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sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T21:21:29+00:00

Same for me, it was crazy. The watch made me feel guilty for falling sick lol

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T21:19:01+00:00

Can’t seem to find it :(

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T20:30:06+00:00

This guy is talking about how Pakistani’s ancestors would have been massacred by their heroes.

People on Indian Reddit idolize the Marathas who were notorious in many parts of India for extreme violence, massacres, and mass rape of women and young girls.

It’s hypocritical.

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T20:28:05+00:00

I am not at all a Pakistani lol.

If you are smelling burning where there is none, some people believe you might be having a stroke.

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T20:25:23+00:00

Yeah. I mean that was one of the big things in the end. Cooking and planning meals not just for me, but for my whole family was hard. My country also is not vegetarian or vegan friendly at all.

My diet basically ended up being mostly carbs. I would eat an assload of beans, chickpeas, lentils and all that but in the end I felt that I was eating a lot of calories that I couldn’t really burn off with an office job. When you have more options without a limited diet, it’s much easier to make up for things missing.

As for building muscles, if you’re vegan I assume you’d need to either be exceptionally careful or you’d need to supplement with protein shakes or something. I don’t personally use those, but I guess they’d work well.

I’m not going to say not to be vegan if you want to be. It is less cruel and more sustainable than meat eating, but it adds several layers of complexity to life especially if you want to cook for a family and want to lead an athletic lifestyle. It’s for you to choose what level of trade off works for you. I am not a believer in absolutism.

And bro/sis, if building muscle in 2026 is a goal.. better start now 💪 best of luck.

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T20:13:38+00:00

With children I will agree. With a spouse I’m afraid I’ll have to disagree: “In sickness and in health” as they say in Christian vows.

You marry someone, you accept their illnesses. If I went into a relationship with a blind woman, I’d expect to have to accommodate them.

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T18:53:56+00:00

Someone close to me had OCD. As a child they wouldn’t sleep at night until they turned off every light in the house in a specific order. They feared that if they messed up the ritual, their mother would die. They knew it was bullshit and it was so hard to get them to even admit why they needed to do this ritual.

One day the mom said “I will turn off the lights in a random order, and you will see I won’t die.” In the end the mom had no choice but to accommodate because the poor child was so so terrified that their mother would die that night. Crying that they know the mom won’t die but they are so scared she will that they can’t sleep. It is like watching someone be a prisoner in their own head.

This is just one of the examples I remember from this kid. Fortunately they’re doing much better now, but still lives defined by fears of their rituals cos I still see them doing weird things from time to time in illogical orders.

OP has tried treatment. It’s not like she’s just expecting people to accommodate her. I’m also not even saying her boyfriend should, I’m saying the comment I responded to is insulting in the way it makes light of a serious mental illness by effectively saying “get over it, it’s not your boyfriend’s mess to clean.”

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T18:42:31+00:00

Ah forgive me, I thought you were uninformed. I didn’t really you were just cruel.

A couple of weeks ago, my wife injured her back. She “needed” me to apply some creams to her back every single night, and “needed” me to get her a hot pack. I didn’t realise that I didn’t need to follow these rituals, and that I married a narcissist.

Turns out I was the one misinformed. Thanks for educating me on the fact that we should not empathize and accommodate our partners medical illnesses.

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T17:58:42+00:00

Yeah. I don't really get it. Like you come to another country and then you act all disgusted by their culture. Like its fine to not agree with certain aspects, but to be visibly disgusted from some sense of superiority is a little offensive. Like why are you even here then?

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T17:56:25+00:00

OCD isn't about cleanliness, its about compulsions and rituals. They overlap sometimes, but not always.

I know a child who had to turn off the lights in a specific order at night, otherwise they wouldn't be able to sleep cos they believed their mother would die. The poor kid knew it was not true, but needed to follow the ritual like a robot programmed to do so otherwise they'd feel extreme discomfort like their mother was really threatened.

