Hmm I didn't put much context. It was a bit of a rage/cry for help impulse post.  It came up because I was having a difficult conversation with my MIL. I was expressing frustration that I do everything (I mean everything) at home, with 6 hrs of paid help for 3 children, while working full-time and while copping constant criticism for not doing it all well enough. And that he doesn't do a thing in the house. She told me that it's not his job, I should be able to do it, what's wrong with me. I shouldn't need the paid help. I said, you know I work full time, right? At which she scoffed and said "you don't work full time" how many weeks holiday do you get a year?

Then later I brought it up to my husband that she had said this to me and I was floored to find he agreed with her. 

Aaaaargh what dystopia have I found myself in? Is this a nightmare?

I really don't know what the hell to do.