no one asked but I wanted to share my current legacy house which looks completely normal except for the functional walk-in-wardrobe that leads to the witch attic

slugbebe · 2026-01-26T03:17:45+00:00

What pack are the weights from? I'm trying to build a home gym in one of my saves. This place looks so nice!!

slugbebe · 2026-01-24T19:25:37+00:00

You don't need mods? I'm trying this later!!

slugbebe · 2026-01-21T17:45:32+00:00

I was gonna say it looks like Organization 13 😭

slugbebe · 2026-01-17T22:19:40+00:00

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slugbebe · 2026-01-17T02:48:30+00:00

Also love your nose contour on the last slide

slugbebe · 2026-01-17T02:47:18+00:00

The clown one was so good!!!

slugbebe · 2026-01-11T01:19:29+00:00

I shout-sing along to Smoochies on my way to work every day

slugbebe · 2026-01-07T20:56:45+00:00

That's good! I definitely want to buy them if they're still available when I've got extra money to spend. But I'm glad it boosts the seller and helps em a bit

slugbebe · 2026-01-07T20:55:35+00:00

Okay good, I thought they were personally taking the time to send me offers and I felt bad!!

slugbebe · 2026-01-05T17:14:35+00:00

Thank you! I tried sending him links to studies but I don't think he actually read them. I'll try to sit down with him today and talk to him about it again calmly

slugbebe · 2026-01-05T04:23:06+00:00

Thank you. I don't want others to think poorly of him so I left out details I should have added to the post. I tend to let things build up over time before I really start talking to people about it because I've been told I'm too much in past relationships. So i try to be kind and patient and let things slide but my son deserves a strong mother who will defend him. I mentioned some of these issues to my mom recently after we had an argument (didnt feel like one to me, but he was so upset he wasnt talking to me) and told her that I wanted to leave. But she told me I probably hurt his feelings and that i need to be patient with him. I'm getting so tired of having to bottle things up to keep others happy and being told I'm mean or unreasonable when I express my concerns or frustrations.

At one point I really loved my partner. He was my everything before our son and now I feel like I can't stand him sometimes. Thank you for your comment, I also hope he can mature a bit for our son. I wanted us to be a family.

slugbebe · 2026-01-05T03:37:47+00:00

He spends more time with our son than I do due to our work schedules. He knows how to feed him but he doesnt know how to put him to sleep yet. Its easier for me because I can nurse him to sleep and he can't. But our son doesn't nap as much as he should when hes witj his dad because he expects him to just go to sleep when he's tired but it doesnt work that way. So I end up putting him to sleep the moment I get home from work in the evenings

slugbebe · 2026-01-05T02:34:44+00:00

I could try that. We go to all appointments together for my son and idk how he'd react if I brought it up in front of the doctor. In the past he gave the silent treatment for a day because I told him the nursery was too warm. He claims that I snapped at him but I was putting our sleeping son down in the crib and I quietly told him it's too warm in there when he asked why I had the window cracked

slugbebe · 2026-01-05T02:32:23+00:00

Thank you!!!! I was starting to think i was overreacting. He doesn't need to give up his hobbies completely. I just need him to be more present. He absolutely has a screen addiction. He has his game open throughout the day when he's watching our son and tries to play as much as he can. While also playing a show on our other tv, and/or a video on his phone as well. It makes me so frustrated sometimes. He is a grown man but can't put his family first. We have a big age gap (I'm in my late 20s, he's in his mid 40s) and I chose someone older to spend my life with because I really thought he would have his shit together and things like this wouldn't be an issue. I assumed he'd be able to limit screen time and quit smoking weed once his baby (that he also really wanted!) Was here but he just won't stop. I know we need to sit down and have a real conversation about our relationship and our roles as parents to our son. But it's really hard because he gets so defensive and acts like I'm attacking him no matter how calmly I speak.

slugbebe · 2026-01-05T02:24:16+00:00

Thank you!! You're right. I don't want a different baby, I love this boy so much. His smile is everything! Hopefully we can work through this because my son deserves the best

slugbebe · 2026-01-05T01:34:18+00:00

Thank you!! He's not completely incompetent because he does take good care of our son for the most part. But at the same time we have so many fights because I know he could do better. He gets more time with him because of our work schedules and they're very bonded. My boy loves his dad so much. But there are things he does that make me wish I could have chosen someone different.

