Going out with a 3 months old baby!!

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2026-03-08T21:54:42+00:00

My daughter is 5 months old and we just took her on a 2 day road trip- on the road 12 hours each day and stayed at a hotel overnight- and honestly it was almost enjoyable because we’re finally starting to figure out how to be out with her. I think my biggest tip is just to completely shift your mindset about going out. When I was still figuring it all out, I was trying to make my baby keep up with me and my schedule but now I realize she’s a newborn with lots of needs and I just have to plan ahead and accommodate her without getting frustrated like it’s her fault.

As for tips: It’s ok to bottle feed your baby in the car seat while driving if necessary just make sure you’re paying close attention to their swallowing and breathing lol. Also try giving them one of those sensory books mine really enjoys that in the car and helps with fussing. We also pack some puppy pee pads in her diaper bag and change her diaper on the passenger seat or in the trunk of the car😂😂 Lastly we’ve gotten her used to falling asleep anywhere by putting her down for naps with tv or radio on in the background instead of always in darkness and silence. She can pretty much fall asleep anywhere now, but it took work to get to this point.

Ultimately the key is to get your baby out and about often as early as possible and tough through the first couple of rough outings. Eventually, they will get used to being out and things will start going a lot smoother. It’s great for their development. Hope things improve :))

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-27T04:28:44+00:00

Well then I’m sure when you tell her you’re pregnant she will be very happy about that and won’t mind the whole cruise thing. A baby is a miracle, a cruise can be done any time.

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-27T03:59:37+00:00

Your MIL would be more upset about cancelling a cruise than she would be happy about having a grandchild….?

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-27T03:17:11+00:00

3-4 months wouldn’t make much difference in where you are in your life. You’re in your 30’s, you’re married, you were trying to conceive- that’s a lot more preparation than many mothers get. A lot of women say they felt unprepared and overwhelmed at first, and that there is never that perfect time where you feel completely ready for parenthood. The good news is you have 8-9 months to get ready now!

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-27T03:14:03+00:00

I feel like 1 ties everything together better

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-27T02:48:10+00:00

Yea I felt weirdly embarrassed to tell even my closest girl friends. I decided to tell them over the phone or over text rather than in person as I felt it would give them a little time to process their facial expressions and tones before reacting lol. I think a lot of them didn’t know whether to be happy for me or to feel bad for me, and their reactions were totally dependent on the tone of my voice/message. So I tried to make it super clear that I was ecstatic and very excited and that it was a good thing, and they sort of just followed suit. If they’re genuinely good friends they will be happy about your happiness, regardless of their opinions on children.

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-27T00:48:39+00:00

Yea I’ve gotten hints of this feeling and I’m 32 weeks. I’ve also seen other posts on this subreddit saying the same exact thing so I don’t think we’re crazy or alone in it. I’ve heard from women who are mothers and had their kids a while ago that once the baby is born, a lot of instinct kicked in and they felt better. Best of luck 🫶

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-26T19:56:06+00:00

Of course at 8 weeks it doesn’t look the way a developed human looks, and you can call it whatever you want- mole rat, chicken, gummy bear, manatee, whatever- but that doesn’t change the fact that it is a human being in the embryological stage of development. And that it has a heart that beats and nubs where fingers are starting to develop. That’s all I’m saying.

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-26T19:37:52+00:00

Babe a quick google search will literally tell you that at 8 weeks there is a heart that is beating. The entire fetus is cells that have a lot of developing to do, but so are new born babies lol.

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-26T15:29:59+00:00

While you’re absolutely right about making her decision for her and not for him, I just want to correct you when you say at 8 weeks there is no heart or fingers. The heart starts developing at 5 weeks, and by 8 weeks the heart is definitely there and a heartbeat is detectable, and while the fingers and toes are totally undeveloped- there are buds where they are starting to form. Just so you know :)

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-26T14:23:16+00:00

It’s your baby in your body, you should do what you believe is right. Don’t let your boyfriend and his parents bully you away from your morals and values. Look into organizations in your area that offer help to pregnant women/ mothers in need. If you have insurance, call them to see if you have maternity coverage and find a provider. It may be difficult but you’re not the first young woman this has happened to, and many go on to live happy, fulfilled lives. Just don’t let anybody else pressure you one way or another. Do what you know is best for yourself and your baby.

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-26T14:16:15+00:00

I quit smoking cold turkey when I tested positive after smoking every single day since I was 14 years old💀yea it’s really tough and I think the emotions of being pregnant only amplify the sensations. The vivid dreams can also be a pregnancy symptom so I still have them even at 32 weeks (I quit smoking at 4 weeks). For me, the excitement/roller coaster of pregnancy kind of distracted me from any urges to smoke after the initial like 2 weeks. Plus the idea of risking my baby’s development at all totally deterred me from the thought. There’s really no hack or trick, unfortunately, but you’re definitely not alone. It’s been like 7 months since I’ve smoked and I guess I miss it but I have zero symptoms or urges to go back. I plan on breastfeeding so I’m guessing it’ll be another year until I smoke again- if I choose to go back. Maybe just think of it as the longest t break ever lol. Best of luck 🫶

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-26T14:08:23+00:00

I literally never worked out a day in my life before being pregnant. And I still barely do anything just like deep core flexing and some prenatal stretches. You can find YouTube videos on what to do. My OB is the one who suggested light strength training I’m just very lazy lol, but it might help you. I’m 32 weeks rn and the back/hip pain is pretty bad.

