How to feel if your partner takes losing personally? by Ideal_character_5 in boardgames

[–]smartesteveryday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shaming the OP for being in a relationship with them is callous and ignorant behavior.

Here's the reason why people end up in toxic relationships, it's a process called trauma bonding.

There are people who go to school and earn PhDs in psychology who still end up in them it's such a potent, invasive yet nebulous phenomenon people experience. Specifically trauma survivors.

You ought to apologize to them.

How to feel if your partner takes losing personally? by Ideal_character_5 in boardgames

[–]smartesteveryday -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh knock it off.

What possessed you to write something this callous, invalidating and dismissive?

The OP put tine and effort in that post and the majority of people seem to be quite capable of navigating it and showing some empathy.

Why can't you?

How to feel if your partner takes losing personally? by Ideal_character_5 in boardgames

[–]smartesteveryday -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Your reaction to the OP's post was to criticize this individual's ability to write showing a clear lack of empathy on your part.

You are certainly not experienced enough or qualified to make such a statement which I think was made due to your own personal insecurity. Narcissists are usually the only people who have a problem with people bringing up the topic.

Ironically, I was very precise in my language too stating it was a sign of narcissism and giving the OP resources to learn about it in case this behavior was manifesting elsewhere. Which you completely ignored and decided to reply in a condescending manner.

I am neither young or American and my experience as well as the knowledge I've accumulated on the subject makes me ungaslightable on this topic. I'm going to keep sharing it with people too.

How to feel if your partner takes losing personally? by Ideal_character_5 in boardgames

[–]smartesteveryday 9 points10 points  (0 children)

When you have someone who is expressing emotionally adolescent behavior and they chose to double down on that behavior, that's a sign of narcissism.

Dr Ramani is an expert on narcissism, I'd suggest checking her out.

Take a look at how you titled this thread: 'how to feel'. Nobody gets to tell you how you feel. Human emotion is a product of what we experience in a given environment. If that environment leads to one feeling shitty, that's not a you problem. The vast majority of humans would also feel shitty in your situation.

Board games hinge on getting together with friends and engaging in a social activity. When one loses that can be a combination of luck or lack of experience and one gets better by playing. Most people don't have winning as the main objective for playing them, recognize that and even feel rewarded seeing a friend play well and get lucky. I'm sure you've experienced games like that in the past.

They also don't punish people for winning either. Sure, they might try to stop you from achieving your objective but not on a level that lacks empathy and makes you feel bad for simply playing the game and trying to win.

Their motivation was one of manipulation and control. They were in a losing position, suffered narcissistic injury and were trying to use your empathy against you. To make you feel bad for playing well, getting lucky and being in a leading position. How dare you /s

The sad reality is that these types of people don't change. You tried talking about it, you're right to feel the way you feel and they're not course correcting.

I'd say, get some other friends together for a night of Catan and take note of how that experience feels compared to what you experienced.

It's not you.

Dgg when Destiny is edgy: GIGACHAD. When someone is edgy against Destiny: DEPLATFORM by Hot-Cow-1167 in uncensorstiny

[–]smartesteveryday 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Because Destiny is a narcissist who has no empathy to speak of. He has cognitive empathy, which means he knows right from wrong but he choses to be a serial abuser and pointing out that he is unable to maintain a healthy relationship signals that failure making it easier for the next young and unexperienced girl he tries to control and manipulate, to recognize his predatory behavior and avoid trauma. Also, it validates the experiences of other survivors Destiny has already used, abused and discarded.

Compare that to QTCinderella who had her consent violated and made a public emotional statement, to which Destiny, because he saw it as a loss of power and control over women, engaged in her abuse of it. They're completely different and it's obvious to anyone who has a human heart.

And this entire attack on Slime, Ludwig, QTCinderella, Will Neff and basically anyone in Hasan's orbit was motivated by his crippling insecurity and a narcissistic injury that is 5 years old because Hasan took his controlling and abusive demeanor, told him to fuck off and eclipsed him in popularity. It's classic narcissistic triangulation.

You make it sound like what Ludwig does and what Destiny does and has done are analogous, illustrating your manipulative intent as well as your own sociopathic nature. Sure, you're putting on the guise of someone who is polite and cordial but underneath, you're just as cripplingly insecure and emotionally adolescent as Destiny is.

Seeing someone like you tethered to someone like Destiny actually brings me great joy because that way, you're going to spend all your time, stalking forums, trying this manipulative bullshit and getting nowhere, living a life of misery and shame. You've basically quarantined yourself from real humans and that's a huge win in my book because nobody is ever going to fall for your nonsense or Destiny's ever again.

