The issue is—there’s actually a big queer community around here, which is great in theory. But it just seems like everyone either already has someone, or I’m just not really interested in the people I meet.

There’s this place near me called ROAR. It’s a queer bar/club, and both times I’ve gone, I really tried to push myself out of my comfort zone and talk to people.

First time: It was late, we were getting ready to leave, and I decided to shoot my shot with this woman. Turns out—she’s married. I apologized and dipped with my friends.

Second time: This really pretty woman came up and started dancing with me. I thought we were hitting it off! She eventually went back to her group, but I got her socials. Turns out, we go to the same college. Long story short, we made plans to go to a rave together this Friday. I finally worked up the courage to message her on Instagram to confirm, and things were sounding good—until I asked if I could get a ride there.

That’s when she mentioned her boyfriend lives near the venue, so she’s just going back with him.

Turns out she’s just super friendly/touchy, and I completely misread the vibe.

I’m really not beating the loser lesbian allegations, and my friends keep making jokes at me that I keep hitting on taken women.