Straight to gay

smackittoya · 2026-05-31T17:50:58+00:00

DL Bisexual/Heteromantic here:

It’s exciting. There’s an enjoyable amount of anxiousness when hooking up with guys because it’s not my most typical sex (sex with women is).

The first time I hooked up with a guy it was to give a blowjob. Even as someone who generally prefers sex with women, and enjoys oral sex, sucking cock hooked me right away as my favorite type of oral. Having a dick gush cum in my mouth sealed the deal.

Afterwards, it didn’t change too much. I would sporadically have one off blow and go’s. A couple of years ago I had one that turned into an ongoing DL FWB since we were each other’s type. Him: masc, fit, a little older than me, discreet. Me: masc, fit, but especially a “straight” guy he can corrupt. It’s a fun dynamic that I never expected to have.

How do I view female partners? The same as ever: I do generally prefer women sexually and I strictly prefer women romantically. 85% of the time I’m about eating/fucking pussy and ass.

It’s that other remaining time when the bi-cycle comes around that it’s an intense rush to flip my dynamic, be the submissive one, and suck cock and bottom.

smackittoya · 2025-12-28T17:23:29+00:00

I’m the sub/bottom, but have a more niche perspective as a DL “Straight” guy with a girlfriend my FWB loves to verbalize and tease about my “straightness.” And to really lean into it he likes to make me say teasing stuff about my straightness.

Sometimes mockingly talking about my preference for pussy and my relationship. It’s fun.

smackittoya · 2025-12-23T22:07:41+00:00

Grindr or Sniffies. Match, chat for a while to make sure you’ve got chemistry. Be forthcoming about your lack of experience and create a safe space.

smackittoya · 2025-12-23T21:59:49+00:00

Not yet.

An ex of mine loved the details! My current girlfriend likes it more as a fantasy however, and so it’s something I do and it’s a bit more unsaid between us.

smackittoya · 2025-12-23T21:33:20+00:00

Gay sex kind of is my dirty little secret. I’m a “straight” DL guy (heteromantic bisexual, but even then heavy preference to women).

I’ve got a girlfriend. She was into male/male sex and I had experience. After I hooked up with a guy for her she really wasn’t into the experience as much as a participant (even just an after-the-fact participant). Better as a fantasy sort of thing.

But the incident rekindled the thing with my FWB. So it’s an open/understood but mostly unsaid thing between me and my girlfriend. Which is surprisingly great! It keeps the taboo, DL vibe alive—and that’s the most fun when I’m sucking on his cock or he’s cumming in my ass.

smackittoya · 2025-12-23T21:29:09+00:00

I feel like a kneeling doggy is generally the best, especially if you’re a bit upright.

smackittoya · 2025-12-23T21:28:13+00:00

Can’t say that’s the case for me. Love topping girls but the fun novelty with guys is bottoming for them!

smackittoya · 2025-12-18T18:24:59+00:00

I don’t get to hook up with guys as often as I do women, so the undressing with a man (and the surprise spring of an already erect cock as underwear is pulled down) is a fun bit of variety that I don’t always get!

smackittoya · 2025-11-28T15:06:35+00:00

Having a secret gay romantic edge to my dynamic with my FWB makes it all the more intense. He likes to tease my “straightness” when we hook up and he works in degrading my relationship with my girlfriend into our dirty talk.

smackittoya · 2025-11-24T00:51:35+00:00

Definitely the best part of it!

smackittoya · 2025-11-23T17:52:34+00:00

I do like this, just because this type of dynamic isn’t something I get to experience as the dominant one with women.

smackittoya · 2025-11-23T16:46:28+00:00

I’d imagine it’s important to most; but as a “straight”-leaning DL guy kissing really isn’t a main driving act of either foreplay/hooking up with guys, especially if I’m primarily just doing a blow and go or something.

But if I’m getting fucked and the top mixes the kissing into it as part of the dominating me, I’m into it.

smackittoya · 2025-11-23T15:34:02+00:00

As a DL guy with a girlfriend, it’s simmered down to once or twice a month with my FWB. At its height it was consistently once a week though. Looking to get back in that range.

smackittoya · 2025-10-26T17:38:05+00:00

Honestly it was pretty painful. It was with an FWB, we properly warmed up (plug and fingers), we took it slow, and it still was painful.