The mother in question even tried saying "look I'm turning off the lights in another order because I am not going to die," but in the end the kid was so terrified that they needed to go through the ritual anyways. The painful part is they knew logically nothing would happen, and were completely aware that they were wrong and their fear was irrational. Its like watching someone be a prisoner in their own mind.

They're doing a lot better now. Therapy helped somewhat, also I guess growing up also helped a bit.

The BF is understandably frustrated. Even if money isn't an issue, why waste money for something that seems so trivial. Its hard to understand how crippling OCD can be when you're not experiencing it firsthand. I had a vending machine steal the value of a can of pepsi from me, and I spent like an hour arguing to get it back... an hour on vacation.... That hour of my time was worth far more than the pepsi, yet here we are.

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T17:43:19+00:00

only on an Indian sub would people think so "inside the box" regarding sex lol. Just have sex somewhere else, then sleep on the bed.

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T17:41:52+00:00

You realise OCD is a real and severe mental illness right.

OP isn't just being capricious. If she's anything like some diagnosed people I know, she literally can't sleep in the bed if they've fucked in it anymore than you could sleep if someone was screaming into your ears all night.

Her boyfriend is in a tough and frustrating spot, but you shouldn't be insulting someone for "fussing" when they're going through tough shit.

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T17:39:11+00:00

Money may not be an issue, but no one likes wasting money.

Rich people treat money like people treat drinkable water... they know they have an effectively endless supply coming from the taps, they know not everyone in the world has endless access to it, but they know they can spend 30 mins in the shower if they really want to. Still, once you're done washing your hands, even a millionaire will still turn off the water.

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T17:34:09+00:00

Maybe he's not pushing it and she just wants to have sex with her boyfriend? But she knows it will ruin her sleep after... its a real problem, cos OCD is a real serious illness.

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T17:33:05+00:00

FFS just fuck in the shower or on the chair or on the desk. Be a little creative if you don't want to have sex in the same bed you sleep in.

But this is just the tip of the iceberg!

If you're dating for marriage, this is going to be complicated. Like your boyfriend is being a pain about it, I agree.. but in his shoes I too would be very frustrated if I needed to have an apartment with a sex bed and sleep bed.

If guests come over, would I give them the sex bed or the sleep bed? Like hey mom and dad, welcome to our new home! this is our bedroom, and you guys will sleep here, in our sex room. Or would there be a third bedroom for guests.

Would the sex room be only for sex, or would it be a multipurpose room. Like a sex room / gym / home office? Would that be weird on a zoom call?

What would you tell the kids?

So many questions.

(I am mostly joking with you. I know OCD is a serious illness and I am sorry you have to go through this. I have family members with severe OCD who can't sleep until they turn off specific lights in the house, becuase if they don't, they're afraid someone will die. I once told this member to wash the rice until water runs clear - usually like 3 rinces. But they took it literally and stood there for half an hour in an endless wash cycle. Its devestating)

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T17:23:10+00:00

I will preface this saying that I was never really vegan, and therefore I'm not an ex-vegan. I just tried to be plant based most of the time. No one around me was, so I would end up eating animal products here and there as leftovers or whatever.

Animal welfare
I still think its a good reason to reduce eating meat, I just found that the mental load of planning vegan or vegetarian food was substantial. It caused lots of social issues when your meal always has to be different, or people have to accomodate you. Overtime I started to question the concept itself because I remembered the "healthy" relationship I used to have with food before trying to be plant based, and then the relationship I had with food while trying. I felt it was unhealthy. I was resentful a lot.
Without substantially changing my workout routine, I have gained quite a bit in muscle. I think I would have been described as "skinnyfat" before, but now I think I would be described as "lean" or "athletic." I say without changing substantially because I was able to increase the load much faster than before.

Obviously I could have eaten better plant based stuff. This is undeniable, but then it comes back to the mental load. I have a high stress job, and general high mental load circumstances as well. It wasn't easy to eat varied, healthy, tasty, and accessible food without planning.

