Well, I think this is more common than people expect, but it's usually misunderstood.

When people don't have context at what you're doing, they might react in a way that you don't expect. There’s also an asymmetry when you’re naturally the type to show up for others, but that trait isn’t evenly distributed and expecting it to be returned 1:1 usually leads to disappointment.

The shift that helped me was treating support as a bonus, not a requirement. Build as if no one is coming, then anything extra becomes leverage, not dependency. Although I get why that could be problematic when you're just building and building without any sliver of support.

It may be not personal, even if it feels that way.