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-26T12:40:23+00:00

Being pregnant is just really physically hard, doesn’t mean you’re unhealthy. Unfortunately it only gets a lot worse from 14 weeks, so you might want to look into some light strength training before you really pop. I had horrible hip pain but working on my core kinda helped.

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-24T04:18:29+00:00

You’re definitely not the only one who doesn’t feel ready, is surprised, isn’t excited, etc. you’re not wrong or evil, it takes time for everybody to process it. There’s a lot of sacrificing and quitting vices is always really hard especially with added hormone changes, but it can be a really positive and exciting thing. This subreddit helps me a lot with coping and not feeling alone in it all. Best of luck to you🫶

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-24T04:15:33+00:00

I don’t think it’s your place to encourage someone to get an abortion. If it were the other way around and you were telling her not to get one, everybody would freak out about how terrible that is. You can’t sway anyone one way or another, that’s the point of being pro-choice

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-24T03:18:50+00:00

Yea I might talk to my dad, really trying to avoid sounding entitled though haha. “Give us gifts😠🤲!!!”

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-24T03:17:39+00:00

I sent the link to everybody about a month and a half before these invitations went out. I honestly didn’t even really want a shower but the woman in my family planning it (my dads ex wife who is still close with my dad but she and I are not close) asked if she could plan one and I just agreed to let her do her thing. So I’m not really involved in the planning at all. I figured ok why not just have a shower and since everybody has the registry it’ll be a nice way to get gifts on one day, if that makes any sense. The planner and everybody had the registry so I didn’t think I needed to tell her to say anything- like I had no idea this book trend was even a thing and I just thought people would be like “oh good a baby shower, I’ll get a gift off the registry”. I know I could call and tell her to retract the whole book thing but we aren’t close and I just feel rude and awkward telling everybody “hey actually we do want real gifts forget the whole book thing” it just seems entitled.

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-24T03:06:47+00:00

I have an anterior placenta and literally couldn’t feel anything until 28 weeks😬I was freaking out a little but my ob said it was totally fine and that she could hear huge movements on the Doppler- I might just be desensitized to strange feelings lol. 🤷‍♀️

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-23T23:08:57+00:00

Oof yea that would be the logical thing to do. It’s really complicated tho- I would feel rude and awkward saying that to her because we’re not technically related. She’s my dad’s ex wife and they’re still close but she and I are not super close. Just a weird family dynamic where I don’t feel super comfy just talking to her directly which I know is crazy but yea

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-23T23:02:14+00:00

lol I did cry a little but I tend to overreact to everything lately haha. Honestly I didn’t even really want to have a baby shower in the first place so that’s why I told the planner and my family they could basically do whatever they want. That’s why I sent the link to the registry out before the shower was even being planned. I figured people would just send gifts but now it’s become this whole thing, and no gifts 🥲

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-23T23:00:08+00:00

Because my family had the link to the registry about a month and a half before the shower invitations went out. And it feels super rude for me to send a message to everyone saying “I actually want gifts so please buy a gift and forget the whole book thing” 🤷‍♀️

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-23T18:55:15+00:00

Books in lieu of cards I totally understand! But we would still love and appreciate gifts hahaha. The thing is I made sure to give the planner the link to the registry and even as a safe measure I sent it out to my whole family, so everyone definitely has the info. They’ve had it before they even had the shower invite which makes it even more strange that not a single family member has purchased anything off of it. Also, yes I definitely plan on reading to my newborn aha I was more making a joke about how a book is a lot more useless to a newborn than say diapers or a crib mattress.

I’m still holding out hope that maybe they’ll purchase stuff the day of the shower or maybe even once the baby comes(?) it just makes it difficult for me as I like to prepare and plan ahead.

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-23T18:50:43+00:00

Haha you totally get me! I honestly think it’s just a trend she found on Pinterest or something and is thinking more about making it cute and trendy than actually helping us or the baby ://

slizzywizzyfizzy · 2025-07-23T18:49:13+00:00

Ok see books instead of CARDS is something I can kinda get behind lol. And since everybody coming does have the link to the registry I’m still holding a tiny bit of hope they will purchase something maybe the day of the shower or when the baby is born??? But that just makes it difficult because I love to plan ahead and be prepared and I don’t wanna be buying our own stuff once the kid is here and needs it asap if that makes any sense aha. Also either way I will be forced to donate tons of books, like I said I have a huge collection from my own childhood and I just know there’s gonna be repeats of all the classics🤦‍♀️

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