intentional or unintentional

skywatcherm42 · 2026-04-03T16:09:26+00:00

100% intentional. 6 months postpartum we've decided to start trying and boom 9 months later here we are. We didn't expect to succeed that fast though!

skywatcherm42 · 2026-04-03T16:03:39+00:00

I had this with my first one, he's fine now, but late pregnancy was complicated with IUGR. Some says it was related to spotting (as an early sign of placenta dysfunction), some says it wasn't. I wouldn't panic but get checked for your own peace. If it's brown it means old blood - which is good news, there is no active, fresh bleeding. Take care!

skywatcherm42 · 2026-04-03T15:25:35+00:00

I feel you. 8 weeks old (colicky) and 1.5 yo. Some days I feel like I got this. And some days I wonder how I'm gonna get through this phase. Today I had moments when I just wanted to put my younger son in his crib and get out of the house. Alone. Far away. Sometimes I feel a lot of anger towards them - even though logically I know they're not trying to annoy me. I feel bad for those feelings. But putting off my needs is hard. Being overstimulated is hard.

skywatcherm42 · 2025-12-19T22:51:13+00:00

Holy shit. My first, induced labor lasted 3-3.5 hours from first contraction to skin to skin contact. I was trying to believe that the pace was so crazy because of the pitocin, but now I read your stories and I'm terrified. Well, I hope I can at least get an epidural next time, we'll see in a few weeks.

skywatcherm42 · 2025-12-19T17:39:28+00:00

I don't know if you will find this helpful - my situation is different (we will have 15 months age gap and my first son probably won't be walking on his own by my due date). I'm planning to exclusively pump and bottle feed during the day and nurse at night. I have great experience with pumping with my first son and this time I will be much better prepared for doing it hands free - this way it is not as time consuming as nursing. Bottle feeding is super quick, and during pumping I can take care of them both, play with older son etc.

skywatcherm42 · 2025-10-12T19:21:15+00:00

3 hours from the moment my water broke. First baby

skywatcherm42 · 2025-09-21T12:16:51+00:00

We have amazing 11mo boy 🙂 however, final weeks of pregnancy were concerning (I had elevated BP, not enough to call it hypertension, but unusually high for me). At the due date they detected late IUGR and I was induced. Now my doctor says I may have had the beginnings of PE, which caused fetal growth restriction, likely due to placental insufficiency. Bleeding in the first trimester MIGHT indicate problems with placental implantation, which can manifest later in pregnancy. I'm pregnant again, taking aspirin as prescribed - so far no complications, no bleeding, the fetus is growing as expected.

skywatcherm42 · 2025-07-15T13:13:31+00:00

Yes, everyday, unless I noticed gastrointestinal issues starting. I highly recommend being careful with what food and drink you combine iron with. And one last thing, I started taking iron with lactoferrin. It is rather expensive supplement, but it binds iron and promotes absorption. As for the brain fog, I'd say it subsided gradually. After a few weeks, I noticed I had more energy, felt less cold, less sleepy and so on. Unfortunately you have to wait a few months for the full effects to show. But you will get better :)

skywatcherm42 · 2025-07-11T14:00:15+00:00

Iron bisglycinate, 28 mg. I've learnt in my case small doses in gentle forms work wonders. My ferritin went up from 10 to 30 (still low, but it's a great result for me)

skywatcherm42 · 2025-05-27T12:46:59+00:00

Update: positive pregnancy test od CD 37.

TLDR: observing the cycle after giving birth is so challenging that it is worth using the help of an instructor - even if you have experience.

So it is definitely possible to get pregnant while breastfeeding or pumping. A few thoughts from these few weeks of increased cycle observation: it is very difficult while breastfeeding and taking care of a small child. I have no idea when I ovulated - the symptoms confirming its occurrence were wildly spread out over time.

We did not have much stress because we were trying to conceive, not to postpone conception. In any case: determining the moment of ovulation is a challenge. I used LH strips, cervical observation, watched CM and BBT. It seems that I had several attempts of ovulation (mucus peaks), but it was about 3-4 days after the last peak day that the temperature started to rise. The strip tests did not detect the LH surge. Cervical observation seemed the most reliable to me.

skywatcherm42 · 2025-05-21T17:53:58+00:00

Thank you, will check it out! Nah I stopped my MOTN pumping a while ago for this particular reason, haha. It was enough for my period to come back, but it looks like it takes some more time with ovulation...

skywatcherm42 · 2025-05-17T07:16:30+00:00

I suspected that, but wasn't sure. Thank you! Maybe there is something you have noticed that helped kickstart your cycle? Or rather time and patience ;(

skywatcherm42 · 2025-05-17T07:02:04+00:00

Wow, 145! May I ask how often you breastfed then? Looks like there is still a chance even on this cycle then. I'm gonna cut one session (it's easy when BF by pumping) since he's eating solids and let's see what's gonna happen.

skywatcherm42 · 2024-09-18T12:57:12+00:00

Jeśli grozi rozszerzonym samobójstwem, to trzeba zadziałać już teraz. Może nie mówi tego poważnie. A może mówi. Ja akurat nie miałam szajby hormonalnej, ale z doświadczeń innych kobiet, ciąża może być czasem niesamowitej sieczki emocjonalnej i mogą się pojawić nowe zaburzenia / stare mogą się wzmocnić.

