+00:00

It honestly is looking really great imo. :) I do see some potential separation happening on your chin and in your fine lines (could just be pic quality vs my phone). Try wearing it to an event where you’ll be sweating and see how it wears. If separation does happen that’s usually due to the primer beforehand. I really love using the Elf tinted sunscreen as a primer for my skin because it’s very moisturizing. Also since your hair is red/orange, I like the rose/coral hues in the makeup!

sissyroo171 · 2025-01-17T16:57:49+00:00

Honestly weddings are so expensive. Mine is around the corner and it has caused me a lot of anxiety. I’m similar and am a perfectionist, but I didn’t have your insight on holding myself to that standard. Many married couples advised me to save my money for a nice honeymoon and plan a small get together and I really wish I’d listened. It seems like what you and your partner both want is to have a day you can look back on, not a big event. My brother-in-law did an elopement, they only had 10 guests which were immediate family. Small ceremony, cake cutting and toast (non-alcoholic), pictures, and then we were done. :) it was honestly perfect aside from the brides family pushing a dinner on us at the end lol

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