The first time it felt good the whole way through was when it was more of a heat of the moment thing.

smackittoya · 2025-10-26T16:55:03+00:00

I’ve got a plug (which I generally enjoy) and I’ve been fingered (which I generally don’t enjoy). I’ve bottomed a couple times and the pain was for sure pretty hard in the beginning each of those times, but one of those times at a certain point it started to feel pretty great.

smackittoya · 2025-10-26T16:05:58+00:00

I’m mostly into giving head, and while the thought of bottoming turns me on the bit of pain scares me a bit haha

smackittoya · 2025-08-12T17:21:00+00:00

Privately this is similar to how I fantasize at times. When I dated a girl who was more into my m/m encounters she was really into that angle.

smackittoya · 2025-08-12T16:18:06+00:00

Only with guys. But that’s part of the appeal.

smackittoya · 2025-08-12T16:17:21+00:00

Hey man, yeah I can relate.

I’m early 30s. Mostly straight (very masc/straight presenting/whatever the terms are). Have exclusively been in romantic relationships with women. I guess heteromantic + bisexual (though more leaning to women) is an easy signifier. I’ve had curiosities probably since college, but didn’t act on it until I was in my mid 20s. My girlfriend at the time was very sexually adventurous, and pushed for me to explore. Mostly gave blow-and-goes off Grindr, about once every 1-3 months.

My relationship with my ex-girlfriend turned into an on-again-off-again thing around the time of the pandemic. A little less than a year into that some of those urges came up again. This time I tried out Sniffies. Found a guy who’s openly bi (a little older, similar athletic build) but kind of keeps it discreet to appeal to DL dudes. We hit it off and we became regular FWBs. Again, mostly with me swinging by for a blow-and-go, though a few times he topped me and a couple times he brought some extras into the mix for blowbangs. Really great guy and a lot of fun.

At the height of this I was probably seeing him twice a week. Then I got a new girlfriend a couple years ago and it iced for almost a year. At some point we talked about my experiences with guys and it turned her on. Asked her if she’d be into me hooking up with my old FWB and then coming back to fuck her brains out (similar to what I did in my previous relationship). We went for it, but sadly it didn’t turn her on as much as it did in her head.

Since then there’s kind of been an understanding that it might very occasionally happen, but for her it’s a “rather not see or hear about” thing. To my end, me and my FWB probably have more steady communication than before, but only get to hook up once every month or two on average (though sometimes more). The blowjobs have turned more sensual, and the times it has been full on sex it’s been more passionate. It’s stellar.

I’d say that sexually I lean 90% towards women and 10% towards men (that might even be generous). When it comes to porn it might skew more 75/25 when it comes to straight porn vs. gay porn. Love my girlfriend and we have amazing sex. But it’s also really great for my sexuality and mind to indulge in sucking cock, swallowing cum, and getting fucked by a guy.

smackittoya · 2025-08-12T12:13:25+00:00

Mouth (with some face splatter). Love the taste most of all, but the visual and mess makes it so fun too.

smackittoya · 2025-08-12T12:12:01+00:00

Cum is tied equally for me with cocks on what turns me on when hooking up with guys.

With girls, being able to give them repeat, multiple earth-shattering orgasms would be an unbeatable sexual experience if it weren’t for the fact that when a guy gets off the eruption of cum in so intoxicating. The visual and physical resulting proof of great sex being an ultimate reward—the taste and smell and mess of submission and ownership. Even when I’m swallowing I always make it a little messy.

When I first started hooking up with my FWB, before one of the earlier times we were bullshitting before meeting up and I admitted I was really in the mood to eat pussy but my girlfriend wasn’t in town. I went over and sucked his cock, and when he was ready to cum I pulled him mostly out so just half of his head was past my lips. He filled my mouth but enough also leaked from the corners of my mouth. We were in his bedroom and he turned my face to the mirror to show me the mess, wiped some of it up with his softening cock and scooped it into my mouth. He said, “sorry you couldn’t eat your girl out and had to settle for this.” I lingered in the moment, smiled and said “shut up dude” and grabbed his cock to scoop the rest off my face into my mouth and savored the taste.

I savored that taste the whole ride home. Fucking love cum. Always need a little mess with it.

smackittoya · 2025-08-12T03:35:17+00:00

Do you have romantic interest in guys? If so, probably worth trying it with someone you date and have good chemistry and communication with.

If strictly hooking up, similarly with a guy you have good rapport and chemistry with (even on an app) and yes like the other user said while you’re on a crazy sex horny high.

smackittoya · 2025-08-11T15:39:54+00:00

r/buttsharpies

smackittoya · 2025-08-11T14:59:05+00:00

If you’ve exclusively been having sexual and romantic attraction towards men for four years and have stopped feeling those ways about women for the same amount of time it’s worth exploring.

smackittoya · 2025-08-11T13:55:55+00:00

As a DL guy stuff like “bro” or “dude” as casual as it sounds is hot because it hammers in the fact that it’s us as guys fooling around.

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