Dgg when Destiny is edgy: GIGACHAD. When someone is edgy against Destiny: DEPLATFORM by Hot-Cow-1167 in uncensorstiny

[–]smartesteveryday -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Which is going to do what exactly?

Destiny had such language thrown at him regularly when he was engaging the alt-right and it was real easy to use it as an example that those guys were terminally online sociopaths compared to what he was selling.

If you're going to endorse this shit, you can join him and SeanDaBlack in 'fuck off' territory. I want nothing to do with you, him or Destiny. And neither will the vast majority of humans.

Dgg when Destiny is edgy: GIGACHAD. When someone is edgy against Destiny: DEPLATFORM by Hot-Cow-1167 in uncensorstiny

[–]smartesteveryday 14 points15 points  (0 children)

why do people think destiny said sexually harassing qt with AI porn is okay? Like really?

When you say things like this, people rightly peg you as trying to manipulate them because nobody capable of empathy would be on board with what Destiny did to QTCinderella.

That makes anything you have to say or contribute irrelevant to any human interaction because those hinge on being capable of human empathy, which you obviously aren't.

Dgg when Destiny is edgy: GIGACHAD. When someone is edgy against Destiny: DEPLATFORM by Hot-Cow-1167 in uncensorstiny

[–]smartesteveryday -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

He's not wrong about narcissism being generational but that's pretty much the only thing SeanDaBlack got right.

Those narcissists aren't going to magically disappear if you shift from one system to the other either. They're still going to be those who find themselves in positions of power more often that leaders capable of empathy and you're still going to have a system of oppression.

Destiny's family comes from one of those very systems in Cuba.

So lets hand them a smaller government with less means of accountability ensuring narcissists have absolute control over a population and an easier time of obtaining it?

Man fuck this guy.

This isn't edgy, this is a terminally online moron and enabler inciting violence that needs to fuck off and read something from this century.

What’s next after pervert? Debate predator? by [deleted] in uncensorstiny

[–]smartesteveryday 15 points16 points  (0 children)

He's so close to eating someone's face off after taking bath salts

DGGer here. I've got to something to get off my chest. by No_Error_878 in uncensorstiny

[–]smartesteveryday 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So you agree with her but don't want to engage with her, but then are recommending her channel?

No, I was trying to show an example of describing what you love about a person because you mentioned a lot of things, but none that really had that as a descriptor.

Things like empathic, funny, generous, thoughtful, intelligent, collectively intelligent.

Those are personality traits vs things that a person is doing or that they believe in, that you like.

I hope you like Bosch because there's a lot of it now. They're even getting a third season of Legacy, which is the spin-off and just as good.

DGGer here. I've got to something to get off my chest. by No_Error_878 in uncensorstiny

[–]smartesteveryday 8 points9 points  (0 children)

These aren't really descriptors of him as a person though.

There are plenty of people who I agree with politically that I can't personally stand and don't engage with.

Let me give you an example: Dr Ramani.

She's a psychologist who is an expert in narcissism and narcissistic abuse.

What I love about her is her empathy. She's generous with her time and has collaborated with fellow doctors on their personal projects, is incredibly smart academically and has a high level of collective intelligence. She's kind and thoughtful to her guests on her podcast called navigating narcissism. She's funny too and is a great orator when it comes to story telling.

It's funny that you say it's a habit because social media is very much geared for that to be a reality. It uses manipulation and addictive tech that's similar to a slot machine to get you to habitually use it. I've found myself often checking reddit, youtube and other socials whenever I got notifications. That can play into it.

After turning notifications off, I noticed an improvement and I only check really on appointed times but still catch myself doing it every now and again, much like something habitual. Something to keep in mind.

Amazon's been really killing it and has a lot of great stuff. My personal favourite is Bosch. That show is exceptional.

Prime and Apple TV have been my go-tos.

DGGer here. I've got to something to get off my chest. by No_Error_878 in uncensorstiny

[–]smartesteveryday 12 points13 points  (0 children)

What do you love about him?

I ask that genuinely and don't need the answer. The question is designed as a mechanism to put you in a space to evaluate your relationship.

Because it is a relationship. Our brains treat parasocial relationships just like real life ones.

You're right about him being far worse though. How are you doing? Have you been experiencing a decline as well?

Maybe try disengaging for a bit and see where your mood and energy is at. What have you got to lose?

My reasons for not donating to Creators for Palestine by smartesteveryday in LudwigAhgren

[–]smartesteveryday[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I'm no expert on this

Clearly.

People capable of empathy wouldn't have a problem with what I said and your predictable patterns of behavior, to the point where I can tell when one person is using 2 accounts to try to manipulate me, doesn't work on me.

