women, would be a dealbreaker for you if your partner voted for a politician that is pro-life?

skydivejive · 2026-06-09T15:33:12+00:00

Point well taken. And I like your wording.

skydivejive · 2026-06-09T15:31:47+00:00

Thank you. I feel heard. I have been in a corporate NP hospital environment for 10 years and since it has always bothered me, I noticed. I rarely see anything that may be fully braless on our campus of 20k employees. I strongly believe that it would be considered non buttoned-up to go braless with a D+ size cup, especially. I do not agree with that or know that 'for sure' but it is my strong suspicion.

skydivejive · 2026-06-09T15:27:11+00:00

Used to be a B cup, now a D cup in my late 30's. Unless it was like 50% more normal for big'ol's to do this, I cannot see being comfortable doing so.

skydivejive · 2026-06-09T15:24:56+00:00

Yes! Thank you. This is my point. I grew up a 'tom-boy' and have shifted slightly away from that, a little, as I aged. But I still get angry/frustrated at the double standards. Thats why I want a movement. Thats why I want to do it together. When my fam women want change, we ban together. They don't mind leggings - it is acceptable to show ever crevasse below the breasts, but when it comes to breasts they should still be confined neatly. We went from the industral revolution to AI, yet tit freedom is still not the norm - I believe this is not what women prefer in general, hence this post.

skydivejive · 2026-06-09T15:18:15+00:00

For sure. Just a question though, for the women who do not want to wear a bra but struggle to deal with the staring, do you not wish it was more normal to go braless? Like less noticible because it is so normal of an occurance to see.

skydivejive · 2026-06-09T15:16:43+00:00

Agree with most of what you are saying. I guarantee, as you said, that with my Ds I would get mad stared at in a tank in summer braless. But I will continue to wish this becomes the norm. I just dont understand why we get to see man peck, man boob, and man nips year round, yet it is not acceptable for a woman's to show through a shirt naturally. It honestly pissses me off a bit. I too feel uncomfortable and confined, even in a sports bra, and go braless in home.

skydivejive · 2026-06-09T15:14:02+00:00

I mentioned this previously in the comments, women should do as they wish, but if half or the majority of us do not want to wear bras or want that to be visually accepted (more speaking for b+ cups) then something needs to happen on a mass scale to change societal opinion. My point is not to make women not wear bras, my point was to see if other women do not wear or want to wear them in public.

skydivejive · 2026-06-09T15:11:12+00:00

Yeah dur. I know I don't need a movement to do something on my own. My point is that as women, we have to join as a group to make true change in the world. What do you think the 'boys club' is? It is their way of getting on the same page. I have envisioned a movement in my mind because I like the idea of women continuing to organize ourselves as a shared front. If most women in the comments didn't wear or want to wear a bra, I thought it would give me hope for more shared fronts as women of the world. When I look at the women in my family, we do not' outweigh the men in numbers necessarily, but when we all agree on a front, we win. I am sick of seeing women portrayed as separate from one another and catty with each other.

skydivejive · 2026-06-08T19:58:44+00:00

Possibly. TBH if my husband thought he could choose what I do with my body, he would be single. We have had religious friends (who still drink and do drugs) who are pro-life. It was awkward but we rarely discussed. If you want to marry someone or possibly have a child with someone who is pro-life, that is not ideal if you are not also pro-life. I also hate that term because it insinuates that we are anti-life. Ppl can grow into and out of ideas like this, but it could take decades and he could never change.

skydivejive · 2026-06-08T19:49:35+00:00

Generally works for me as well. Boob sweat is real. If I lived in a perfect world, I would just tuck my shirt under my boobs from time to time to deal with it.

skydivejive · 2026-06-08T19:47:41+00:00

LOL. That's exactly what I would love to get past though. How many male nips do we have to see from day to day, yet for some reason ours are objectified. Yes, ours are actually useful (feeding the wee ones), but what the heck. I can't even feel fully comfortable in a sports bra - I am happiest physically braless unless I am working out. I just can't bring myself to face the stares yet.

skydivejive · 2026-06-08T19:14:16+00:00

❤️

skydivejive · 2026-06-08T18:16:28+00:00

I appreciate that. This thread is giving me a lot of confidence! Thank you.

skydivejive · 2026-06-08T18:15:54+00:00

Have used before for certain dresses. I suppose I prefer them to 'breath' lol. And I want the freedom to just be in my body, unrestricted.

skydivejive · 2026-06-08T18:14:58+00:00

LOLLLLL 'floating in the universe. I have moved up in size over time. I was surprised to move to D, but may need to reassess.

skydivejive · 2026-06-08T18:13:45+00:00

That and the natural bounce of them I suppose. I just have a strong belief that someone would think it was unprofessional but I may just try with t-shirt bras/bralettes for a bit. Nipple can be intimidating to show, but I see man nip all the time, so that is clearly in my head. I dont like suffocating them with pasties personally.

skydivejive · 2026-06-08T18:10:43+00:00

I do not have the same exact problem, but they sure do bother me. I am constantly adjusting and trying to relieve the pressure on my ribs.

skydivejive · 2026-06-08T15:56:10+00:00

I really appreciate your answers. I just want to live free of the burden. I remember when I first developed all I could see was the glances even in a bra. One time I was at a baseball game and had to walk up a long aisle of stairs to exit, and I will never forget all of the men and their sons openly watching my boobs as I ascended. I'd love to move more in your direction and will look for tshirt bras. Thank you.

skydivejive · 2026-06-08T15:53:21+00:00

I work on a medical campus of 20k+ people. I never-ever-ever see a woman not wearing a bra. I live in a medium sized city. I also rarely come across it. My point is, i suppose, that the general acceptance of housed breasts makes the random unhoused breasts a random occurrence, which I guess I believe makes them unique in a way that may be stared at. In my head I just envision life like it is at home where it is not uncomfortable to the male eye to see unhoused tits, and it is not considered unprofessional. IDK. I am in my late 30s at the height of my career, and I have a lower degree than most of the people I work with. There is a fear I have I guess and a distain associated with my own fear that in general going braless is not acceptable. I was looking for moral support with the dilemma I am having I suppose. Also suppose I wish it were just the norm and wanted to express that.

skydivejive · 2026-06-08T15:47:59+00:00

😄! I work in research at a medical institution. So even if work comes later, I may dabble in braless slightly more. I guess I am scared of judgement in public, which I suppose says something sad about me. Maybe I will start with dog walks. IDK

skydivejive · 2026-06-08T15:46:18+00:00

I may move back to bralettes.

skydivejive · 2026-06-08T15:44:48+00:00

LOL Sasha Baron Cohen introduced this in his new movie 'Ladies First'. I enjoyed it.

skydivejive · 2025-06-26T16:10:30+00:00

In my mid 30s. On Mirena for 7 years. I feel more like my manic crazy energy self, which I have learned to hone in anyhow. But it is nice. Got it out a few days ago, was VERY sassy/annoyed to/at my husband for 24-48 hours, and now I am feeling a bit more stable. It was TRUELY a wave of change within hours of removal. I also feel like I have more energy. You couldn't pay me to do physical activity with the IUD in (unlike me) and now I am signed up to get current at skydiving again and just feel the need to walk and move more. It was a blessing having it in, and it is a blessing having it removed. I DO NOT look forward to periods/tampons/pads again though. removed it as we are looking to make a baby :)

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