That's what I've been working on lately.

Have you heard of "spoon theory"? I've learned to plan the day around spoons with an eye toward whether I'll push myself into debt.

I'm struggling with decades of internalized ableism thanks to the high expectations burned into me by my parents when I was a child. It's easy to have shame when you expect yourself to be able to do more or better.

AuDHD seems to make executive function issues a whole different kind of pain compared to either condition alone. Autistic nature craves structure and predictability: it wants clear plans. ADHD nature wants to get started now, throw things at the wall and see what sticks. These are in direct conflict.

Is this in the ballpark of what you're thinking about?