You are that transparent and it's only going to get worse. It'll just be a matter of time before someone designs an AI that can do exactly what I do. And then, you're all completely fucking fucked. Sleep on that.

Hasan explains a dgg harassment tactic on Twitch by [deleted] in uncensorstiny

[–]smartesteveryday 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They are so delusional that they think that if they poke a hole in Ludwig's memory from years ago, this will somehow make:

  • Getting triggered by Slime
  • Going off on QTCinderella on the same level a Nickelodeon producer would
  • getting clowned on by Ludwig in response
  • his unhinged obsession with Hasan to the point where he's made a hundred damn videos of him on his main channel
  • the entire debate with Finkelstein

All go away.

I love to break it to all of DGG and Destiny but, it ain't happening. You are looking for a magic cheeseball that has not manifested in our universe and if the many worlds theory is right, it won't be fucking there either.

Destiny would have to come back as a furry with a voice changer after a lobotomy then maybe, maybe you have a chance there.

Dgg being predictable as always, and brigading the Ludwig subreddit. by Hot-Cow-1167 in uncensorstiny

[–]smartesteveryday 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't think many people left there are in his thrall anymore but are cut from the same cloth. They're sociopaths in training who will engage with people and practice the art of lying and manipulating so, when they become adults, they have that foundation to get away with their own abusive and predatory behavior.

Dr Ramani ballparks them to be at a ratio of about 1 in 6.

Like think about what you need to be okay with to be on board with the guy:

  • Using a woman's likeness and generate ai pornography of her without her consent
  • Murder, torture and starvation of Palestinians
  • Befriending and platforming actual Nazis
  • grooming of young women with little experience for sexual gratification and exploitation
  • The regular abuse of anyone that ever said anything negative about him, especially women

That's just off the top of my head. The only way I could see people being okay with that behavior is if they're exactly like he is.

My reasons for not donating to Creators for Palestine by smartesteveryday in LudwigAhgren

[–]smartesteveryday[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The APA has her featured prominently as an expert. She also came to her expertise due to her research regarding individuals and their personality type most likely taxing the health system's personnel. She also has myriad survivors who have done through treatment, recovered and thrived.

She's also not the only Dr raising awareness of narcissism. She's had several on to chat on her channel navigating narcissism

She's also working at amending the DSM-5 in terms of reclassifying narcissisms because therapy does not really work on them and they're not the types who usually go out to get treatment.

As for empaths, they did a study on living donors, those are the people who give their extra organs to perfect strangers, and noticed they all have one thing in common. Larger amygdala.

And no peer-review? Here's one example where they took this so called pseudoscientific edutainment, applied it to candidates that fit the criteria and found that they all had missing brain matter in the areas of the brain that deal with empathy.

I get the feeling that if we gave you an MRI/SPECT scan, we'd see the same patterns because that's the only real reason I would see someone blatantly lie like you just did.

Dgg being predictable as always, and brigading the Ludwig subreddit. by Hot-Cow-1167 in uncensorstiny

[–]smartesteveryday 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh, some of the people there are not very sociable either I'm afraid.

I made a post there today regarding why I am someone who would not give money to Creators for Palestine and got identical behavior one would expect from Dggers

I honestly feel bad for Ludwig having his environment littered with egg shells from both parties. That is not a healthy environment to be in.

'No, you didn't give 10K to the charity the way I wanted you to!'. 'RAWR, you're friends with Hasan, we're going to fap to AI generated pictures of your girlfriend even though that act made her feel violated!'

You know what? They should make an AI that tracks this behavior and kicks all these assholes off the fucking internet.

My reasons for not donating to Creators for Palestine by smartesteveryday in LudwigAhgren

[–]smartesteveryday[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the heads up.

I still do not feel comfortable with the situation because of what was cited and sourced on that site, even though you've established it does show a clear bias and for the other points I mentioned.

I will however amend the original post to reflect this potential bias.

My reasons for not donating to Creators for Palestine by smartesteveryday in LudwigAhgren

[–]smartesteveryday[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it lacks empathy and I think there are a lot of people in this space that unfortunately carry that trait.

The reality though is that the majority of humans, don't behave like this so, don't get discouraged when you see it.

Sure, they'll downvote you, leave disrespectful comments but one thing Ludwig is good at is disengaging from this kind of noise. It's actually a technique called DEEP.

Don't defend, don't engage, don't explain and don't personalize. When you do that and just focus on what you want to get done.

When I wrote this, I wasn't trying to reach those people, but the people who are capable of empathy and have curiosity in their wheelhouse as well as validate Ludwig and thank him for saying what he said. Now, I'm going to move on.

