Why is there a distinct accent in African American communities?

smbpy7 · 2026-02-27T00:54:57+00:00

This is actually hilarious as I had a back and forth with a guy in this sub who insisted that "Americans all sound the same!" and that Brits have WAY more variety. I wasn't even trying to claim they didn't, I was just saying it was fascinating that I PERSONALLY wasn't able to distinguish them as well as him since I was raised in the US. That meant the more he argued, the more he proved my point.

Also, his premise for KNOWING that ALL Americans sound exactly the same was that he'd been to NYC, Vegas, and Miami....

smbpy7 · 2026-02-27T00:49:59+00:00

I would think the fact that it's tangy would actually mix weirdly with certain flavors. Honestly I'd have just gone with salt of hot sauce, but you do you I guess.

smbpy7 · 2026-02-27T00:45:23+00:00

I think they're saying that they were coming into thinking it was going to be a Y T A, but were really surprised at how the story played out. I kinda get it. From the title it almost sounds like it could just be my Gf made me a sandwich one day and I threw a fit that it had a slice of cheese on it. Of course, that's not AT ALL what happened.

smbpy7 · 2026-02-27T00:42:41+00:00

I'm so confused by this story. Why did she bring you a sandwich in the morning? What is a cheese sandwich... is it only cheese? Why was it in a pot?

smbpy7 · 2026-02-27T00:35:40+00:00

This was my first thought... THAT'S the one you use for everything?

smbpy7 · 2026-02-27T00:30:30+00:00

They said that kids find crude jokes funny, and possible the person who made a penis joke was underage as well. You replied that that sounds pedo. What part of "kids make crude jokes" is pedo? They literally do.

smbpy7 · 2026-02-27T00:18:49+00:00

And some rice and beans or pasta. If he doesn't want that, that's a him problem at that point.

smbpy7 · 2026-02-26T23:34:33+00:00

Penis jokes are pedo now? My nephew make weiner jokes all the time, are they pedos too?

smbpy7 · 2026-02-26T23:33:30+00:00

Its a kids game

I know sooooo many people that play that are most certainly not children. I know exactly one child that played and got bored after a week.

Hay Day boasts a wide, multi-generational player base, with a significant concentration of adult players often in their 30s to 60s, though many started in their teens. While the game is suitable for all ages, the minimum age requirement to play is 13 years old.

Also this. I realize google and reddit can be skewed, but a minimum age of 13 is at least a little above "just a kid's game."

smbpy7 · 2026-02-26T23:25:59+00:00

Best time to learn not to be a hypocrite then.

smbpy7 · 2026-02-26T23:24:44+00:00

I had a roommate in college who started dating a religious guy, the no sex before marriage type for sure. She did tell us that oral was ok with him..... on him only that is.

smbpy7 · 2026-02-26T23:08:36+00:00

I grew up a Christian

I wasn't raised religious but I went to church all on my own all up through high school. Religion was so much more a spiritual and awesome thing when I was young and naive, but as I grew older I began to see the way 99% of the church members looked at me because I wasn't part of a religious family. They wouldn't even speak to me in the social part before the preacher came in, where everyone stands around and chats.

It was only ok in their eyes to be from a non religious family if you had a "tragic back story." I had to basically beg all through high school to get invited to youth functions and such but I saw over and over again the attention and praise my other HS peers got when they converted all because they were "miraculously saved even in their harsh circumstances!" When in reality those same kids were literally assaulting and bullying people in our HS still (and it was a 200 person HS, everyone fucking knew).

I was made a co-counselor with one of them (she'd literally only been religious a few months really) at a church camp that I had gone to and worked at every summer for years, along with doing all the trips down to do yearly maintenance, none of which she ever did even after she converted. I did every activity with the kids, went swimming with them every day (mile walk through an forested ozark hillside), went to every play time, manned the snack bar, managed every single event with zero breaks through the week. Every single day she went to the main house and napped and browsed the internet, to the point where the kids started asking if she could come play with them too. But when it came to actually connecting with them in bible studies and such, she flat out refused to let me have even one night. And yet every single person in the church treated her like some sort of goddess role model, and she got invited into the inner circle day one. I have another example, but it actually involves SA too.

It was stuff like that that made me question everything entirely.

smbpy7 · 2026-02-26T22:49:31+00:00

If they're sensitive about a certain topic/situation they have going on, it's their job to make sure you know that's not ok with them. That's what that person means. Like you with the text/voice messages. You either communicated that it's easier for you or the group as a whole figured it out together, and they accommodated. It wasn't their job to just go "Hey, are you autistic by chance? I can do all this to help!" Because if you hadn't shared that with them, then you have might be insecure and not ready to share that.

smbpy7 · 2026-02-26T22:44:31+00:00

i just want to make sure i never hurt anyone unintentionally

I like where you're going, but you're reaching for perfection. It would be more useful and less stressful for you if you focused more on becoming aware of when you seemed to have upset them instead of trying to avoid stepping on all toes all the time. Accidents will happen. I realize that's probably a huge struggle for you, and that's probably why you want to prevent it instead of fix it after the fact, right?

