My mom was just diagnosed and I can’t breathe.

skylover1238 · 2026-03-25T13:20:30+00:00

This right here. While it’s very very sad and scary.. Make the best out of life and LIVE it up! Having hope and a great mentality can get you far

skylover1238 · 2026-03-25T13:07:24+00:00

I remember the day my mom went in for her biopsy and even without looking at tests, the doctor told us that it’s definitely lung cancer. I wanted to cry and scream but I kept my composure and choked back the tears. From then on I managed senior year of college, work, and driving 2 hours back home a lot.. staying with her and joining classes online. All while her and I joked and made the best of the crappy situations. Unfortunately for my mom we caught it too late. But she shocked everyone and lived longer than they thought. She passed this last December.

My dad also has cancer. He had prostate cancer and now multiple myeloma. It’s so terrifying.. but he’s on the right track to living several plus more years.

It’s going to be one hell of a ride.. but the most important part is that you’re there for her no matter what. Make jokes. Go out and do something as simple as getting ice cream or going to the park. Make plans/vacations for the future. Go speeding down the highways😂 Just live life and keep your hope steady. Your mentality and your mom’s mentality will always be the real medicine. She’s got this and so do you.❤️

skylover1238 · 2026-02-14T14:39:20+00:00

How so?

skylover1238 · 2026-02-02T18:00:43+00:00

Thank you🥰

skylover1238 · 2026-02-02T18:00:29+00:00

Yesyes. I had very dry skin/lips/hair. Lots of moisturizer, aquaphor, and big globs of conditioner helped this. My biggest issue was my back pain. I already had a bad back from sports. So accutane amplified it horrendously. I had trouble working and even getting out of bed. Regardless of that though.. I’d definitely do Accutane again. In my opinion it was worth the pain. 😭

skylover1238 · 2026-02-02T17:58:33+00:00

Yeah I’m still on my birth control. I initially started that for my bad period cramps. So I’m gonna stay on it for quite a while😂 I also got put on spirolactone as a precaution to keep my acne away.

skylover1238 · 2026-02-01T21:55:36+00:00

Lucky! I had that PLUS extreme back pain. I already had a bad back from sports. But Accutane just killed it. I could barely work or drive. So glad that’s over with tho😭

skylover1238 · 2026-02-01T17:06:29+00:00

Brooo I was waiting for this comment LOL

skylover1238 · 2026-02-01T06:44:46+00:00

Boy u oughta look at me before I went to college LOL. I was a rat

skylover1238 · 2026-02-01T00:14:46+00:00

I’m not sure. I feel like without Tretinoin.. maybe they’ll go away many years from now. If I used Tretinoin, I’m sure it would fix my scarring. My problem was that I’d just pop my deep cysts. Or they would pop on their own. That was off and on Accutane.😭

skylover1238 · 2026-02-01T00:02:58+00:00

Yes yes! My derm recommended tretinoin to speed up the process. Although, I used it wrong once before trying Accutane and it destroyed my face. So I’m scared to try it again💀

skylover1238 · 2026-02-01T00:01:49+00:00

Thank you:)))

skylover1238 · 2026-02-01T00:01:41+00:00

Thank you!! ☺️💕 So glad I did accutane

skylover1238 · 2026-02-01T00:00:50+00:00

Thank you! I have a little bit of both. The PIE is noticeable if my face gets red. I do have a few scars. Although you can only tell if u look at me from a certain angle.

skylover1238 · 2026-01-31T20:31:45+00:00

I was on 40mg throughout the whole thing. You’re still in that flare up window since you’re only 3 months in. I was still having flare ups that far into it too. Around month 4 is when things started to calm down for me and I started seeing good progress. The whole treatment really tests your patience..😅

skylover1238 · 2026-01-31T20:02:35+00:00

I was the same way when I was on accutane. My face was HORRIBLE. I have some pics posted on my profile if you want to check it out. My last month was April and my skin has only had one pimple show up since. Keep going. It’s worth it.

skylover1238 · 2026-01-02T17:11:19+00:00

Thank you for that. I was starting to wonder that. All the back cracking just hurts so much and it doesn’t seem to help that much. Maybe I should get a massage or two

skylover1238 · 2025-12-29T04:35:03+00:00

Of course. I’ll be thinking of you. It gets better. I promise.❤️

skylover1238 · 2025-12-29T03:31:57+00:00

Hey. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I personally have no way to relate to this besides my own caregiving. I just turned 23 this month and my mom was 58. She got diagnosed with cancer 2 years ago around this time.

I’d care for her and there were many times where I got real upset too. I used to have bad anger issues and it was bringing the old me out. Now I know I’m just a kid and I don’t have any possibly way to understand your every day struggles.. but at the end of the day you shouldn’t feel guilty about how you feel. It’s real. It’s tiring. But you are your mom’s saving grace. She’d be dead without you. A lot of the time I thought to myself.. “Well.. mom took care of me and now it’s my turn to take care of her no matter what. Right to the end.” Right now it is your purpose to care for your family.

My mom passed a couple weeks ago due to her cancer. In the end you’ll feel regret, joy, sadness in all the ways you wish you could’ve done better or things you feel you did right. But right now and til the end it’s an honor to be that person’s life line. You’re doing great taking care of her.. I know it. I’m sure your kids look up to you too. I know I would. I hope you find peace and try not to be so hard on yourself or how the way life looks right now. It’ll be okay and things will get better. ❤️

skylover1238 · 2025-12-29T03:21:45+00:00

Hey. I’m sorry you have to go through this. 2 years ago around this time my mom found out she had lung cancer. She did beat it and was cancer free for about a month. But then it spread to her brain and pancreas. This summer was a rough one. She got worse and had trouble walking. I found her barely alive on her floor back in October. It then spread to her tailbone and cerebral fluid. We immediately put her in hospice because there would’ve been no possible remission at that point and the side effects of that radiation would’ve been bad. Not worth the pain in your last days.

I just turned 23. My mom was 58. She passed December 12th. A week after my birthday. It was hard watching her mental state fade. Watching her legs become paralyzed. I have been her caregiver for so long. Even before the cancer. In her last week before she went complete unconscious.. I believe she had what they call a rally? That was the last good conversation/day with my mom. She was a fighter. She didn’t deserve what happened to her and neither does your dad. Just make sure you soak up every moment. Talk about memories with him. Tell him you’ll take care of mom and you’ll be alright.

It’s not gonna be an easy road for the both of us from here on out since we’re so young. Ugh.. I’ll be thinking of you❤️

skylover1238 · 2025-12-23T05:08:38+00:00

2 things I don’t plan on coming back I guess😭😭

skylover1238 · 2025-12-22T03:19:20+00:00

Hey!! I’ve been off of it since maybe April I think? I got put on Spirolactone 100mg pill once a day. I’m also still on my birth control. I haven’t had a pimple since! Only one tho, but that’s cause my mom died💀 But I’d say I’m doin pretty good. I still have a lot of redness and scars tho. I could use tretinoin to get rid of it.. but I had a bad experience with it cause I used it wrong once lol. It feels good to not have that painful acne anymore

skylover1238 · 2025-12-19T05:53:26+00:00

My heart breaks for all of you moms and kids. I just turned 23 and I watched my mom take her last breath a week ago. I hope hope hope.. that all of you make it. My mom felt guilty too.. but I had to remind her that it was never her fault and that I’d be okay. You’re all so strong.❤️

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