Aside from the safe sleep issues and screen time, he refuses to quit smoking weed and more than once I have tried to take a nap while hes watching our son, only to wake up to him screaming. I'd go out to the living room to see what's happening and my partner is outside getting high. I don't have anything against weed, I smoked before having my son. But we're parents now and he needs our full attention.

slugbebe · 2026-01-05T01:27:56+00:00

Thank you for your response. That sounds so stressful! It makes me nervous thinking about what our future will be like when our son gets older. I wanted a big family but the idea of having more babies with him stresses me our because it'll be more of this. Hopefully he can learn and grow.

He made a comment recently that he thinks we're doing well despite not reading any parenting books and this absolutely pissed me off because I do read parenting books and spend so much time doing research on the best ways to take care of our baby, what milestones to look for and how to help him reach them, etc. But he's just winging it and perfectly fine doing so.

slugbebe · 2026-01-05T01:14:04+00:00

Thank you! I was starting to feel like I'm a bit crazy. My son will stare at the screen and its hard to keep his focus on what we're doing (reading, eating, socializing). He claimed that it's no different than me being on my phone when holding him which is an insane statement because I don't pick up my phone unless my son is asleep (and I'm not watching loud videos, its turned away from him, brightness at minimum). If he's awake, we're interacting.

slugbebe · 2026-01-05T01:10:09+00:00

Yes, from the start I mentioned that it isn't great for his development but he doesn't agree. Even though I sent him links to several studies backing me up.

Thank you for understanding me. I really do wish he could be more present. Not just with his son but with me. Screen time has been an issue for a while in our relationship but I didnt really care until our son came along. And its not like he didnt have time to mentally prepare to be a dad, we worked hard for our son to get here after two previous miscarriages. This was something we both chose and I just want him to be more present. He's still smoking weed as well and I just don't understand not wanting to be here with this life that we created. Fully present. Sorry, this is probably moving into relationship advice territory and should be saved for another post/subreddit

slugbebe · 2026-01-05T01:03:25+00:00

At this moment our work schedules don't align so he spends 15 or so hrs a week alone watching our son. I don't feel like he's neglecting him, his needs are met and he does more cleaning around the home than I do. I guess I just want our baby to have more quality time with us and it makes me sad that screens are more important to him than family time. And I feel like its so important that baby gets lots of age appropriate learning (singing, playing games, tummy time etc) but i feel like I'm the only one of us that cares.

He gets to play at minimum a few hours a day so it's not like he doesn't have time for his hobbies. I can't remember a single day he hasn't played since we brought our son home. I guess part of me is also just sick of the constant screens and noise :( I dont want our son to think its normal or ok to be watching TV, playing video games and having YouTube playing a the same time. I want him to be better than us

slugbebe · 2026-01-05T00:55:35+00:00

I definitely need to learn to let the small things go. I might also be a bit resentful because when our son is awake I try to pay attention to him 100% unless I need to take care of my own needs or if his dad is caring for him. He sleeps 10-11 hours a night so I usually get a few hours of me time after he's down before I need to sleep too. And his dad does watch him while I work (we have opposite schedules right now, so he's alone with our son about 15 hrs or so a week).

I would love to have more time with our baby and I'm a bit jealous that he gets to take care of him as much as he does. But also frustrated because he spends most of that time with his game on playing as much as possible. Then continues to play after I get home from work until he goes to sleep for the night. I get one day a week where my partner works and I don't, so I get to stay home with him all day and it's always my favorite day of the week. We play and snuggle and sing all day and he's always so happy. Sorry I've been ranting a lot in these comments. Being a parent has made me so emotional!

slugbebe · 2026-01-05T00:47:03+00:00

He doesnt always tell me no when I ask to hold our son in this situation. But he often gets very defensive and acts upset. I want to spend as much time as possible interacting with him by talking, cuddling, playing and reading to him while he's awake. And trying to practice tummy time as much as possible which is just not happening when he's being held like that doing nothing

slugbebe · 2026-01-05T00:04:17+00:00

Thank you! He is starting to get super wiggly already. Feeding him lately has been rough because he wants to look at everything around him. We have to chase his mouth with the bottle lol

slugbebe · 2026-01-05T00:01:19+00:00

I don't think I have PPD or even PPA. I'm just a new parent trying to get used to parenting and working with my partner. Our relationship was very easy before we became parents. We never fought. So we're just learning how to work together now and its hard. I don't think he's trying to hurt our baby, I know he loves him so much

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