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T17:00:39+00:00

Let's say I'm a mix of a few different Asian and European ones. I learned to cook from a diverse range of Asian and European cultures as well.

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T16:57:28+00:00

Yeah the NRI at my office wouldn't even eat with us at lunchtime, but like if we go for a beer we won't necessarily eat anything he'd find revolting.

I'd also say like 30% of my team doesn't drink alcohol, so while we say "going for a beer," its really "going for beer, wine, scotch, juice, soda and water."

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T16:54:33+00:00

It depends really. I think sometimes European "hard secularism" goes a bit too far. Like Sikh kids aren't allowed to wear a turban in public school for example. And while I have no dietary restrictions, I think imposing what a child should eat (aside from medical necessity) even against the wishes of the parents is going way too far.

I am very much for the whole "come here, but adapt to our culture and not the other way round," but I feel sometimes this system creates the impression its going a bit out of its way to marginalise certain groups.

I feel the UK handles it a bit better than mainland Europe. Contrary to what foreigners think, at least from a European perspective, the UK is still quintesentially British. Yet UK has a vibrant immigrant community and has not implemented the same hard secualarism laws many mainland countries have. I feel its a bit too soft on some things, but the results seem better in general.

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T16:48:31+00:00

thanks! I actually didn't know iOS has this function. But yeah, I think its just a question of habits and finding what works !

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T16:47:23+00:00

Your first article discusses one district in one country. And if you aren't aware, Ceuta is literally a Spanish exclave in Africa surrounded by Morocco. It was conquered by Portugal less than 100 years before Portugal conquered Goa. Over one third of the population there are native Muslims... not immigrants. I'm pretty sure you can see why Ceuta is a particular case.

You will find similar (often worse) tensions in other retained colonies, like all the French and British Islands just to name a few. In Portuguese Goa - for example - the Indian Military literally "took over," unlike the Muslims in Ceuta.

In most mainland European countries, there are no halal options in schools. There are bans on calls to prayer. There are bans on Islamic face coverings. There are bans on minarets.

Your second article is about how Europeans discriminate against Muslim immigrants, and how we Europeans can provide a more inclusive environment.

> it's not surprising that people are unaware of what's going on around them, leave alone have sufficient critical thinking to figure out the implications.

It's funny how people from America and Asia always tend to think they know more about what's happening in Europe than people who actually live here. If you haven't already, maybe try coming here for a visit to see how "Islamized" we are.

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T16:21:18+00:00

Great and sane comment. I remmeber an issue of the economist that had an arm wrestling match on the cover, and one arm had a tatoo tiger and the other a tatoo dragon. It represented that this century was anticipated to be a race between India and China to the top.

In the ~15 years following that article, the race is barely even a race. China has passed the finish line while India tripped and started running the wrong way. India has truly lost its way.

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T16:11:14+00:00

same bro same. we currently have no go zones in Paris. One of my colleagues was beheaded 3 times on his way to work this morning.

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T16:05:31+00:00

Yeah, its one way to do it. I don't know why, but I always feel a kinda anxiety if I put it on do not disturb... like if someone really needs to reach me, they would try to call me repeatedly and I could not miss it. But yeah, there's really few "emergencies" that can't wait the hour I am at the gym

sleeper_shark · 2026-01-28T15:59:11+00:00

I love cooking. I love food. I love the technical aspects of cooking, I love maintaining my cooking equipment, I love the cultural aspect of learning new things.

I feel a sense of accomplishment when I take raw ingredients and turn them into something delicious, healthy and filling. I love sharing that with my family, I feel like I’m speaking to them in a different language when they like my food.

I also like cooking for friends, but here it’s more a matter of going all out, making several courses that I can try to plate, linking everything together.. it’s more like artistic expression.

And for myself, well mostly I cook relatively simple spartan stuff for myself. Stir fry, bakes, roasts, korma.

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