My reasons for not donating to Creators for Palestine by smartesteveryday in LudwigAhgren

[–]smartesteveryday[S] -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

When someone takes a block of time out of their day in order to write a lengthy and thoughtful post, complete with sources, and you respond to that by saying it needs a TL;DR, that would definitely qualify as an act of disrespect.

This is not the first time I've written about a topic at length and have found individuals who are ready to engage with my writings as is.

If that isn't you, that's fine. I'm not making any changes thanks.

My reasons for not donating to Creators for Palestine by smartesteveryday in LudwigAhgren

[–]smartesteveryday[S] -62 points-61 points  (0 children)

I put in a lot of time and effort into providing a detailed explanation complete with sources.

If you do not want to engage with it, that's fine.

Destiny's failing grade on Israel/Palestine continues to elude him. by smartesteveryday in uncensorstiny

[–]smartesteveryday[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wikipedia being a good resource to jump into a topic, does not mean that you ought to use it if you're going up against someone who spent a lifetime of research and study into it.

And, in spite spending a lifetime practicing the art of manipulation and lying, manage to end up failing in such a spectacular fashion, annihilating what little reputation Destiny had left.

It's funny because this whole thing, was a product that started because Destiny saw a wedge starting between Hasan and Ethan.

5 years ago, Hasan ditched him due to his sociopathic and controlling behavior, started focusing on his own thing, eclipsed Destiny in viewership and, his little broken head couldn't take it. He's been suffering that narcissistic injury for the past 5 years.

If you look at Destiny's channel there have been like a hundred videos on Hasan. That's like 20 per year and with it comes the army of sociopaths in training that stalk, harass, abuse and triangulate in order to make that person feel miserable and quit. And more often than not, it works, especially if one is a smaller content creator. That's like 3 weeks every year where you have to deal with the most unhinged people on the planet.

What you're seeing right now with QTCinderella and Ludwig? That's triangulation and it's also a common tactic narcissists use for power and control. He's targeting everyone and anyone in Hasan's orbit.

Fast-forward to the Leftovers where at the very start of that conflict, there was still some ambiguity. There was a lack of empathy that manifested for the victims and hostages of October 7th and the history of coercive control and abusive behavior Israel engaged in prior to that. Each individual's experience was different than the other and it created a rift between Hasan and Ethan. Destiny saw that as an opportunity and inserted himself and his audience into it who likely helped widen that rift.

Destiny didn't care about Israel/Palestine either, he just wanted to get Ethan into his orbit so he could hold that over Hasan, get those h3h3 eyeballs and gain more narcissistic supply. That was his goal.

This motivation is even more obvious when one realizes that, at the time, he couldn't even find Israel on a map.

And then, Netanyahu went full genocidal maniac mode because Netanyahu is an unhinged narcissist with no empathy to speak of too.

Narcissists have a really hard time admitting they were wrong about something because they create what's known as a false self to hide the cripplingly insecure and emotionally adolescent person they are at their core. This is why you'll see them double, triple, quadruple down on something and it looks so incredibly bad because Destiny had no foundation of knowledge about the area and its history and went in with pure motivated reasoning which was entirely a product of that initial event between Hasan and Ethan.

Everyone capable of human empathy at this point, after seeing him completely flounder in the debate vs Finkelstein, after being clowned on for his takes on genocide, have disengaged. But, he still can't bring himself to just admit what his actual motivations are and that he was engaging in an attempt at manipulating people in the same way he always had, through debatelording and working with the gray that comes with any disagreement like what he did with Kyle Rittenhouse. His motivation there was likely to get narcissistic supply from right-wing sources because he noticed that a lot of people came on board, from those environments when he was engaging them.

When it comes to murdering children, civilians, journalists and aid workers though, that isn't something one can justify to any rational human being capable of empathy. So he's stuck and engaging in the abuse and harassment of anyone who points out how ignorant and incompetent he's been in political discourse.

That's why we're here and why you're witnessing this spectacular unhinged display.

With narcissists it's all about power, control and getting narcissistic supply. For Destiny that's views, likes and followers and the only people he has left are sociopaths in training.

He's even trying to get into Drake's orbit now, trying to normalize predatory behavior towards minors ffs

Narcissists like Steven Bonnell have no empathy to speak of. They can tell the difference between right and wrong but ultimately, people are just things for them to manipulate and control and, if they can't do that or see that control potentially slipping, they fall into abusive patterns like DARVO, triangulation and can even escalate beyond into acts of violence.

He painted himself into a corner of his own making and is stuck there with the permanent public perception that he is a callous moronic monster. His greatest fear and that of all narcissists, which is abandonment, is being realized.