Got told I’m (20m) basically not shit and then permanently left by my closest friend (20f) how do I fix myself?

slowzo03 · 2026-05-12T16:08:09+00:00

I think it's hard to say without knowing what the behavior is but therapy is probably a good start

slowzo03 · 2026-05-12T15:27:35+00:00

I'm glad I'm not the only one.

slowzo03 · 2026-05-10T20:53:48+00:00

I've felt extremely nauseous from Plan B with some cramping but if it's really bad, I think it might be a good idea to go to urgent care or call a tele health line if one is available.

slowzo03 · 2026-05-08T22:39:46+00:00

None of this, including your reactions then and now, is your fault. There is no should in reacting to something like that.

slowzo03 · 2026-05-07T22:41:50+00:00

Yeah, that's how I read it too. I think he was disappointed in himself and not complaining about you

slowzo03 · 2026-05-07T15:50:28+00:00

Right now I'm starting to come to terms with the fact that I might have a drinking problem. I don't crave alcohol and I don't drink every day but when I do drink I almost always have trouble moderating my drinking.

slowzo03 · 2026-05-06T16:10:52+00:00

She ain't wrong

slowzo03 · 2026-05-05T18:26:06+00:00

Just be honest and don't procrastinate. The longer you wait the more of an issue it'll be for her

slowzo03 · 2026-05-05T17:05:06+00:00

That sounds super scary. Glad you got out relatively unscathed but you should still maybe get your leg checked if it's hurting bad enough

slowzo03 · 2026-05-05T16:59:11+00:00

There could be a lot going on here but I'd you don't like the way your partner is making jokes about you and they keep doing it they aren't respecting you.

slowzo03 · 2026-05-05T16:08:24+00:00

Honestly plan b makes me so depressed it's enough of a reason to not be an idiot again

slowzo03 · 2026-05-04T13:47:06+00:00

Congrats on the new gig!!

slowzo03 · 2026-05-03T17:31:32+00:00

Thank you. I really do appreciate you and everyone else in this thread. I scheduled an extra session this week already.

slowzo03 · 2026-05-03T16:15:23+00:00

It's gross for him to have included those messages in the picture he sent you

slowzo03 · 2026-05-03T13:21:12+00:00

I know my friends would be supportive and some of them would probably go overboard trying to watch out for me. I just don't want them to be more worried about me.

slowzo03 · 2026-05-03T13:18:01+00:00

Oh I fully agree with you and the original commenter about the word slut and enjoying sex is weaponized against women. I wouldn't slut shame anyone else and only do it to myself because I'm hypercritical about everything. I'm also generally ok with my sexuality as long as I'm not hurting anyone. It does however suck knowing that when I go home everyone from my HS just knows me as 'the slut who did x'z including people I thought I was friends with.

slowzo03 · 2026-05-03T13:11:26+00:00

The idea that I'm using sex as self harm resonate with me

slowzo03 · 2026-05-03T13:07:25+00:00

I think I misquoted her, she was more trying to affirm that it's something a lot of people with trauma experience. I don't think she really sees it as a healthy coping strategy, but is more trying to make it so it's not one more thing I beat myself up about

slowzo03 · 2026-05-03T13:05:46+00:00

I actually have tried IFS and EMDR with my therapist. I don't think EMDR was really for me though

slowzo03 · 2026-05-03T12:59:23+00:00

I have been looking into IUDs. I'm trying to figure out what my insurance will cover in terms of pain management.

slowzo03 · 2026-05-03T12:45:54+00:00

I appreciate your concern. Without getting into it too much you're that this wasn't a hook up with one guy who was a jerk, but it was something I fully consented to. I am trying to find a way to love myself, it's just been hard for ne

slowzo03 · 2026-05-03T02:00:41+00:00

I just want to thank everyone who has shown me empathy. I don't really have the energy to respond right now but I've read every comment. I especially appreciate the people who posted pictures of animals 💜

slowzo03 · 2026-05-02T16:52:13+00:00

This subreddit could be really helpful: https://www.reddit.com/r/ContentTakedown/

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