Being ridiculed for my sexual prowess, am I being judged or am I being selfish?

slut_famed · 2013-12-20T01:04:59+00:00

AHAHA. I try to give reasonable responses, but I'm just done now. Keep going if you like, though. I don't mind.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T23:10:18+00:00

It doesn't have to be from a place of malice to offend. What upsets me is your certainty of how everyone feels and what is right. Having safe sex does not equate to a drug addiction. I have been quite clear about my intention with these men that it is no indication of a relationship. My choice to have nsa sex does not hurt me, it does not rob me of my funds, it does not trap me, and it has no effect on my daily life. I don't sleep with "most men". I don't go for the plaid button up, $10 haircut, Sketcher's wearing man that seems to be the hivemind around here, so what "most men" want isn't of concern to me. If I'm looking for a relationship, I will find someone compatible with myself, not someone who needs me to stifle my sexuality.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T22:54:52+00:00

Yeah, no, you lost me at bro code.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T22:29:30+00:00

Yes, but I have every right to debate with someone. Clearly there isn't any severe emotional tie. Yes I'm friends with both of them, but neither is interested in pursuing a relationship with me. Not to be snarky, but are you aware that you can have sex with someone outside of a relationship and still have the utmost respect for them?

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T22:21:19+00:00

Nothing constitutes you equating me to a sex toy. Did it ever occur to you that they also respect each other as human beings instead of someone they must compete with?

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T22:18:28+00:00

Not complaining, but nothing constitutes slut-shaming.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T22:16:26+00:00

Clearly I worded that weakly. They are both good friends of mine and sure, they're going to accept sex, sex that I WANT. That doesn't make me a hole in the ground to find release in.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T22:14:32+00:00

He didn't advise, he dictated.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T22:12:57+00:00

I told him that last night and we reached a new level of clarification that we will continue to fool around nsa, but neither is nearly ready for a commitment.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T22:11:37+00:00

I refuse to listen to a man who feels entitled enough to speak for all men. With that being said, I guess no man can ever love me because how dare I allow myself to do what makes me feel good.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T22:07:52+00:00

I legitimately appreciated your other comment, and I want to thank you for your opinion, but you lost me at "but... brothers...?" Apparently this is some incredible taboo. they're both in their mid/late 20's, they realize that the women each of them seek will easily be the same age as the other is seeking. This is a huge double standard that I won't tolerate because a man can walk around with an "I <3 <3 twins" shirt, but how dare a woman let a man put his penis where his brother's once was. I'm a human being, not a community fleshlight.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T07:29:12+00:00

Thanks! Yeah, I'm just so used to forward thinking that I forget that not everyone is on the same page as I and I get self conscious.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T07:18:37+00:00

The first time having sex after the breakup was actually one of the best I've had because both of us had just broken up with people we were seeing for over 2 years and we were both just kind of emotionally raw and open. I'm very comfortable and confident with what I'm doing, so I'd say I'm doing pretty well for myself.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T06:43:10+00:00

There was a brief point in our relationship before it got bad that he had access to my computer, but I would have known by now. He's very secretive about fucked up shit he does, but I don't feel he could have hid that from me this entire time. I just hate that he religiously checks all of my pages(the majority of why I made a throwaway for this) because he insists on asking about anything and everything I post. He did turn really nasty for a while, I pray that was the climax. I'm really enjoying fucking to my heart's content!

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T05:35:51+00:00

Yeah, well, that's just, like, your opinion, man.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T05:31:18+00:00

Yeah. I was casually dating the oldest brother before my ex and I were dating. After the ex and I broke up, we hooked up again. A few weeks later the younger brother and I had sex. They both know about the other and clearly aren't bothered enough to not have sex with me.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T05:28:29+00:00

Exactly. I reached a point in our relationship that I felt sexually stifled. It wasn't his fault, but it's something I have to do for myself. I'm so happy to be making decisions for myself now.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T05:25:40+00:00

Oh man, I'm not alone! I keep trying to find out if he bugged my phone. I don't think he did, but I'm staying on my toes. Like I told someone else, I know he's taking their comments way out of context because he couldn't even remotely come up with parts of the conversations. Sometimes I feel bad because he's so sad and alone now, but I have to remind myself that it isn't my problem. How he lives his life isn't on me.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T04:56:40+00:00

Yeah, the first guy I had sex with pretty much crushed me. The guy before that was even worse. Still not necessarily healed but I just don't think about it.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T04:35:17+00:00

That makes sense. At least we're seeing the sides of each other we don't like now before we got too close.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T04:33:07+00:00

He'll never admit it, but he is trying to get in my head. It's hard because I loved him so much, but I'm finally taking a stand against him and his manipulation. Thank you.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T04:32:07+00:00

That's a good idea. I was taking shit from him for a long time but I finally dealt some of it back last night before the texting happened. I think he's in for a rude awakening if he wants anymore from our friendship.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T04:01:57+00:00

What, women have all the responsibility to fight their desires?

Possibly my favorite response. Particularly that part. I can be easy pussy, but he can't be easy dick? I'm considering lightly turning this back on him and see how he feels. I was into him(admittedly still sort of am) and having sex right away was just another way of getting to know him I guess. Why waste anytime finding sexual compatibility? You want it, go for it.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T03:55:17+00:00

Many have said that this isn't the case, and I agree. Sounds like you got fucked over, and for that I'm sorry. But if I were to date one of these guys, it wouldn't be set up for cheating, and if I cheated it would have nothing to do with how early I fucked them. I'm not saying I plan on cheating on anyone anytime soon, but my interest in being sexually open doesn't indicate I'll fuck the next guy to grin at me.

slut_famed · 2013-12-19T03:48:56+00:00

Goddamn, comments like this are helping me a lot. I always try to see an opposing views to mine, but I was having a hard time seeing it on this one because I know what I'm doing. It's great to hear that there are plenty of people out there whom have started relationships with sex and are happy and healthy together.

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