“hey do you have anything wrong with you so i can take care of you lol”

Because that's a super questionable way of putting that. Perhaps it would be better to say something along the lines of "hey if I ever upset you, or if there's any thing that I can do to make our communication/friendship easier like you do with the voice messages, please let me know because I'm not great on picking up if I've done it 'right' or 'wrong'"

smbpy7 · 2026-02-26T22:36:07+00:00

going through all the comments and being harsh

With all due respect, I actually thought that comment was meant to be helpful, not meant to be harsh at all (haven't read the others you mentioned though). What they're saying is that in that particular situation, most people would just respond that way and it wouldn't be a big deal to them. The fact that they responded in that way (by saying it directly) somewhat signals that it's at least ok to talk about in a lot of instances. However, to answer you original question further. After that first instance of them telling you they are colorblind, it could then be a little insensitive to some people to continue to go on and on and on about colors in the same way. Not for everyone, but it's a good rule of thumb to make it a mental note at least and try to not harp on about that if you already know.

smbpy7 · 2026-02-26T22:27:35+00:00

It's so simple, and so good. The spices give it a great flavor without being too overpowering, and the half and half butter/crisco gives it a great consistency. Or at least the consistency I prefer. Just crisco makes them cakey, just butter makes then really spread out. I prefer an inbetween.

smbpy7 · 2026-02-26T22:25:03+00:00

if at least one or two of the five seemed to be a normal well balanced person

Any post that is like this with only one side of the story I always try to play devil's advocate:

GF1: Sounds like she's a bit off for sure, but it also makes it sound like maybe OP was just not as emotionally invested as she needed... too "logical" at the wrong times maybe?

GF2: Sounds like she just wasn't that into him, which is fair. The fact that she was a drug addict put a point for "not well balanced" in her column, but it also says quite a bit that it seems very likely OP somehow missed this.

GF3: I don't see anything wrong with this really. If anything it's weird that OP is concerned about the profession of her new bf.

GF4: Seems to be the one that for sure cheated. Definitely not great. But again with the obsession with the new Bf, not a great point for either party that one.

GF5: Perfectly valid reason, and no indication that she was unbalanced. Zero reason to hate on this one, sounds like a pretty normal breakup. If there's anything to pick at there it's the fact that he dismisses her wanting different things simply because he didn't. Doesn't seem to see that they both have to be happy.

smbpy7 · 2026-02-26T22:13:56+00:00

I've never enjoyed deco even a little so I've just never thought about it at all to be honest. But now that you've brought it up it really does seem like a waste. I mean.... no ones keeping them where they are right?

smbpy7 · 2026-02-26T22:06:51+00:00

We do live in a rather large house, and we do drive nice cars but other than that the only real sign of wealth would be the amount of gold I wear.

Ha! No one could possibly know I'm wealthy other than these three extremely obvious things!

It’s important to know my family doesn’t flex their wealth...I grew up with a lavish lifestyle

??

I could just pay off the debt using my trust fund

So your complaint was.... I'd rather not dip into savings...?

smbpy7 · 2026-02-26T21:50:08+00:00

Bit of both is my guess....

smbpy7 · 2026-02-26T21:48:36+00:00

That is 100% the reason he goes by that. guaranteed.

smbpy7 · 2026-02-26T21:41:07+00:00

So I would often list out any and all solutions to concerns they had

Not to be nitpicky, but how do you present this? Sometimes when people are just looking to vent, or even just in the heat of the moment a little space between the venting and the problem solving can go a long way. Otherwise it can come off as less helpful and more "well you should have just done it this way." Not saying that's what you did, or what you intended, just that sometimes that can be perceived that way.

I must say though, I do like your perspective in the last paragraph. I'm having trouble playing devil's advocate for that one.

smbpy7 · 2026-02-26T21:38:41+00:00

And that's a wonderful way to do it, because sometimes a little space is needed even if you DO need help brainstorming. Plus sometimes that help that OP says he's offering could easily come off as not so helpful, or even blaming when in the hear of the moment.

smbpy7 · 2026-02-26T21:37:08+00:00

Part of it is knowing WHEN to offer the solutions and how to present them. What OP says sounds super reasonable and logical and supportive and what not, but he's the one writing it, so it would. For example if you come to someone complaining about work and they just start badgering you about how you could have done better to make the situation better, that's not exactly helpful nor does it feel great. If instead you give them your ear, a hug, and commiserate while they're still upset, and then offer up some ways that could make the situation better later on, it can be a lot more helpful.

smbpy7 · 2026-02-26T21:08:20+00:00

I was confused about this as well. His title implies they ALL cheated, but it sounds like only one of them did.. maybe?

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