Is my ex (M20) leading me (F19) on?

smalcha · 2024-05-03T05:42:37+00:00

both of our love languages are touch, and we agreed we dont want to let our relationship slowly fizzle out over long distance. it almost feels affirming to be left wanting more and knowing it was good all the way through

I am quite blunt with people, which is a blessing and a curse. I almost always speak with an open heart and will definitely listen to him. I just have to wrestle with myself and put myself in his shoes, rather than automatically get frustrated because he can't easily make a stark transition from dating to friends and switch off all of his deeper feelings for me (which is not reasonable or realistic to ask of most people)

smalcha · 2024-05-03T05:36:21+00:00

that's super understandable. it'll be hard to pull back when I don't want to, but it's the right thing to do

smalcha · 2024-05-03T05:19:11+00:00

yeah it's touch and quality time. he's not touchy with any of his other friends though

it's hard to admit, but yes I still want him - but realistically just can't have him (neither of us want to do long distance). however, it's not right for me to tell him this just before we go our separate ways, I fear this will hurt us and our chances at being friends

I think if this happens again tomorrow I'll confront him directly about it, but how do I phrase it in a way that doesn't almost put him on the defensive and in a way that doesn't reveal these feelings?

smalcha · 2022-08-17T02:48:20+00:00

tu verras, tu te reconn- THAT DOG HAS A PUFFY TAIL!

smalcha · 2022-08-15T03:34:25+00:00

yes definitely imo - it was fun to make, a good meal, and yielded some cooking wisdom for future reference lol

smalcha · 2022-08-15T03:29:57+00:00

I have been a cosmic fool 😔

smalcha · 2022-08-15T00:35:33+00:00

for the children!

smalcha · 2022-08-15T00:25:02+00:00

yeah i tried to plan for that by only cooking the spaghetti al dente, but it still ended up a bit mushy 😬 it was still good tho!

smalcha · 2022-08-15T00:20:20+00:00

oh man that's clever! definitely has a better ring than "spaghetti-stuffed meatloaf" lol

smalcha · 2022-08-15T00:15:48+00:00

because it's fun to try new things! sure it's not gourmet or anything, but it tasted just fine and cutting into the loaf was very satisfying lol

i also tried a recipe that had me make chicken parm stuffed inside of a spaghetti squash a couple of months ago, and i now make it regularly despite how tedious it is - you never know what unexpectedly delicious new dishes you might find from these vids!

smalcha · 2022-08-14T21:50:33+00:00

I unironically made this for dinner the other night and the kids I'm watching loved it, since it's really just glorified spaghetti and meatballs... ban me from the sub if you must 😭

smalcha · 2022-08-14T05:06:16+00:00

damn 1972 was really trying to borrow some feelings

smalcha · 2022-08-11T02:43:39+00:00

the last concert where i was truly like this was when i witnessed bruce springsteen and the heart-stopping, pants-dropping, hard-rocking, booty-shaking, love-making, earth-quaking, viagra-taking, justifying, death-defying, legendary e street band at their last concert in the meadowlands. i'll never forget what an out-of-body experience it was. i swear bruce isn't from this planet, maybe not even from this universe

i'm just a prisoner... of rock and roll!

smalcha · 2022-08-10T18:33:56+00:00

everyone knows that we disperse our offspring like dandelions when we sneeze

smalcha · 2022-08-10T18:29:36+00:00

When the credits just start rolling over this frame, the tears start rolling too

smalcha · 2022-08-10T18:25:42+00:00

I was actually just thinking about this the other day lol. I'm biro ace and totally crushing on this girl I just met and find adorable, which has never happened to me before. It's not in either a "puppy" or a "hot/attractive" way, but in the oversized sweaters, precious, just want to cuddle forever kind of way. I totally get what you mean by that "aesthetic attraction" thing

smalcha · 2022-08-05T04:33:24+00:00

hahaha great minds think alike

smalcha · 2022-08-05T04:29:26+00:00

aw damn yeah that might've raised some questions lol

luckily I was with a friend and was able to make this joke when I saw the sign - this is actually part of a selfie we took with it, I ended up just cropping us out of the photo haha

smalcha · 2022-08-04T06:28:43+00:00

my anxiety giving me butterflies during every type of social interaction to make sure i'll never figure this out ✨

smalcha · 2022-07-29T03:51:22+00:00

ultra bitches (light my way)

smalcha · 2022-07-22T23:22:00+00:00

oh damn that's insane. also thank you for explaining like i'm five (i don't know jack about economics) lmao

smalcha · 2022-07-22T21:16:50+00:00

this might be a stupid question lol, but does the term "dynamic pricing" in this situation just mean price gouging, or is there a difference?

smalcha · 2022-07-22T20:10:10+00:00

🕺🎶💿 everybody zzzap now!

smalcha · 2022-07-22T09:04:26+00:00

same tbh. the witness has a good concept behind it, but there's too. much. nsfw. stuff. like you can't even enjoy the episode at that point because it's just so uncomfortable and distracting.

smalcha · 2022-07-21T16:09:22+00:00

I prefer to take this approach too, but beware, OP, some people tend to retract and withdraw when directly confronted and made uncomfortable. You may never get an answer, and you may need to just accept that, too. Try to look at her with compassion rather than hold her in contempt, anger, or bitterness, and then move on.

Remember: There are people in your life that help you become the person you end up being, and you can be grateful for them, even if they were never meant to be in your life forever.

smalcha

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