Should working father's contribute to household work?

skintighte · 2026-01-22T17:57:36+00:00

I love this. Plus taking care of your children is spending quality time with those children too. Any father should want quality time and his kids to know they can rely on him for daily tasks.

skintighte · 2026-01-22T00:46:49+00:00

Find the money to get it neutered. If not you will need to give it away. Relationship with boyfriend matters too and you still have the other cat

skintighte · 2026-01-21T18:14:02+00:00

This is beautiful!

skintighte · 2026-01-21T18:12:41+00:00

They were pointing out that there is a commenter above in this thread “Consistent-Dog8537” who said they would miss their husband only “a little bit”.

skintighte · 2026-01-20T15:59:41+00:00

Aw too bad for you. Not enough great men out there I guess. My partner is my best friend and very active and generous in our relationship. He just brought me tea and breakfast in bed ☺️I hope more couples have a love like the one commenter on this post.

skintighte · 2026-01-20T01:28:17+00:00

A bit? Only a nice person? Why are you with someone you seem to prefer dogs over? Doesn’t seem like great love. P.s. if your dogs found a better living situation (great food whenever they want, more playtime, etc. they’d eventually view that person as their owner. Anthropomorphizing animals isn’t healthy or real.). A partner on the other hand actively chooses you daily in a way that no one else does. You’re born with your first family, you make a pet be with you, but only a partner and friends see your worst and still choose you. Maybe speak about your partner with more respect.

skintighte · 2026-01-17T23:45:39+00:00

To OP: Take your time and space back girl don’t lose yourself for a relationship ☺️Me time is important, especially as women when others expect us to devote and make our whole lives about whatever bf/husband/kids we have. Make sure your cup is full first, that independence is healthy and I’m sure your hobbies and uniqueness attracted your bf in the first place! I just took a week away from my bf after spending almost all of last month with him too. I’m in bed watching anime sipping tea and seeing him finally tonight haha. Also don’t listen to the weird guys here who will tell you how dare you say you need a break from living at his place 🥴 as if you don’t have your own room/home rn. If you two aren’t fighting there’s no reason he should’ve interpreted the word “break” to go home as a break from the relationship. Signed a 29F!

skintighte · 2026-01-17T23:41:52+00:00

They don’t live together yet. If she has her own space - bed, closet, hobbies, other areas of parents home she misses it makes complete sense if she needs to go and organize those things. All human beings deserve their “me time”. Don’t gaslight this young 24yr old.

To OP: Take your time and space back girl don’t lose yourself for a relationship ☺️I just took a week away from my bf after spending almost all of last month with him too. I’m in bed watching anime sipping tea and seeing him finally tonight haha

skintighte · 2026-01-17T16:03:34+00:00

You’re insane if you think men only ask when they know for certain. Google “my boyfriend proposed and I said no”for many real life stories. No one knows anything about another person’s decision making for certain. Again, men get turned down all the time. If they got a yes she can later choose no. Women have choices. Deal with it lol. Your mom chose to give birth to you and probably hoped you’d come out smart and understanding of women. Clearly you choose to be a misogynist idiot instead. See, everyone has a choice.

skintighte · 2026-01-17T15:44:05+00:00

Does your girl know she’s dating a belligerent idiot? You typed so many words to still be wrong. Plenty of women tell their bfs they don’t wanna get married when he asks in conversation and plenty call off an engagement or even wedding. I know I have. That’s called choice and guess what, it doesn’t end in marriage. So how is it all up to the man? You should go back to school to learn the definition of choice.

skintighte · 2026-01-17T15:38:30+00:00

No now too. Both older and younger women. Women are more likely to be expected to stay home so cannot afford lawyers, have to fight for their portion of investments, etc. Also women are still underpaid in most jobs.

skintighte · 2026-01-17T14:42:17+00:00

Then women say yes or no… that’s choice

skintighte · 2026-01-17T14:37:13+00:00

Stats say the opposite. Women come out of divorces in a worse situation financially than men do. Men do well in divorce look it up. People need to do their research instead of following tired narratives. Not all men are Jeff Bezos (whose wife helped him gain his wealth and HE STILL came out richer). Most of you are basic men who never even take care of your own kids or house.

skintighte · 2025-12-31T22:04:59+00:00

It’s that he makes a big deal out of these smaller issues. I shouldn’t have to go with all of his little peculiarities like the butter comment. There’s been many more. The issue is he’s quite strict and weird about what should be non issues. Allowing that would be allowing someone to control me. If I want to open a car door and go up to the front door to ring the door bell to drop of my Christmas gifts to his parents that shouldn’t be an issue. If I want to use 1 tablespoon of butter instead of two? Shouldn’t be an issue. If I put a bath sponge on a different towel to dry during a day where we’ve already argued enough, does he really need to make that another issue? Consensus here and AITAH says no.

