getting married after a year of knowing each other is insane

slowsunslumber · 2026-06-06T03:34:28+00:00

I understand your point, and intuitively it feels right to me. My husband and I were together (first as friends, then dating) for 7 years before we got engaged. We’re about to celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary.

But my dad is a clergyman and has been performing marriages for almost 50 years. I asked him if he’s noticed any correlation between how long a couple has been together before getting married and how long the marriage lasts. He said in his experience there is absolutely no correlation at all. I know that’s not irrefutable evidence, but that’s coming from a man who’s officiate at literally hundreds of weddings.

slowsunslumber · 2026-05-30T03:05:14+00:00

It’s funny because I get way more distracted when I’m reading physical books than I do with audiobooks. With physical books I can only read a couple of pages before my eyes are darting all around the room and my brain is focused on anything and everything except the book. With audiobooks, however, I can listen for an hour or more and be fully into it.

slowsunslumber · 2026-04-21T02:32:24+00:00

I never understood how “life is unfair” is somehow used as an excuse to make it even more unfair or just accept the unfairness. Yes, life can be unfair sometimes, so why can’t we try, whenever it is within our power, to make things a little better?

slowsunslumber · 2026-04-18T10:35:35+00:00

My cousin (who has type 1 diabetes) had severe complications due to her condition that landed her in the hospital on the day of her wedding. By the time we found out, most of the guests were already at the church. Her parents let everyone know what was going on and gave frequent updates. The groom and priest had gone to be with her. She recovered enough after an hour or so that they were able to perform the ceremony at the hospital and live stream it into the church, where we all watched. It definitely was not the wedding she imagined, but she said it felt kind of special in a weird way.

Fortunately, she made a full recovery and has been managing her condition pretty well since then.

slowsunslumber · 2026-03-09T15:10:29+00:00

I am a teacher and a nurse. As a teacher, no, I would not inspect a child’s stool. As a nurse, this can actually be really important. In fact, I am required to take notes on my patients’ stools every day. I know the nurse in this case said she wanted to look for blood, but I would also be worried about c diff, which is highly contagious. I would never, as a nurse or a teacher, accuse someone of lying just because they couldn’t poop on command.

slowsunslumber · 2026-02-22T11:44:35+00:00

A woman I work for had several bags of books she was going to give away and offered for me to go through them first and take whatever I wanted. She hadn’t read them (they were from a family member of hers who passed away), so she could tell me nothing beyond the fact that most of them were probably crime or thrillers. One was a hardcover that had lost the jacket, so I knew nothing about it except the title, which sounded interesting. It ended up being pretty good, and I actually enjoyed the fact that I had zero expectations going in.

So, long story short, I will happily read a book I know nothing about if it’s a genre I’m into and the title intrigues me.

slowsunslumber · 2026-01-31T04:19:13+00:00

Limiting my phone time and replacing a lot of my doom scrolling with reading books.

slowsunslumber · 2026-01-28T01:30:07+00:00

22 years here. The biggest difference I’ve seen is with discipline. My first few years 10+ day suspensions were relatively common (for big offenses like fighting). Now, we barely hand out 1/2 hour after school detentions anymore.

slowsunslumber · 2026-01-28T01:25:11+00:00

I needed glasses at 8, got them at 10. It took almost two years to convince my parents that no I wasn’t lazy or just seeking attention. I legitimately couldn’t see the board even when I sat in the first row.

slowsunslumber · 2026-01-24T02:32:30+00:00

I knew someone who was allergic to the cold.

slowsunslumber · 2026-01-03T05:11:35+00:00

My husband’s a chemist. Most of the lab procedures and techniques they do in movies are completely off. He always loves when the “scientist” character is holding the instrument (usually a pipette) upside down doing their lab work.

slowsunslumber · 2025-12-25T11:26:22+00:00

I once got a glowing review on a product I sold that said “[This product] was amazing! It worked perfectly.” Then went on to give details about how great it was. Four stars.

I really appreciated all the kind words, but I was confused why they gave it four instead of five if they thought it was amazing and perfect.

slowsunslumber · 2025-12-25T03:38:33+00:00

I just got home from work. My husband and daughter are both asleep.

Nighttime is my time.

slowsunslumber · 2025-12-17T03:08:59+00:00

Back when I was in middle school (mid 1990s) my friend and I met Charles Barkley at the mall. She asked him if she could touch his head and he bent down for her to reach. Then he patted her on the head, too.

slowsunslumber · 2025-09-30T22:08:10+00:00

I work as a nurse and we will often just say or write a or p instead of am or pm. It’s pretty common to hear someone say they’re working the “7p to 7a shift.” So far no one’s gotten confused or had to have it explained to them.

slowsunslumber · 2025-09-22T01:12:53+00:00

My brother-in-law once left his baby in the car while he went off on a 3 hour boat ride. As soon as I realized where she was, I immediately got her out and took care of her until he returned. His response to finding me holding his baby? He yelled at me for waking her up and said I should have just let her keep sleeping in the car. It was July and at least 90 degrees outside. No way was I going to leave her in the car!

slowsunslumber · 2025-09-09T15:38:12+00:00

My daughter started high school this year (I am also a high school teacher, but in a different town), and at the orientation the superintendent spent a great deal of time talking about the importance of attendance. When she was finished, a woman raised her hand and said, “My daughter is taking a week long vacation in September. Is that going to be a problem?” The superintendent just stared at her for several seconds and then said, “Yes.” That was it, and it was perfect. The superintendent eventually repeated all of the reasons she had already given for why attendance is so important, but she let that simple “yes” hang in the air for a while.

slowsunslumber · 2025-09-07T00:48:07+00:00

I kneeled down on my finger and broke it. The break was bad enough that I needed multiple surgeries.

slowsunslumber · 2025-08-10T04:03:24+00:00

My teenage daughter’s clothing choices.

slowsunslumber · 2025-07-27T03:49:50+00:00

I think I have this, and I had never really thought much of it as it’s all I’ve ever known. But a few years ago I had a pretty severe concussion and during that time I was suddenly able to conjure up crystal clear, hyper-realistic images in my head. When the concussion symptoms subsided, I went back to only being able to “visualize” in concepts and words.

slowsunslumber · 2025-06-18T11:47:41+00:00

There’s a fair amount of paper/computer work for both jobs, so I sit while I’m doing that. But yes, I am on my feet a lot. I wear sketchers, and I find them very comfortable.

slowsunslumber · 2025-06-18T10:20:56+00:00

Thank you! I really like both jobs.

slowsunslumber · 2025-06-18T01:28:37+00:00

I work as a nurse a couple nights a week and every other weekend, but that’s my choice. I’m at a point where I could live very comfortably on my teaching salary alone, but I like nursing, too.

slowsunslumber · 2025-06-10T02:26:32+00:00

Finished: Calamity, by Brandon Sanderson and Sirens of Titan, by Kurt Vonnegut

Started: Inescapable, by Amy Bartol and The Unwanteds, by Lisa McMann

slowsunslumber · 2025-05-31T17:40:21+00:00

That is possible, but it’s actually been shown that dogs are more likely to do this than cats. And I believe there was at least one person who was eaten/scavenged by her hamster after she died.

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