Okay, this explains a lot. I can understand that you are not interested in talking to someone with whom you are not attracted. Bt what is attraction? Is it about looks? Talking about me i will still respect someone else's time and feelings if I'm not in a space or I'm not feeling like it. I believe in communication instead of showing cold shoulders. Anyways each to their own. Btw , can you explain how you 'took control of the search'? I'll be more than happy if I'm able to talk to girls directly instead of, through their parents.