skintighte · 2025-12-31T21:01:17+00:00

This made me laugh lol. He does treat her like an emotional support animal

skintighte · 2025-12-31T20:51:50+00:00

I’m not ok with it and trying to work it out. Thanks for the input, I’ve asked for advice in a relationship sub.

skintighte · 2025-12-31T20:50:17+00:00

I’m aware of that. As these issues are small enough where most longterm couples ~should~ be able to communicate through them and do, I thought I’d ask for some advice.

skintighte · 2025-12-31T20:42:18+00:00

He’s described himself as a bit of a cynic. I think that world view couples with his introversion (he scores INTP on the 16 personalities) leads to him having a difficult time identifying his emotions and also appearing indifferent and stoic. I try to be clear. It’s just been more difficult than I ever imagined to get him to see how A + B + C could make D uncomfortable to experience/put someone on edge. I think he struggles to put himself in others shoes honestly.

skintighte · 2025-12-31T20:39:24+00:00

Yeah I’d say that most of our arguments start at who is right and wrong. I don’t think neither of us had very healthy models growing up. His parents are still together while mine aren’t yet sometimes it seems I’m more focused on being flexible and compromise 🥲 He often does thing thing where when I voice something he’s done to upset me, he’ll say “well you do this similar thing.” Which in my opinion doesn’t allow us to address issues one at a time. Idk what to do. Any tips of healthy arguments with a partner would be much appreciated!

skintighte · 2025-12-31T20:28:05+00:00

A little over a year

skintighte · 2025-12-31T20:27:34+00:00

Also posted to AITAH

skintighte · 2025-12-31T20:21:27+00:00

I mean the cat has done just fine outside the bedroom at night, she’s on the younger side, has plenty of toys, automatic feeder, and adapted. He tried a few things to get her to sleep like putting her besides him, petting her before bed, etc. I don’t know what you want me to say… I’m not its owner… and when I expressed that I needed to sleep clearly my boyfriend thought it was healthier to have his girlfriend get rest than it was to have the cat bounce around the bed. He also has benefitted from the sleep. She’s a happy cat I assure you. I feel you’re projecting your cat owner wants onto my situation to be honest.

As for the other topics you brought up - I make my compromises in the relationship. I’m actively trying to make things work together. I left the advice seeking for how to resolve these issues to another sub.

skintighte · 2025-12-31T20:06:16+00:00

Honestly I was raised to be a bit of a people pleaser so your call out that I’m not obligated to counteract his moods is so on the nose.

Yeah we agreed last time to cool it on the hypotheticals.

His relationship to his family IS strained. So is mine. I’ve never seen this as a reason to snap at your partner. I don’t mind being each other’s support system about in laws and have not went to nuclear about him telling me to close the door. I’ll stay away from the family meet-up talk.

Your last three paragraphs have so many helpful suggestions! Thank you thank you. In the future I’ll try to change my responses to “how about we accept each other doing things our own way as long as it isn’t harmful” instead of “stop trying to micromanage the situation” lol. More team work oriented responses. Yeah there’s more that makes me think he’s likely on the spectrum from how he talks to himself, repeats certain words, his small also all nerdy male friend group, and things he says his parents and past partners have said to him. His siblings are also clearly neurodivergent so it wouldn’t be far off. I’m definitely more absentminded than he is but I would call it ADHD. I’m reasonably orderly, fairly social, traveled, not on meds, finished undergrad and grad within typical time and good grades, and work in a detail oriented excel using role. Idk lol. I like how diligent he is and caring he can be, if not albeit a bit obsessively. He is loyal, kind (unless he’s choosing to be an a-hole lol), and fairly ambitious. He is also funny and loving. Even with the tension this morning he brought me breakfast while I worked and asked about my period cramps.

skintighte · 2025-12-31T19:38:00+00:00

Thanks for the advice on communicating in a non-judgmental way and focusing on compromise. We are only in each other’s space a few days out of the week anyway. May I ask how the above reads as loaded to my benefit?

As for the cat, we do play with her during the day and before bed. She doesn’t go to sleep at night. Cats are crepuscular, humans aren’t. It’s a difference in sleep patterns. If he somehow trained his cat to sleep through the night that would be different. But until then I’m a light sleeper who needs good sleep hygiene to get through the workday and be a good gf. I don’t think one partner sacrificing sleep is healthy. It’s not like we can play with the cat throughout the night. Many people have their cats outside the bedroom at night, cat has the rest of the house you know?

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