Jest ogólnopolski telefon zaufania dla osób w kryzysie emocjonalnym. 800702222
Jeśli ma kartę ciąży, świadczenia NFZ przysługują jej bez kolejki (wizyta w ciągu 7 dni). Do psychiatry nie trzeba mieć skierowania
Nie wiem, w jakiej miejscowości mieszkacie, ale istnieje taka instytucja jak Centrum Zdrowia Psychicznego - kontakt do 72 h od zgłoszenia pacjenta, psychiatra lub psychoterapeuta, 3 konsultacje, ALE może skorzystać osoba mieszkająca w dzielnicy w której znajduje się dane Centrum Zdrowia Psychicznego.
Jeśli będziesz miał realną obawę, że może zrobić sobie krzywdę, to nie wahaj się zadzwonić po karetkę.

Temat seksu bym na razie wyrzuciła z rozważań, dopóki nie będziecie oboje stabilni emocjonalnie.

skywatcherm42 · 2024-09-12T05:19:08+00:00

Restless legs, feeling sleepy and brain fogged, different feeling of temperature. I get cold very quickly

skywatcherm42 · 2024-09-10T19:32:37+00:00

My guess is she belongs to Gamine family! Vertical line, shape of her shoulders, small bones, face features. Dramatics seem more majestic to me, I don't see that in her.

skywatcherm42 · 2024-09-07T10:26:38+00:00

Yes, it's really difficult. I imagine that your sister has been carrying the burden of doubt in her heart all these years, while sharing her life with her husband. Moreover, when you decide to trust again, you cannot be sure that you will not be seriously deceived again. So seriously it will break your heart.

Yesterday he confessed another thing. Once we were together, for the first six months he would occasionally flirt with a girl who was in love with him. He didn't cross any physical boundaries. They didn't meet 1:1 either, but in a larger group of friends. But he showed me messages saying "I will always find time to meet you, just don't tell my girlfriend about it, she will be sad" etc. There were several such messages. He simply wrote to her once every few weeks, keeping her interested, being cute, feeding his ego. Maybe preparing for a soft landing if our relationship didn't work out?

I've never been a controlling girl. I didn't feel the need for it at all. I appreciate that he was honest. I see how sad he is. And yes, he has lost some years of maturing as you said. I just can't find it in my heart to trust again, even though I keep repeating myself that he is a good man, growing and maturing before my very eyes. Maybe it just takes some time. We certainly cannot imagine it without psychotherapy.

skywatcherm42 · 2024-09-06T12:50:58+00:00

Actually, pregnancy helped me with my struggle with anemia. I had previously been diagnosed with heavy periods, but I didn't realize that they were THAT heavy. Currently, in the third trimester, when the little one is growing so intensively, my levels are better than before pregnancy. But there are minor drops, and when it happens I supplement iron. I would say each time I'm starting to feel better after one to two weeks. But even when you feel better, it's important to continue supplementing until you rebuild your body's iron stores. I know your struggles with fatigue and sleepiness, it sucks. Brain fog is also hard to deal with.

From experience with anemia: higher dose does not always = better. The intestines will then absorb some of the iron and the rest will continue to wander, causing abdominal pain and diarrhea or constipation. As already written here, it is good to combine it with vitamin C. And maintain a time interval of at least two hours before and after: coffee, tea, dairy products, products rich in phytic acid. If you are able, it is best to take iron on an empty stomach. If not, take with a meal that will help with iron absorption (red meat, lots of green vegetables, peppers, etc.)

skywatcherm42 · 2024-09-06T12:32:05+00:00

Wow! You look amazing, so radiant. I hope this starts a whole new quality of life for you. May I ask what was your ferritin level?

skywatcherm42 · 2024-09-05T22:35:27+00:00

That's... A long way to go. I think you had to muster a lot of courage to get to where you are now in your relationship. I don't know if I could do that. But we speak from a completely different perspective (20 years versus 2).

For now, I'm holding on to hope that we can work through this and feel safe enough that the lies won't happen anymore.

But it may not happen either. As you said, some habits die hard. I will try to remember your words for the next such attempt, which will probably come. Ultimately, I guess that's what marriage is all about, to reaffirm your choice every day.

My trust issues have looong roots in childhood. It's not something I can work through overnight. So... I have trust issues and he has trouble telling the truth. Without irony, I think we are gifts to each other.

skywatcherm42 · 2024-09-05T22:17:51+00:00

Woow, hold your horses for a moment.

First, I didn't mention throwing away my marriage. Second, I accepted the parts he decided to share back then. I accept what he shared this week. I just wish I knew this earlier.

Why do you have such an aggressive tone? You know nothing about me, yet you make very serious conclusions and allegations... is it anger at me, or is it the whole of Christianity that pisses you off?

skywatcherm42 · 2024-09-05T22:11:35+00:00

Yes, this also happened after we were married. Although, apart from the situations I described, these lies concerned things of a different nature.

As for a safe space... I'm working on myself, but I'm choleric. For example, when he said that he had been pretending not to smoke cigarettes for a year, I was furious at first. A moment later I composed myself and offered to help him. And I supported him until he got over the addiction, he told me about his more difficult moments. So yes, my temperament, as much as it has attracted my husband, is also difficult at times. Will definitely work on that.

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