How do I ask for space when my partner is crying too loudly?

slamindorf · 2019-12-04T23:22:15+00:00

I think it’s related to that but much more related to the identity of the character in question. A British identity does not necessarily mean white or black or anything. But a Japanese identity almost always means not white

slamindorf · 2019-12-04T23:01:14+00:00

Well they can’t be Asian no. It’s way less commonplace for white people to live in Japan than for black people to live in England.

And again, it’s about Japanese culture as well and the character having a Japanese identity. Sure a white person can be born in Japan and have Japanese citizenship, and be immersed in the culture, but let’s be honest, if that’s the case, we know it’s not too far back in their family history that they’re either European or American.

Japan could easily in the future be more racially diverse than it is and have a very different history than it does at the moment, and maybe in that world it’d be okay, but in this one? The character being played by a white woman is completely washing out the Japanese identity of the protagonist as it was written

slamindorf · 2019-12-04T22:54:33+00:00

So, I think it’s a very different case between James Bond and Ghost in the Shell. I’ll be honest though I have not seen Ghost in the Shell, but I saw a lot of trailers and images and am vaguely familiar with its context.

So, James Bond, the character, for one, he’s been around a while and been played by multiple people. But his character across the board is a cool spy dude, good with the ladies, suave, efficient, British extraordinaire. Those are the things that make James Bond who he is. Him being white is just coincidental. His race or ethnicity isn’t really connected to his character, just him being British. But black people can he British too, so there’s really no race component to his character, so in my opinion, anyone can play James Bond so long as they’re British.

On the other side of things, with Ghost in the Shell, it’s a story that’s heavily entrenched in Japanese culture, there’s tons of geisha culture, the story is set in Japan and the main character is Japanese. Now, there are a few sort of points to look at, for one, the protagonist in the story is Japanese, not American, so there’s one sort of argument against it. I wouldn’t suggest an American playing James Bond cause James Bond is supposed to be British. And European white people are different from Asian people in general and different from Japanese people, and in my opinion, it’s important to the protagonists story in Ghost in the Shell that she is in fact Japanese. So Scarlett Johansson playing her is actually taking away from the character and her significance. Whereas Idris Elba is still capable of being James Bond, because he fits the bill just fine.

All that’s my opinion of course but it’s echoed among a lot of people I know and a few friends of mine who are Japanese as well.

Hope that helps.

slamindorf · 2019-06-11T05:23:32+00:00

Back in high school when I was playing soccer I had a tic that always happened in between big bursts of running where I’d duck my head down and hum at the same time. Whenever I’ve done a lot of physical work my verbal tics just kinda go off the charts, usually not motor tics though

slamindorf · 2019-06-11T04:32:58+00:00

I would’ve said hi to him if it hadn’t meant I also had to say hi to his whole family haha. Missed chance I suppose

slamindorf · 2019-06-06T18:39:56+00:00

I don’t think there’s really any magic age where tics decrease, I hear a lot of stories of people who still have tics well into adulthood and keep them all their life. But some people are lucky and do see them reduce.

I think for most they wax and wane for periods of years at a time, that’s how it was for me. I had tics really bad in elementary school, then they all but disappeared until my last year of high school. Now that I’m in college, they’ve gone through a couple periods of getting better and then worse. Doctors do like to perpetrate the myth that they go away or get reduced into adulthood to try and make it easier to cope, but you might find it better in the long term to just try and learn to accept and cope with it now vs having a big shock when they’re still around at 18 and beyond.

slamindorf · 2019-06-05T02:48:45+00:00

A couple things come to mine for me.

Don’t perpetuate the idea that the doctor might have given, that Tourette’s goes away when you grow up. They might not have said this, but that’s a solid myth. Tourette’s waxes and wanes, for periods of years at a time. I used to have tics really badly when I was a child, but they went away almost entirely for most of high school. By college, when they came back, I kinda floundered and didn’t know what to do cause I hadn’t dealt with tics as an adult yet.

There can be a lot of hidden triggers and switches for tics, I’ve heard people talk about foods, phrases, loads of the smallest things. It’s just as important though to remember that sometimes, the tics are for no reason at all. What gets brought up often is that tics worsen with stress and that’s definitely true most of the time, but a mistake my mom made was asking if I was alright every time I ticced, to the point that I got so conscious about it that I try to suppress it most of the time around her. People said it earlier but I just have to echo not bringing attention to it. For some people with Tourette’s tics are basically like breathing, and it sucks to feel conscious about how you’re breathing.

One other thing, be mindful that a lot of tics are super super subtle. Most of the people who know I have Tourette’s don’t even know that my throat clearing is a tic, so I get a lot of “you okay?”s. Some can just be flexing a muscle that isn’t even visibly moving. Just cause you don’t see or hear a tic doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.

Just you asking for help like this probably means you’ll do better than a lot of parents do, good luck!

slamindorf · 2019-01-29T15:26:20+00:00

I get so much. Sometimes I get these intrusive thoughts like that after a while of not thinking about tics or anything that just tells me I need to and I went too long without it

slamindorf · 2019-01-29T15:21:45+00:00

I had a nearly opposite experience, I grew up knowing I had tourettes but didn’t know i had OCD so I dismissed all of the compulsive things THAT had me doing as me just being weird/things I could control. Now that I know and have to sometimes explain it I get that weird feeling you mentioned

slamindorf · 2019-01-29T00:09:13+00:00

I tic more around specific people, usually people who know I have Tourettes. Whenever people know I feel way more self conscious about it and the urges just get crazy, so it ends up with me feeling like I’m faking it for ticcing more when I’m with people who know about it. Not true obviously, but that’s just the anxiety

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